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Thread: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

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    Default I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    I opened this girl on facebook, everything was extremely well. She was thrilled and I could state high value. She responded well to everything, and even jokingly suggested a date or going with me to an event that I have. Teh next day we talked great and she responded right away. She started taking her time to respond, and i saw coldness was coming. She did not reply to one of my texts. I asked if we were going to the event and she said that she didn+t know me so she wouldnīt go with me. We stoped talking and today i asked her what happened, and asked her out. She told me that she was very busy and not near the phone (fuck that), and that if i gave her a few days we could go out but the weekend was very busy. So I sent her a last text saying that i was not looking girls and we happened to connect, and that made me happy but I let her know that I wouldnīt be texting her again. Not said the words but it was undestood. She texted me right away a long text saying this:

    - Noooo, you are getting it wrong! I never meant you were looking for girls and I was really glad that you started talking to me. I would love to grab a coffee woth you during the week, it is just that with my kid, besides having my family to help me, Iīm alone with her, and itis hard to find time for me alone!
    Donīt give my chocolates away (she asked for chocolates for her little girl since I was travelling), you can give them to me when we see each other if you want to.

    Me- Your little one is not a problem at all. Weīll keep in touch


    Aaaaaand thatīs it. Iīm really bummed because I really really like this girl to be my girlfriend.


    Sorry about my english, Iīm from Argentina

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    PLease guys. Actually it doesnīt matter, I feel it already ended, but I would love to hear from you

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    From what it looks, you are in the friendzone (I guess). Did you try to flirt with her anytime? Any examples of that conversation?

    Anyways the most important point here is your level of investment in her. You are too needy and any girl would sense it from far off. Being needy is the most unattractive quality to a girl.

    How to become non-needy? Simply approach more girls, better if you actually get more girls so you won't have to bother about a single girl. Trust me, all this "true love", "really like her" is because there's no other girl in your life at the moment... Am I right? or am I right? (friendzoned girls don't include)

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    For a start, how long has this all been going on? Weeks? Months?

    Seems to me that you are pulling out and assuming WAY too much before you've even given this a chance...

    Solo parents ARE bloody busy so don't take it so personally... Anyway, answer my initial question so I can assess this situation better.
    You will never do ANYTHING in this world without COURAGE. - Aristotle

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Mystique, Itīs been just a week. So I donīt know. I get that she could be busy, but the first few days she had the time to text and initiate conversations by herself. She stoped doing that, but maybe it is true, it was only for a day.

    Sam, I donīt think Iīm in the friendzone, the intentios were pretty clear. Being needy maybe, i show interest when a girl is not just another girl for me and that could be a mistake.

    Do you guys have any solution ofr this? can I get the magic back. We did not talk yesterday and so far today. Iīm tinking on giving it a few days before evaluating sending a text again.

    Thank you for the help

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Alright I just assumed that since there was not enough info. If the intent was clear and she had been playing along, then you are assuming too much. She could really be busy.

    Noooo, you are getting it wrong! I never meant you were looking for girls and I was really glad that you started talking to me. I would love to grab a coffee woth you during the week, it is just that with my kid, besides having my family to help me, Iīm alone with her, and itis hard to find time for me alone!
    Donīt give my chocolates away (she asked for chocolates for her little girl since I was travelling), you can give them to me when we see each other if you want to.
    This sounds like a pretty convincing responce. When a girl is flaking, that's not how she responds. Your last message was just a statement so it's normal that she didn't reply. Give her sometime and then again ask her out/talk to her as you normally do and see her responce. You're just over thinking and it could ruin it for you in future (same neediness thing). Anyways just my opinion.

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Thanks a lot Sam, I will do that. Is it right that Iīm giving it a few days before reaching out again right? What changed is that before she would probably be texting to say hi or something like that, at least she did that once or twice.

    Alright, so if you say not everything is lost I will wait for her to reach out or i will text her wed or thursday in a normal way, something like "how are the two beautiful princesess doing? and then ask her out again

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Quote Originally Posted by Luckylou View Post
    Mystique, Itīs been just a week. So I donīt know. I get that she could be busy, but the first few days she had the time to text and initiate conversations by herself. She stoped doing that, but maybe it is true, it was only for a day.

    Sam, I donīt think Iīm in the friendzone, the intentios were pretty clear. Being needy maybe, i show interest when a girl is not just another girl for me and that could be a mistake.

    Do you guys have any solution ofr this? can I get the magic back. We did not talk yesterday and so far today. Iīm tinking on giving it a few days before evaluating sending a text again.

    Thank you for the help
    A week... of course she's playing it cool. She's backing off so you can lead. So lead it man! As Sam said, you are way over thinking (something we all do!) Keep texting her and showing your interest. Women fall in love with men who admire and show interest in them... so keep it up. One piece of advice... be interested in the child but tread carefully. A woman's babies are precious. Don't ever use them as tools (not saying you are, just something to keep in mind)

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Quote Originally Posted by Luckylou View Post
    Mystique, Itīs been just a week. So I donīt know. I get that she could be busy, but the first few days she had the time to text and initiate conversations by herself. She stoped doing that, but maybe it is true, it was only for a day.

    Sam, I donīt think Iīm in the friendzone, the intentios were pretty clear. Being needy maybe, i show interest when a girl is not just another girl for me and that could be a mistake.

    Do you guys have any solution ofr this? can I get the magic back. We did not talk yesterday and so far today. Iīm tinking on giving it a few days before evaluating sending a text again.

    Thank you for the help
    A week... of course she's playing it cool. She's backing off so you can lead. So lead it man! As Sam said, you are over thinking (something we all do!) Keep texting her and showing your interest. Women fall in love with men who admire and show interest in them... so keep it up. One piece of advice... be interested in the child but tread carefully. A woman's babies are precious. Don't ever use them as tools (not saying you are, just something to keep in mind)

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    Default Re: I need some feedback. Girl went cold and i saw it but could not help it

    Thanks Mystique! Do you think my intentions of waiting for her to text or giving it a few days before is a good one? Iīm doing these because she slowed down the time for resnponding and stoped the fluid exchanges and explained that she is not on the phone a lot. That means she does not wanto to keep at that pace at least for now. Wed or thurs is right? and ask her out again?


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