Re: Facebook and Instagram
My social proof game went to crap as soon as every experience I had was great, When you are truly enjoying yourself, you do not think to take photo's, you are too consumed by the situation to think about showing the world what you are doing and pretending its important and will benefit you.
So the only thing you can do, is approach, which makes sense. if you have no online game/Social proof then you have to use the situation you are in. This is good because it makes you very efficient at escalating very quickly.
I've become pretty private, I do benefit from the mystery a lot more then I did off Social proof because its best to let the individual form an opinion of you there and then, with what you say, then them looking over information and seeing patterns that they may not like.
But social proof has advantages. I, like you, Don't like this addiction to Validation. There is no high value in it. Probably why Snap chat is good, nobody likes, etc and everything is deleted so they cant really form patterns or stalk.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.