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    Default Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    Gentlemen,

    This is a new era, one where the new generation of hot girls (around 18-23) are so into texting and social media, that the old timey "bro just call her, and be direct" type of game does not work as well. You must be masters of texting. Here is a quick troubleshooting guide to texting, in general terms. This is not going to be an article full of texting lines and quirks, instead something sustainable. More of a foundation to build your texting game from, and make contextual banter (just like how your game in person should run, no gimmicks).



    First lesson- Calibrate Calibrate Calibrate.
    You must calibrate to her, because all girls are different. For instance I am texting three girls right now, completely differently. Almost like I am a different person, because I've successfully calibrated to each of them. A few quick calibration fixes, 1- if she is not texting you a bunch of smileys, don't be the one who does. It's okay to try out a smiley or two towards the beginning, but if she doesn't respond with some herself, cut it out. 2- same goes for how long the text messages are. Do not send a ton of long paragraphs to which she responds to with "cool.". You are showing neediness, and weirding her out. It is okay to send maybe two or three sentences, as long as they are not fluffy. But if she doesn't respond with the like and sends a long message, DO NOT KEEP SENDING LONG TEXTS. One girl I am texting is pretty short and sweet with her messages, and I am doing the same. The other is completely opening up to me and I am doing the same, sharing experiences and how I feel about situations. The other girl is using tons of smileys and "lol's", and I am doing the like . Calibrate man.

    Second lesson- Being Timely.
    You can't be texting her back within two minutes all of the time, just like you can't text her back exactly 2 hours after she texts you. You have to be RANDOM with when you text back. Sometimes texting back within 5 minutes, other times it takes you hours and you send two texts, because you were busy doing MAN SHIT. This is not something that should be fabricated, for best results you should actually work on having a busy schedule, and not able to check your phone all the time. Yesterday I did an 11 hour bootcamp and only was able to text the girls I am talking to while my student was off in an hour long convo with some girls I opened for him at the bar. But later that night I was just laying in bed reading, and was texting back after about 2 minutes between pages. This is attractive. A girl does not want a guy who is glued to his phone, doesn't have anything going on better than to text her, or interrupts his daily life to check his phone to text her. It all projects low value and neediness. So be timely, and random. RULE OF THUMB- NEVER TEXT BACK INSTANTLY. JUST DON'T. ALWAYS WAIT AT LEAST TWO MINUTES.
    I know for noobies it is hard because you are still building your cool life, and may have to fabricate it a little bit. Take up some hobbies that take time out of your life, such as lifting, reading, or taking in another part time job.

    Third Lesson- Not getting offended.
    You gotta ditch your texting ego man. Girls are going to ditch, and not text back. Girls are flaky sometimes man, they are like deer in the woods. If you can catch them, they are fucking marvelous and a pleasant sight to see. But step on one wrong branch or ruffle the wrong leaves, and she will take the fuck off. You can't put weird expectations for her to text back, or hang out with you. You gotta be interesting, funny, not needy, and different. There's tons of girls who will just stop texting because she has a million other guys to text, it happens. Don't feel like you have to flip out on her. Assess the situation objectively and work on your texting game on the next girl. Move on.
    I remember I used to get pissed at girls for stopping texting me, or just turning into a bitch out of nowhere, and I'd kinda flip on her for it. Totally just trying to protect my ego. Until I realized this was only hurting me, and had to come to an end if I wanted to fully take advantage of my texting game. You have to learn to let it go when you fuck it up, and move on. Look at what you did wrong. This brings me to my last point, which is one of the BIGGEST MISTAKES WITH TEXTING... especially with girls you just picked up on day game/tinder/other situations where you haven't really spent time together.

    Fourth lesson- Building Rapport.
    If you don't already know how to build rapport, you have to learn man. It's how we connect as human beings. I remember when I started, a pua book I read said "don't build rapport over texting, it puts you in the friend zone". Total bullshiiiiitt. If the girl doesn't know you very well, like in tinder, random meeting on the street and having to go, or some other situation where you didn't get much time to talk to her, she will be suspicious of what you are up to. That's how girls are, especially if you are a badass motherfucker, she will wonder if you are just trying to fuck her and never talk to her again. Building rapport over text is the only way to cut through this barrier. You absolutely must build texting rapport, especially if you want to skip ahead and get her over to your house on the first meetup .


    I will work on posting some examples of me doing these through my own texts on here, so stay tuned. Any questions feel free to ask.
    Started game in 2012. Professionally coaching for 2+ years. Strong believer in good karma, if you'd like me to give you a call/skype/email for some quick tips please reach out. Happy to help. It's cool if you're weird, I am too. Just don't be super fucking weird alright? learnrealseduction . com

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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    Agree to most of it except for the smileys part. My take on this, pick one thing and then stick to it. So if you are the one who doesn't use smileys, don't use it with any girl. And if you use, then use it with every girl. Changing your writing style for a specific girl can be a little bit needy, not that any one can know about this, but it can build up to other needy mindsets specially for guys who are not yet experienced.

