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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    I know I shot myself in the foot when I said "I don't want to bug you." That's why I tried to make up for it when I said "ok, maybe I will bug you" or something to that effect. I'm not really sure which one is worse though.

    As for me making a joke no I didn't but I didn't think she would take it so seriously when I said "Ok, maybe I will bug you." I mean come on.

    But anyway, she didn't want to talk on the phone so for me that's sort of a red flag. I know in this day and age most people text but I still do see people talking on their cell phones. It's silly to never want to talk on the phone especially with someone you are interested in.

    Anyway, I will in the future continue to give women a hard time. If they can't take it that's their problem. The only way to succeed is by pushing things further. The intelligent ones(or at least those with social intelligence)will know I'm just being playful and am not deliberately being an a hole about it.

    Also, I want to mention that the biggest lesson I learned here is to not text too much. It was just going back and forth for a while and it was going really well until I made the comment about bugging her(which I suppose was bad because it somehow makes me look needy or approval seeking?). Anyway, I'm always willing to improve.

    I wasn't really that much into this woman anyway to begin with. Lookswise she was maybe a 6 or 7 at the most but probably more like a 6(or 61/2). One thing I can say is that it's very possible an average looking or even below average woman will reject you and a really hot one won't(of course the hot ones will too). My point is you can't go by how they look to determine how they will respond to you. Most men will never get that.

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike413 View Post
    She finally got back to me but referred to me as "buddy."
    ouch, one of my exes (probably the most beautiful girl i have ever dated) hit me with this not too long ago lol, i simply didnt reply

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by jojo_flores View Post
    ouch, one of my exes (probably the most beautiful girl i have ever dated) hit me with this not too long ago lol, i simply didnt reply
    Yeah, but if she's your ex what difference does it make? It's not like you are still pursuing her. If you were you could say something like "well, I'm not even sure you have what it takes to be my buddy."

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike413 View Post
    Yeah, but if she's your ex what difference does it make? It's not like you are still pursuing her. If you were you could say something like "well, I'm not even sure you have what it takes to be my buddy."
    true! these days shes more of a Hired Gun to me... the best wing men, are beautiful women

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by jojo_flores View Post
    true! these days shes more of a Hired Gun to me... the best wing men, are beautiful women
    No not really a hired gun unless she works as a waitress or something. But yeah definitely use her as a wing woman. Having her near you will give you lots of social proof and will have other women wondering what your relationship status with her is.

    But I have to say unless she has a crappy personality I'm guessing her being your ex was her choice and not hers. Have you ever thought of trying to get her back?

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike413 View Post
    No not really a Hired Gun unless she works as a waitress or something. But yeah definitely use her as a wing woman. Having her near you will give you lots of social proof and will have other women wondering what your relationship status with her is.

    But I have to say unless she has a crappy personality I'm guessing her being your ex was her choice and not hers. Have you ever thought of trying to get her back?
    Sorry, I'm a bit out of the loop with the lingo, just now getting back into it after three years. I'll be honest, I was pretty messed up when we were together. I was younger, dumber and didn't fully appreciate her. I think we went about four to five years without speaking. When I saw her at the club this past year i was REALLY surprised she initiated the conversation and even more surprised that it was HER idea to exchange number. YES I've thought about it. Quite a lot actually. BUT now that I am older and more mature, and after her being absent in my life for so long, I realize how much i really do appreciate her being in my life. And like i said; I'm getting back into the game, so to hurt her again would be really unfair. Plenty of fish right? Maybe when I officially hang it up I'll pursue something serious with her, but her now that's the furthest thing from my mind.

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Hey Mike, I see that you're already aware of your mistakes. That's half the way already, keep it up.

    However, I'd like to add a few additional points... Texting is a powerful tool in dating. Yes it's true that us dudes here argue that texting should only be used for setting up a date, achieving some next step in the relationship, not just chatting and leaving it there.

    If you are gonna just leave it there, make sure to leave it where emotions flowing high and it's hella fun. Don't be afraid to cut the texting while both of you are having loads of fun from the conversation. Cutting it right there will only keep her wanting more. Next thing you know, she is the one "bugging" you.

    But don't put texting in a box in your head. Texting can be much more powerful. Don't be afraid to push your limits with some women. That's the only way of improvement. Of course, I'm not saying "just send a d1ck pic bro". That would be harassment unless she wants it. Gauge their responses and kick it up a notch. Try arousing them over the phone, make them wet with your bold texts and have fun watching them struggle at work trying to hide their horniness.

    Another point. You said a chick who is uncomfortable talking on the phone might be a red flag for you. Well, most people including males are uncomfortable talking on the phone with the people they are interested in, especially if they haven't been on a date.

    Phone calls have a tough dynamic and are hard to keep it up. You can't touch her, you can't look into her eyes. Your only weapon is your words and you are expected to keep a flowing conversation. It might be okay to take a break from talking on a date just to look around, eat your food or touch her but being silent on the phone even for 3 seconds can be awkward and cringy. Maybe you are able to keep a perfect conversation over the phone but most girls need time for that. Keep it in mind.

    Now you might ask: "What's is the difference between texting and calling? I can't touch her or look at her while texting too!" You are absolutely correct. But texting is safer. You can take time and think about what you're going to text back. You're always behind a barrier where no one will hear your voice or see your face and therefore investigate your body language until you choose to do so. Your self-esteem is protected behind a virtual interface. That's why people prefer texting over calling. Because you can always not reply back to that goofy text and say you were really busy a day later.

    Some food for your thoughts mate, have fun and good luck!

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    In this day and age people don't seem to talk over the phone unless they know each other really well and even sometimes then they don't. So for that reason I think I'll stick to texting unless I get the feeling she really wants to talk on the phone(but even that is probably best suited for setting things up).

    What I meant as far as the phone was that if I am going to have some kind of connection and relationship with a woman sooner or later I want to talk to her on the phone if possible. To rule that out entirely just seems strange to me especially if her and I are in a serious relationship. I get it though and I'm not really the biggest phone person all the time either but it's nice to have the phone option.

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Mike413. I read your first post, and this last one. One thing that comes across to me pretty strong. Very wishy washy. Not confident. Not sure. Very unsure. Women with their super sensory perception will pick up on that quicker and stronger than I would.

    Now Game tells us what women care about, the we also should care about. This whole thing about calling. Don't worry what a woman wants. If YOU want to hear a womans voice, CALL HER, and for God's sake, don't apologize for it. You SERIOUSLY need to Alpha up. Study what it means to BE ALPHA. Then DO IT.

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    Default Re: Got ignored after some success with texting

    Quote Originally Posted by LA.OC.Skater View Post
    Mike413. I read your first post, and this last one. One thing that comes across to me pretty strong. Very wishy washy. Not confident. Not sure. Very unsure. Women with their super sensory perception will pick up on that quicker and stronger than I would.

    Now Game tells us what women care about, the we also should care about. This whole thing about calling. Don't worry what a woman wants. If YOU want to hear a womans voice, CALL HER, and for God's sake, don't apologize for it. You SERIOUSLY need to Alpha up. Study what it means to BE ALPHA. Then DO IT.
    I never apologize for anything and never said I do. Speak for yourself.

    Go ahead do things that piss off a woman and see what happens when she doesn't call you back. You'll be having dates with your right hand for a very long time.

    Also, I don't need your dumb advice and I don't need to "alpha up." Worry about yourself.


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