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Thread: Mystery Method applied to online apps

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    Default Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Hi guys,



    Iíve basically started talking to this 34 year old girl via an app. She is definitely keen having answered me back to back. I decided against meeting her as she was due to go on holiday within 48 hrs and I didnít want to push it or seem impatient.

    I read about the Mystery Ď3-stepí method, I have a tendency to jump steps (not escalating kinos and going straight for a kiss) and usually get Ďbuy remorse from girlsí after two or three dates who tell me that I am great but that something is missing.


    In relation to this girl, I am a bit unsure about which step I am at since all the communication is occurring online. She wrote me from her holiday and send me pictures of her trip on two separate occasions (she's by herself). Should I count these as IOIs? My question is basically should I start qualifying her (A3 in Mystery method) or should I remain relatively neutral and wait for IOIs during the actual first date (I said I would take her out for a drink when she gets back and she said she was up for it).

    Thanks for your comments

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    In my opinion, and personal experience, her sending you pictures of herself are definite ioi's. I would take it "easy" on qualifying her before actually meeting her for the first time, though light qualifiers wouldn't necessarily hurt your situation. Keep your text game light and playful and game her when you meet in person.

    As someone who's "textually" active, I try and text just enough to set up a date and build attraction, but I know that in-person, face-to-face, is where the real game takes place. Enjoy and have fun!

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Quote Originally Posted by Bobalaincb View Post
    Hi guys,

    I’ve basically started talking to this 34 year old girl via an app. She is definitely keen having answered me back to back. I decided against meeting her as she was due to go on holiday within 48 hrs and I didn’t want to push it or seem impatient.

    I read about the Mystery ‘3-step’ method, I have a tendency to jump steps (not escalating kinos and going straight for a kiss) and usually get ‘buy remorse from girls’ after two or three dates who tell me that I am great but that something is missing.

    In relation to this girl, I am a bit unsure about which step I am at since all the communication is occurring online. She wrote me from her holiday and send me pictures of her trip on two separate occasions (she's by herself). Should I count these as IOIs? My question is basically should I start qualifying her (A3 in Mystery method) or should I remain relatively neutral and wait for IOIs during the actual first date (I said I would take her out for a drink when she gets back and she said she was up for it).

    Thanks for your comments
    In my personal experience, you don't want to be relying on "IOIs". Definitely not online, because the body language element is completely missing.

    She's talking to you still, that's all you need. But don't get too stuck on the process. You have to realise that she has to feel comfortable with you first before wanting to meet up. So, if you are consistently doing the whole A2, A3 from MM, you are just going to be stuck right at the beginning of the interaction. Don't waste your time like that.

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Quote Originally Posted by Jironasaurus View Post
    In my personal experience, you don't want to be relying on "IOIs". Definitely not online, because the body language element is completely missing.

    She's talking to you still, that's all you need. But don't get too stuck on the process. You have to realise that she has to feel comfortable with you first before wanting to meet up. So, if you are consistently doing the whole A2, A3 from MM, you are just going to be stuck right at the beginning of the interaction. Don't waste your time like that.
    Guys thanks a lot for your replies.
    Unfortunately it looks like you were right on the IOIs... I tried to set a date when she got back. She said she couldnt do weekdays as she had to catch-up with various friends after being away. we tried to setup something for the week after but she just didnt follow-up so I must have messed up somewhere.

    Jironasaurus, when you say don't get stuck in the whole A2 A3, do you mean I should have transitioned to a face-to-face meeting earlier or that I should have stopped talking to her while she was away?

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    No, I mean you shouldn't wait for IOIs before you go right into building rapport, simply because sometimes they just don't show any.

    I have chatted with women where I don't even know they are laughing at what I said (nor do they show any signs, even though I thought it was funny). It was only until they mentioned that I am a humorous guy that I knew. For that reason alone, I don't do the whole ioi nonsense.

    So, I just focus on being attractive over text, using my wit and humour, belief system and core values to get them wanting to connect with me. That's all I ever do. Once they like chatting with you, they will want to meet you.

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Just one little tip: forget about all the crap of attraction phases and whatever. They are complete shit done by nerd balls to over complicate a simple thing.

    Just focus on flirting (smalls texts with humor, like saurus said) and building rapport, talking about interesting things, such as traveling.

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    Just one little tip: forget about all the crap of attraction phases and whatever. They are complete shit done by nerd balls to over complicate a simple thing.

    Just focus on flirting (smalls texts with humor, like saurus said) and building rapport, talking about interesting things, such as traveling.
    AM
    Guys thanks for the tips and Jironasaurus thanks for your explanation.
    I tried that rapport thing online yesterday and it worked like a charm (talking about travelling...)

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Don't jump into rapport right away...
    Build attraction first. (Yes you can do that via email/chat/text etc.)

    Rapport without attraction = FRIENDZONE.

    The guys who said to flirt nailed it.
    Flirting builds attraction.


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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    I wouldn't even build rapport until I meet her in person. Keep her curious. The idea of these platforms is to meet these women in person at some point, so dont start the relationship online or all it will be is online. Just be be cheecky and have fun, and aim for escalation, If you you are doing it right she will forfeit her number without a reason.

    But girls get bored, its better to be a whole lot of fun in a short time, then to be a biography that she managed to fit a vacation in while reading it. Use it for what it is
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Mystery Method applied to online apps

    Especially a 34 yr old, do you know how many men have talked to her, she has probably heard your story a thousand times. Quick fun.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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