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Thread: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

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    Default The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    I know some of you know who I am. And some of you don't and that's great!


    I am sharing a conversation that if I just stopped playing around, it would have gone somewhere. But nope, I had to keep it up. If you have attraction, then you can go to comfort. If you stay in one phase too long, the girl will get frustrated. Even if you're a catch. Just goes to show you, even the players that have been in the game too long can fail. No one is safe.


    ME
    You look familiar...no that want a pick up line...


    HER


    • Yeah, I remember you

      ME
    • Lol. I'm going to assume the worst



      HER
    • Wow, you got that one

      ME
    • What can I say. I have a talent for the awkward conversations. I'm sure it's a fixable situation that we are in



      HER
    • Yeah, I gave you my number and you never texted me #classic



      ME
    • lies lies lies. I think you did the classic, meh I'll never text him back.







    • HER
      Probably
    • ME
    • Hahaha, jerk. I guess that Amy Schumer movie really did some damage to the dating scene...

    • HER
      Amy is my girl, thank you very much

    • ME
    • It shows . I think we should totally redo our whole interaction. You know you give me your number...and when this suave handsome man texts you , you won't do one of these and go back to watching like the office or something
      HER
      If you're lucky I'll give it to you. I have to go to bed however, goodnight correct me if I'm wrong, your name is Cam?...I'm probably wrong

    • ME
    • Ohhh leaving me on a cliffhanger, you're good . And no my name is not Cam...........hmmm I think you should be lucky if I let that one go....shame shame. But you have a goodnight. We aren't done here as I get that feeling
    • HER
      I tried, and ha, dream on handsome

      ME
    • Oh look at that, suave handsome man is messaging you. I'm so nice...
    • HER

      ME
    • I live for the eye rolls. I'll tone it down a bit then. I'm assuming you're watching game of thrones
    • HER
      Never seen it, I'm reading
    • ME
    • Oh well. Lol, aren't you done with school for the year ?
      HER
      Nope, I start grad school tomorrow lol

      ME
    • Bummer. So your number starts with a 555 ? I kinda forgot the rest, refresh my memory
      HER
      555-inyourdreams

    • ME
    • Oh I don't think they use those type of numbers any more. They have digits now. So 716 8.......
      ME
    • Excuse me, I meant letters. ^

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    No. You didn't fail because you were stuck in "attraction" for too long.

    You failed because there's too much posturing. You guys conversed as if it were a stand-off. That gets lame after a while, because as the man, she expects you to lead the interaction to something conducive for the both of you.

    Not only that... despite all that posturing, you still end up asking for the number. That contradicts your original position. It's enough to tell her you're just putting on an act.

    She's also throwing shit test after shit test at you, but you aren't doing well enough to overcome them.

    All that is why you failed. Nothing to do with attraction here.

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    That's what I meant about playing around....I had to throw a real moment in there but oh well and drop the act. She was responding to me. She was responding quickly. I played too much with her

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    Thank you Mr Assertive for sharing your conversation.

    Hey J, can you point out some shit tests? I'd love to see another take on that convo. How would you have done things different?

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    @Hands, these are the shit tests.


    HER: Wow, you got that one

    HER: Yeah, I gave you my number and you never texted me #classic

    HER: Amy is my girl, thank you very much

    HER: If you're lucky I'll give it to you. I have to go to bed however, goodnight correct me if I'm wrong, your name is Cam?...I'm probably wrong

    HER: I tried, and ha, dream on handsome

    HER:

    HER: 555-inyourdreams

    The thing with Mr. Assertive's conversation is... each response made it worse, so it could have easily been avoided at the beginning. Not saying she won't go down the same path still, but there won't be as many in such a short period of time. This is how I would have played it out at the very beginning...

    HER: Yeah, I remember you

    ME: Didn't realize I was so memorable. I assume it wasn't with bad intentions though...
    But regardless... Mr. Assertive actually had a good response to this:

    HER: Yeah, I gave you my number and you never texted me #classic

    HIM: lies lies lies. I think you did the classic, meh I'll never text him back.
    One thing though. I would never have used all those emoticons. I leave that to the women. Men should keep the emoticon game simple. There are only 2 I use in my texting. The very simple ":-)" to show that I am not being serious, if I said something that could be interpreted as insulting/serious... and the ";-)".

