Re: Got ignored after some success with texting
Hey Mike, I see that you're already aware of your mistakes. That's half the way already, keep it up.
However, I'd like to add a few additional points... Texting is a powerful tool in dating. Yes it's true that us dudes here argue that texting should only be used for setting up a date, achieving some next step in the relationship, not just chatting and leaving it there.
If you are gonna just leave it there, make sure to leave it where emotions flowing high and it's hella fun. Don't be afraid to cut the texting while both of you are having loads of fun from the conversation. Cutting it right there will only keep her wanting more. Next thing you know, she is the one "bugging" you.
But don't put texting in a box in your head. Texting can be much more powerful. Don't be afraid to push your limits with some women. That's the only way of improvement. Of course, I'm not saying "just send a d1ck pic bro". That would be harassment unless she wants it. Gauge their responses and kick it up a notch. Try arousing them over the phone, make them wet with your bold texts and have fun watching them struggle at work trying to hide their horniness.
Another point. You said a chick who is uncomfortable talking on the phone might be a red flag for you. Well, most people including males are uncomfortable talking on the phone with the people they are interested in, especially if they haven't been on a date.
Phone calls have a tough dynamic and are hard to keep it up. You can't touch her, you can't look into her eyes. Your only weapon is your words and you are expected to keep a flowing conversation. It might be okay to take a break from talking on a date just to look around, eat your food or touch her but being silent on the phone even for 3 seconds can be awkward and cringy. Maybe you are able to keep a perfect conversation over the phone but most girls need time for that. Keep it in mind.
Now you might ask: "What's is the difference between texting and calling? I can't touch her or look at her while texting too!" You are absolutely correct. But texting is safer. You can take time and think about what you're going to text back. You're always behind a barrier where no one will hear your voice or see your face and therefore investigate your body language until you choose to do so. Your self-esteem is protected behind a virtual interface. That's why people prefer texting over calling. Because you can always not reply back to that goofy text and say you were really busy a day later.
Some food for your thoughts mate, have fun and good luck!
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