Would love to get some outside perspective on my text convo over the last ~month with an HB7/8. I've been out of the text game for a few months now, and quite frankly haven't been pushing myself too much to find some new HB's out there. Working on that now and getting back into posting and interacting with the community more.
For any newbies out there reading this, here's proof that even more experienced PUA's (I'm no where close to an expert, but have been in the game for 5ish years) have things to work on...would love your outlook on this too, guys!
Quick Background: I've known this HB for a few years now. Always had a fun / flirty connection with her but never had the desire to make a move, I enjoyed where we were and the girls I had on the side. I want to escalate things now, though. I think a big thing I need to realize here is that saying, "you need to risk losing her as a friend if you want to have her". That said, I'd love for you guys to go through my text convo over the last month or so and critique where I could have done better, how I can improve, future plans I can make, etc. etc....giving myself the benefit of the doubt, the few time's I've seen her in person, we've had a good time and I initiated some Kino but not to the extent I do with HB's I'm set on f-closing.
Me: Hey! I'm at [bar] under my apt grabbing a few drinks. You should have already been here...
HB: Wasn't invited 😒
Me: For real, come by...[my address]
Me: See you soon
HB: Come to [bar]
HB: U need to
HB: No exceptions
Me: Hah! Thank you for the invite but I cannot right now xD
Me: We'll hang soon
HB: Why can't u
Me: I would love to see you! Might be free later tonight, what sort of trouble you getting into...
HB: Getting into trouble w u
HB: Lmk when u come meet us downtown
HB: HOW ARE YOU
HB: TELL ME EVERYTHING
Me: Still tall, 24 and thriving, living, laughing, loving, and flirting <3
Me: Your turn
HB: 😊 love all those things - still single, lonely and on lots of dating apps looking for #theone
Me: Don't be lonely I'm here for you ...let's grab a drink or two this week and you can tell me all about the terrible dates you've had 😘
Me: [Funny GIF image]
Me: HAPPY HUMP DAY!!!! Turn that frown up side down! 2 days until Friday!!! 🎉😵👍🏼🙌🏼😘😎🌹👑
Me: Hoi! I ve got this going away party thing tomoz for a friend at Tuttles...come with me? Or drinkt after..
Me: Effff dutch keyboard by accident lol ignore the misspellings...
HB: Hahha what
HB: My bro is in town so i dont know if I can go out tomororw
Me: 1) You have a brother!?! 2) DAMMMMMN! 3) You now officially owe me...big time!
HB: You never invite me it's not like I ditch you often 🙄
Me: LOL fair, I'll invite you to wayyy more fun things, but you'll just have to clear your schedule for me xD
Me: FYI, I really do miss goofing around with you...it's just too much fun
HB: I realllllyyy miss you you're always invited w me you know that what ru doing Friday???
Me: I have an after hours party...but maybe we get together before for drinks and fun
HB: Okay I missss u we can talk closer to it
Me: I want to do happy hour / evening drinks...so I think we should 👍🏼😵😘🍺🍩
Me: [Funny party GIF image]
Me: Oh....HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!!! btw...
That Night (Called her to make tentative plans)
Me: Ill try and make it to [bar] but can't make any promises, dahling
HB: I understand ........I guessss.......
Me: Do a little dance for me richt now and I'll come
HB: Lmao what
Me: A quick twerk whenever you are....
Me: Do it.
HB: Ahahahahahahahahahhs s
Me: Lmk when you did it
Me: I trust you
HB: I wiggled
ME:OMG!? Whats that!?? You decided to stay in NY and want to come to parties in BK with me?!? Whoaaaaaa....I'm flattered! Yeah, I'd love to, we'll dance till the sun comes up...and then some xD
HB: HAHAHAHHAHAH SHOREGUY!!!! I wish can we plz hang more often I'm in NJ tonight
ME: LOL yes to hanging out and have fun in NJ dahling
ME: ....Seattle.......re ally.... [found out she's away that weekend]
Day After (While she's still away)
Me: YOOOO!!! Come back to NYC.....
HB: Awww!!!! Im in Seattle
Me: Are you aware how nice it is outside right now...!?!? What're you up? I'm going to head to the Piers in a bit to lay out xD
HB: I am headed home to watch the pup you have the worst timing
Me: Is it me with the bad timing though...or is it you 😘 Have fun!
I should also mention that there were times I called her up, sent her funny voice texts, etc. as I really like changing things up and calling is so rare these days....I love calling a girl because it throws her off a bit and gives me a bit more confidence in the interaction.
After posting and re-reading through these texts I realize all the opportunties I had to meet up and make something happen but I was either busy, or more likely....trying to play WAY too hard to get.
Thanks for the comments and help in advance guys.