Re: Dilemma with Tinder girl - known for 2 weeks, 1 date, 1 flake - pursue?
JackSarge, I like you are maintaining yourself by not looking needy, while being assertive and getting results.
This Scares me though and I could be wrong:
"But she is quitting her job so we can have more time together so I think she is buttering me up for a long term relationship rather than a fling which I tried to pull.""
+ Stood you up a few times.
This seems like she is fishing, Keeping you on the hook but not reeling you in. Its more like, I will enjoy being single now and when im over it, I will date him. Its almost as if she is seeing if there is better out there first. If nothing happens, you are conveniently there on her hook when she needs you.
I really hope this isn't the case, but you have to be careful, your time and your individuality are 1 of a kind, not something in bulk at Costco that you and people around you should be taking for granted.
Saying that, you say you cant be emotionally engaged because of current women in your life so atleast emotionally you dont have to worry. But I think as you said, allow her to engage you and suggest it and that way you can use that time and energy getting the results you desire somewhere else until it happens.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.