    On a side note, using too much smileys makes you come off as childish and not using at all makes you look like a robot (like Arnold in Terminator lol). A balance is always fine though.

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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    Now when I say changing your writing style, I mean from super flirty and smiley, to more serious. and lots of periods. like this. Emo/alternative girls tend to like texting like this, just like you would calibrate in person to the girl, depending on her energy levels

    I use a smiley in the beginning, and use some 's sometimes, but unless the girl is into the emoji game, I barely use them, and get really good results. I usually have 3-5 girls texting me during any given day.
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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    Agree to most of it except for the smileys part. My take on this, pick one thing and then stick to it. So if you are the one who doesn't use smileys, don't use it with any girl. And if you use, then use it with every girl. Changing your writing style for a specific girl can be a little bit needy, not that any one can know about this, but it can build up to other needy mindsets specially for guys who are not yet experienced.

    On a side note, using too much smileys makes you come off as childish and not using at all makes you look like a robot (like Arnold in Terminator lol). A balance is always fine though.
    I think this is a topic where there is no right or wrong answer. In some ways, I disagree with this. You have to be the exception. Girls, like any human being, connect with people who are like minded. Even if you are a master, there are just some girls you aren't going to be able to pick up. Let's say you got so good, and you skyrocketed your number, 500+. There are 300 million people in the U.S. That is still an insignificant amount compared to the number of girls that are available even in your town. Which means, that for as many successes as you have you are probably going to have as many failures. So in order to limit those failures, you have to calibrate to the girl and show her that you two are in some ways like minded. If you don't, there will be another guy that will. So yes, calibrate.

    However, I was dating this girl for about 6 months. Met her on POF, and text her quite a bit within the first couple dates time frame. She rarely used smiley faces, haha's or lol's. But I was peppering my texts with emoji's. I finally brought it up to her after we got a little more comfortable and asked her if she thought I was coming across needy in my texts. She told me she absolutely loved my texts; any other guy would have been so robotic, mine were fun to read and easily engaging emotionally. I had no idea, I thought I was crashing and burning.

    Long story short, I don't think you can ever know what is fully working or not, you kind of just have to stick with what you know, what's worked in the past, and hope it works with the new girl/s, calibrating or not.
    You don't need her

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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    I like what you said bballking
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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    Quote Originally Posted by Bballking View Post
    I think this is a topic where there is no right or wrong answer. In some ways, I disagree with this. You have to be the exception. Girls, like any human being, connect with people who are like minded. Even if you are a master, there are just some girls you aren't going to be able to pick up. Let's say you got so good, and you skyrocketed your number, 500+. There are 300 million people in the U.S. That is still an insignificant amount compared to the number of girls that are available even in your town. Which means, that for as many successes as you have you are probably going to have as many failures. So in order to limit those failures, you have to calibrate to the girl and show her that you two are in some ways like minded. If you don't, there will be another guy that will. So yes, calibrate.

    However, I was dating this girl for about 6 months. Met her on POF, and text her quite a bit within the first couple dates time frame. She rarely used smiley faces, haha's or lol's. But I was peppering my texts with emoji's. I finally brought it up to her after we got a little more comfortable and asked her if she thought I was coming across needy in my texts. She told me she absolutely loved my texts; any other guy would have been so robotic, mine were fun to read and easily engaging emotionally. I had no idea, I thought I was crashing and burning.

    Long story short, I don't think you can ever know what is fully working or not, you kind of just have to stick with what you know, what's worked in the past, and hope it works with the new girl/s, calibrating or not.
    Using emojis or not is too small a thing to determine whether you two are like minded or not.lol. But I understand your point. What you are referring to applies to things like how much cocky you are with a particular girl, depending on her personality or how much forward you are in expressing your view point (in case she's sensitive). So it's more like a bigger picture (and I think that's what lifestyle was talking about also).

    What I referred to is a small picture so to say. It's just like if in person a girl calls you out for being too cocky, you suddenly transition to a "Nice Guy". That would be incongruent and needy. That's what my point was, don't change the way you act for a specific girl/person (toning up or down a particular behaviour is not changing). I hope I cleared it.

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    Default Re: Quick Texting Guide + Examples

    It sounds like you are overthinking this like crazy.... if something doesn't come naturally.... why try to change yourself into something else?

    If I don't feel like using "emojis," then why would I? I tend to be more serious and more to the point... my style is more like... finding out what a girl does for a living and seeing if she wants to invest in my business... or something.... maybe not to that extreme... but doesn't all the "emoji" stuff remind you of the third grade?


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