Re: Dilemma with Tinder girl - known for 2 weeks, 1 date, 1 flake - pursue?
I will leave you 2 tips for all scenarios in life that will take sometime but you will need to learn them, and you will to get the results.
1. Close quicker. 3 weeks of messaging although it got you the date (good work by the way) was a long time, focus on building attraction faster so you can close faster.
a. If all the sifgnals are right on the first date with the ioi's the look in her eye, and the Kino Response. Kiss her. If you kiss a girl in a dating situation that is a serious thing to her. This sin't just sexual attraction we are talking about, you were on a dating site, you took her out and by that she is looking for a relationship. If the look in her eyes you described occured. Then you are ticking boxes, Mentally, Emotionally and Physically. She wants you to Kiss her, She wont tell you because she has to appear like a decent worthy datable partner and not a slut. So you have to identify it. Then K-Close. But if you dont Kiss her, she attracted to you will be like why didnt he kiss me, is he not interested?, is he gay?, is there something wrong with me?, is he a pussy?, calling her friends, writing in her diary, then by friday the next week after this whole process of thinking. Her defenses (pride) are up, you may have had a great time at the date, but the last 5 days of insecurity are associated with you. Then she goes out Friday to a party, she gets given attention, her confidence is back up but still remembers and associates the last week of how she felt with you.
1b. If you dont Kiss her for whatever reason, you need to establish your intentions. one way or another. Saying things like " I had such a great time with you, The dating rules say I get to kiss you on the second right ;p" (this indicates that you are very interested. But dont bother getting to this point just kiss when you can) look up information of signs she wants to kiss you for the future indicators.
2. Don't be so nice, Don't over invest to early.
By the time it got to the point were you said this "I responded with yeah, I understand, hope we can reschedule sometime.. s" She has had a pretty interesting week with how she feels about you, alot of ups and downs mostly downs.
Then She didn't ask how you were, She just apologized for inconveniencing you so that "hope we can reschedule sometime" was giving her the power because she didn't care how you were and you asked to reschedule. At this point before this happens, its best to just respond "Positively and briefly" - by saying something like " Hey, yeah that is all good, Speak soon." - letting her know you dont really care (not to hurt her but just to save face), and then because you have facebook, you go out doing the things you enjoy & post it on facebook (not to hurt her, but to show her you have a life and its fun). While not talking to her. Just to give her the space until its a new week like tuesday and she will either:
Not do anything and you will either establish she isn't interested and never talk to her again, or you will message her.
Or she will miss the messages, avoid what you last said and say "Hey, how was your weekend?" or something to start the conversation. Which is your chance to back off refresh and start again. or Over invest and strike out.
Hope this benefits your future success.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.