This is my standard method. It applies normal social dynamics and flirtation concepts, plus some things I’ve discovered. So it should work for you too. If the first message fails, I have a follow up message that usually gets a response. (I’ll share that next time)
First, I sit and look at the target woman’s profile for a couple minutes. I ask myself, who is this girl, what type of girl is she? I look at her pictures and try to get a read on her.
Usually, her profile will have something unique and interesting that most guys wouldn’t comment on. (Most guys send out obvious stuff). There’s usually something you can bust her on.
For instance, she says she loves animals but doesn’t own one since they need the right environment. There you go, you can bust her on her living conditions and how it isn’t fit for a dog.
Most guys say something like: “I also think dogs need the right environment”
You’re not going to seek rapport with her yet; first you want to make her feel challenged.
So I find one thing to bust her on. Then I look for one thing we have in common. This is to ease the tension a bit created by the busting. You can’t get away with too much cockiness online, since she can’t see you smiling, so you have to ease up a lot.
After that you should ask a question; just something to give her an excuse to respond.
It should always be an open ended question – no exceptions. It should be relevant to her profile and come after a comment. Like –“ I found this cool bar called Caddies the other night. Where do you normally go out?”
Then I might add something about what I’m doing with my life. It doesn’t have to be spectacular, because I don’t want to come off like I’m bragging. I might just say, “I’m sitting here in Starbucks writing this thing for work. This weird guy keeps peering over at my page, so I gotta run. ”
Then for the close, my standard line is: ‘get back to me if you want to chat’.
The key is, you show that you read her profile, but you don’t show too much interest in what she has to say. A lot of it is bringing her into your world by mentioning things you’re doing with your life. Also, you’re picking things out of her profile that interest YOU.