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    Default What's the standard text after a first date?

    I've read a lot of the stickys and manuals on text game, and I've googled what to send after the first date and when. But I want to know what the consensus text strategy is right after a date. So for an example, had a date tonight and it went ok. No kiss close but she's prude so I walk that off. We made plans tentatively for Saturday night. The internet says to text and ask if she made it home, and say I had fun. But that seems so pathetic. That's gotta be what the average chump does right? To send that text after she rejects kissing is basically being the most pathetic possible version of a guy right?

    So anyway, what's the text to send for the above? And what's the standard time to wait and gist of what to say after a first date? Should I just be continuing a conversation we were having on the date?

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    Default Re: What's the standard text after a first date?

    Quote Originally Posted by CervezaLover13 View Post
    I've read a lot of the stickys and manuals on text game, and I've googled what to send after the first date and when. But I want to know what the consensus text strategy is right after a date. So for an example, had a date tonight and it went ok. No kiss close but she's prude so I walk that off. We made plans tentatively for Saturday night. The internet says to text and ask if she made it home, and say I had fun. But that seems so pathetic. That's gotta be what the average chump does right? To send that text after she rejects kissing is basically being the most pathetic possible version of a guy right?

    So anyway, what's the text to send for the above? And what's the standard time to wait and gist of what to say after a first date? Should I just be continuing a conversation we were having on the date?
    Alright listen up scallywag and listen good!

    I have been thinking about this A LOT lately. And you are absolutely 100% right that is what other average guys do, it is what I did, and it is what I need to STOP doing.

    So here it is what you should remember. First off I think "being humble" is becoming very effective with women. I literally just thought in terms of that and was like

    "Thanks for the great time, hope I see you again, party on."

    That's it right? After our first date. 3 Days later. And it worked! I think I am keeping to the 3 day rule again maybe just because if I text once, and then again, and it's like BOOM by Day 3 I am usually already sunk with like 7 unanswered texts in a row. So I thought "wait it out" see what happens.

    So I sent that and she opened up to me! A freaking 10 man. I was going to send her something different so I decided to just be humble.

    Now she did text me back but I didn't get a text after that text so I decided to leave it for about one week and revisit the issue. I think more importantly it is to calculate my moves and stop with all the bombard of messages. So it should be.....


    Text "From you"
    Text "from her"
    Text "from you"

    Sometimes she can break it off and sometimes you can. Don't be trying to talk 24 hours nonstop. I think the best rules is the 3 day rule. Get your cards in a row, meet more chicks that night or next few days, etc.

    Either way I think I have been normally texting the very next day and while I get a little bit of success doing this I think it portrays the wrong image.

    Anyway I will try the 3 day rule at least for now and if no response wait a week and make my next move. This is very different! Most guys prolly blow up their phones so this has to be uncharted territory.

    Anyway tell her whatever is on your mind

    Had a great time, want to see her again, what your next outing is, etc.

    Either way I think this is the best way to look at it. I am trying it on my current girl who is an HB10

    Waited 3 days to hit her up, now I am waiting a week to make my next move. She is a Facebook target I went out to the Strip Club with and had an amazing time with. So I waited the 3 days and she responded right away. Also I messaged her WHEN I WANTED (around 9pm on the 3rd day) when I was available.

    Either way a well placed text should get a response time of about 15 minutes. I notice most of the responses I get (if at all) are within the 15 minute timeframe. So if nothing comes through then she is blowing me off or I need to go back to the drawing board.

    Next I think you can do or say whatever you want. It is more important that you are speaking your mind, following your heart, and listening to your gut. Not doing something if you feel you shouldn't etc.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: What's the standard text after a first date?

    No kiss close
    always kiss "close" (better in the middle of the date when there are sparks, at the end of the date it comes off weird) or at least go for the kiss to show your intentions to show you have balls, if she rejects you handle it with a joke. btw girls always text after the first date, no matter what. no matter if they liked you or not. leave it like that, if you pursue her first it comes off needy and it shows it was a big thing for you ..but in the end of the day it was just a great night, great time together. you know show her that it happens a lot to you its not a big deal...even if its a lie in the beginning.
    altough if she texts you be nice and tell she made your day amazing.

    btw naturaly i dont feel the need recently to text her first, i have a great time after the date, im full of energy i spent a day or so with another person so i rather spend the next 12-24 hours caring about myself and my things to do...back in the days i texted the girls right away only when i messed up something and i felt i needed to fix it via messages. so its clear for them why are you texting


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