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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    You can be mysterious and be real. They aren't mutually exclusive. I've been called mysterious by multiple women and I was just doing my thing.

    I met this very attractive girl who worked on the same crew I did. All the other guys drooled over her at meetings, and some even got her personal number that is given to everyone for work purposes (but used it for personal reasons). I didn't care. I did my own thing and made small talk with her because I knew her name. She ended up going to my university and I would occasionally run into her, talk quickly, then leave because I was busy. One time I ran into her and noticed she was wearing a different color pair of crocs then the last time I saw her. I gave her shit about having multiple pairs of crocs and color coordinating them, she gave me massive IOIs (I already knew she was into me but she had a boyfriend and I didn't like that), but I left because I was busy.

    After she broke up with her boyfriend I got her number and dated her briefly. She gushed about "how mysterious I was" many times. I was being real and mysterious (although I wasn't TRYING to be). Basically by doing your own thing, being a man, having opinions, and not supplicating you become mysteries.

    [QUOTE=xavier;135243]I don't know what you mean by playing games, but mystery my friend is built when you dhv and then she ioi's you for your dhv and then you go cold.QUOTE]

    Apparently I was doing what Xavier explains here, although I wasn't aware of it. ^^very solid explanation!

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Yeah you are a natural it took me about 5 years to be able to go at it naturally and even now it's not always evident. Confidence and self respect worth and love. So easy to say, so so hard to do.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Did you fuck her? If not, what are you bragging about? Was she as hot as you say? Post a pic.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    At OP... it sounds like she took it offensively. It's such a numbers game online. The major problem is the girl has no basis for your meaning. She doesn't know what tone you typically use, and there is absolutely no body language, so that little playful grin you give after saying that gets lost in translation.

    Some girls would have loved that line, she didn't. If you had been talking to her for a while, she will most likely forgive it, you will just have to back pedal, and now you know what she doesn't like in a text. If you have been going back and forth for a few days now though, I would suggest going for the meet up or you may stall the attraction, forever becoming her text buddy.

    In terms of the mystery, I think DirectisBest gave a great example. Mystery is exactly what is sounds like, she has no idea what you are thinking. Typically, you appear confident and uninterested. Girls do it to us all the time. Your running your game and she is giving no ioi's but still standing there, talking, and being socialable. You're left wondering, "why the hell isn't she combing her hair behind her ear by now, or leaning in? She seems interested but isn't showing it." Same thing goes the other way.
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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bballking View Post
    At OP... it sounds like she took it offensively. It's such a numbers game online. The major problem is the girl has no basis for your meaning. She doesn't know what tone you typically use, and there is absolutely no body language, so that little playful grin you give after saying that gets lost in translation.

    This is so true! I think this is why I struggle with online game so much. I'm way too cocky-funny because that's my personality and these women don't know that so I come off as a dick. Women I've met in real life KNOW my personality and eat it up, even over text. It's something you have to be careful about.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    This is so true! I think this is why I struggle with online game so much. I'm way too cocky-funny because that's my personality and these women don't know that so I come off as a dick. Women I've met in real life KNOW my personality and eat it up, even over text. It's something you have to be careful about.
    Couldn't agree more. And I believe most of the times these cocky messages (specially openers) get misunderstood by girls, just because every other guy is using the same tone and smileys. And if you observe text conversations, almost every person sounds the same on text (since there's no body language or tonality involved).

    I think "playful" works better than "cocky". You don't appear like every other jerk who has no game in real and you keep your humor as well. Anyhow that's just my opinion.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    would you guys say the convo with her is dead or i can bring it back up?

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by spiya View Post
    would you guys say the convo with her is dead or i can bring it back up?
    What do you have to lose? May as well give it a shot!
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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    The fact that you're asking on this forum says that there might not be much to this...

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    The fact that you're asking on this forum says that there might not be much to this...
    I am really new to gaming, especially online so just wanted advise from someone who is experienced. I honestly can't tell where that convo stands and how i would pick it back up


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