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Thread: Not sure how to respond and what would be an AFC move...need a diff prspctv

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    Default Not sure how to respond and what would be an AFC move...need a diff prspctv

    Title says it all...apologies, I'm on mobile...I'm looking for a good response to this text. Background - I asked a girl to come to a sporting event with me and she is deciding between coming with me or going to the beach...

    Her (after I asked her to come) : I wanna commit and come with you but I would feel terrible if I was able to get a ride to the shore

    I can't blame her because we go to the same beach and we'll be together for the 4th. My current tentative response that I'd like another perspective on:

    "Don't worry about it, I'll invite someone else let's link up on the 4th and have some fun!"

    I hate that she's held the cards for most of the convo and I feel like a total AFC waiting on her. I'd like to just put my foot down and "punish" her for being so on the fence...maybe punish is the wrong word...

    Idk, thoughts guys??

    Thanks - Shoreguy
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    Default Re: Not sure how to respond and what would be an AFC move...need a diff prs

    Hi Shoreguy

    The reality is we are all pretty selfish at times and tend to only think of ourselves before thinking of anyone else.

    So in one way you can't really blame her for putting herself first and doing what She wants to do rather than what you would like her to do.

    There is a saying which goes 'That all you are is all that you will be' Which basically means that her selfish behaviour will catch up with her one day and bite her on the back side, when She least expects it.

    As such I very much doubt if you will change her, so ask yourself the question why you really want her anyway, as you could well be better off if you were to hook up with someone else.

    So from my own personal viewpoint, I would ask her to this Sporting Event, which you have already done and if She can't or won't decide (or wants the best of both Worlds) then just say fine and take somebody else.

    But don't tell her your taking somebody else or She will think you're trying to punish her or trying to make her jealous, which probably won't work and may even end up creating a lot of bad feeling.

    Also take on board the fact that some girls find Sport boring, where as such She may suffer in Silence just to please you, which of course would then make you the 'Selfish one'

    So you don't need her, you need options!

    If you are really obsessed with her, then use her for times when you like to go to the Beach and also have another girl to take to Sporting events.

    If She wants the 'Best of both Worlds' then you can do the same, at least up until you find a girl who likes the same things as you.

    But punishing her in any way is very weak behaviour, as it will only waste your energy and make you miserable.

    So put her right to the back of your mind and go and find yourself another girl, in which case I bet it won't be long before She's on the phone. wondering why She hasn't heard from you.

    There are lots of other girls out there and Beach girl really is just one of many.
    The Power in a Relationship always goes to the one who cares the least

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    Default Re: Not sure how to respond and what would be an AFC move...need a diff prs

    Response: "Never mind, Have a great time at the beach for both of us, we'll talk"

    Firstly, telling her you will take someone else is going to make her defensive. No need to be an arse hole.

    However, if all of a sudden you show you don't care with the response above. If she thinks you are taking someone else because out of the blue you fully agree to her not coming and completely happy with that decision then that's her fault.

    At the end of the day, you want to see the sporting event. You do not require to tell her who you are going with or even if you are going with anyone. So with or without her, do what you wasnt to do, Go to the sporting event, and enjoy yourself.

    Don't let her think that you are dependant on her to have a good time. Show her in your response that with or without her, you do not care. That Alpha.

    She may:

    Think you don't care causing her to want you more.
    Think you found someone else.
    Think you lost interest.

    But she's thinking it, no point stimulating thoughts and being detected, when female psychology proves she is going to do it to herself anyway.

    Just go, Enjoy the sporting event and when she Texts you asking you how it is, tell her how great it was, without getting into details since you are not ESPN, if she wants to know all details of who you were with or who won etc. She should of come.

    Her: How was it?
    Me: We'll I'm still smiling It was Awesome.
    Her: Why?
    Me: So many factors, all combined. It was the perfect Chemistry. You should put it on your bucket list.

    See haven't said anything false, I know when i get to sporting events that I can get beers, and hot dogs and be with like minded people so regardless if my team looses, the over all experience is great plus its something different. So im not lying at all. I';m not even trying to be mysterious.

    1. My mystery comes from not being bothered telling you everything in detail so broaden/generalize to make a text shorter.

    2. She wasn't there, if she wants the results, go to the game, if you want to know how my experience was then make the effort to be there with me.

    You don't need to lie or manipulate. She will do it herself. Just do you, Word it in a way that leaves it broad not because you want her to manipulate herself, but simply she had the chance to experience it and she let that go so.......... fuck her.

    snooze you loose.
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    Default Re: Not sure how to respond and what would be an AFC move...need a diff prs

    Even Alphabeta Quote says it:

    The Power in a Relationship always goes to the one who cares the least
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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