    But like I said before, Mr. Assertive did well on this one, though I wouldn't go with "lies lies lies". Feels too whiney. This is what I would have said:

    "Nice try. I am just surprised your pants isn't burning up yet."
    From there on, everything changes. Her response would have been different. The shit tests that might continue after would have changed too.

    But just to show how he could have played this better (even though I wouldn't have asked for the number yet)... here's another example:

    HER: If you're lucky I'll give it to you. I have to go to bed however, goodnight correct me if I'm wrong, your name is Cam?...I'm probably wrong

    ME: I don't need luck. But please, go ahead. Rest well!
    No answers about my name. Let her guess. She didn't comply with giving me her number, so no need to address her curiosity at all.

    Hope that helps your question, Hands.

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    Even people like myself have to take a step back and realize I don't know everything! Thanks for the reply ^^

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    Thanks to both of you, I feel seeing both approaches to this conversation helped me alot, and I'm sure my fellow noobs out there will appreciate this as well!

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    Default Re: The dangers of too much attraction: An honest Sample message...

    Well Mr. Assertive I wouldn't say you did particularly bad but I won't say you did particularly good either. I think you were very good at building attraction. It's just a classic fail. Happens to all of us. We cannot necessarily rely too heavily on a woman's responsiveness.

    I think the characterization if any here, is you relied too heavily on your ability to engage the target (or woman). You also over-pursued (at least from my perspective)

    Keep in mind the advice I am about to give you is very situational and coming from my own point of view. I believe I am speaking from an 'advanced' level.

    Engaging a woman is about bringing her into your world (as PUA taught me) so I do practice that on the reg. It has been my groove of late (I'm obsessed with success) that woman pursue me.

    So here your first flaw is asking for her number. Imagine for a moment (some situations like bars you have to ask) but I am speaking online thinking here that they pursued you. Again situational. But I have had 3 dates with 3 woman this year from online pursuits of mostly them pursuing me. 2 from Facebook and 1 from Tinder/Instagram.

    So what is my practice of late? Them pursuing me. My new ex-gf asked me out on St Paddy's when I was posting on my facebook and she said she wanted to chill. No need to ask for her number but it blew up from there (as I talked about already).

    Then the HB10 obviously from facebook to the Strip Club date I mentioned that also spiraled downhill who I over-pursued after date 1. So yes I am still struggling but here is what I do know.


    My new girl/mistress from IG
    Gave 100%, got 100% validation
    Opened up, she opened up
    Was not pursuing her (hit up a couple comments on IG and she inboxes me)
    Didn't ask for her number I FOCUSED on the connection (I realize getting dates doesn't guarantee anything after getting ditched by some girl I was dating and now she is AWOL)
    She gave me her number but I didn't ask for it
    I gave her my number (as a fair exchange so she would know when I was texting her)
    Waited 2 days and texted her (same mental state as before) this was after she already asked me out

    So I texted her
    Jack
    "Looking forward to seeing you HB, can't wait! Got my outfit at the ready "
    Target
    "Tell the truth!"
    Jack
    "Ok! I will! That's pretty easy for me to do."
    Target
    "No I meant about the outfit. Lol. Hi Jack. So this next weekend will be super rad. Did you think of a place yet?"
    Jack
    "Breaking out some new threads blah blah"
    That was a 2 hour convo by the way

    Talked to her again today. So yeah I have had my own classic fails but what I am suggesting is BE YOURSELF. Be completely honest. Liking her or not. Being a jerk or not. Being real with yourself.

    I promised myself one thing. That I would be real. I promised myself I would stop trying to impress them and impress myself. I would stop trying to pretend and just be 100%.

    So I did and here is the outcome. Yeah my dates this year sucked but now after saying this to myself now I was completely okay with myself not endlessly trying to entertain she is into me. Not the conversation or event but me!

    Do you know how empowering that is? Maybe a met a really good girl but think it was because my other girl was blowing me off and the terrible pain that brought me to that breaking point of giving my all.

    I am willing to see this through to the bitter end. We are going out this saturday she told me just now

    "So excited to hang w you."

    She is the kinda of woman I need right now. Yeah I'll have to commit for a while. So be it. But I have earned it.


    But it all came from being ditched and fed up trying to impress them. So I did whatever came to mind and she was impressed by default. The amazing thing is she is super excited to meet me...the real me not my best self or best version. But my painful version the one that was hurt.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack


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