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  1. #1
    zliberm0 Guest

    Default i'm stuck in a strange position.

    last year i had a crush on this girl, lets say her name is "blond" and i went for it.(this is before i know about the pua stuff) I started talking to her and eventually got her over to my house where she and i got physical. we went out another time after that and it was a total crash and burn.
    It was my fault really, i told her was all this horrible Sh1t about myself like: i don't have a car b/c of some drinking tickets, and she would have to drive, and i was really embarrassed about it too. I tried calling her and texting her after that and i think i got too clingy.
    days after our last date, Blond packed up and left to peru for a peace core/ mission trip thing; where she met her Peruvian boyfriend.(the guy blew me out of the water w his good looks!)
    SO i eventually i got my car back, found a job, and started getting jacked. I forgot about her and went on w my life, until i saw her at my schools homecoming dance, where i didn't say much to her at all. And again at graduation, where we had some good conversation. (also a bit of flirting)
    By this time, i had already known of her break-up w her boyfriend. I started texting her, and i went back to doing what i used to do: asking her questions about herself and having zero fun while texting).
    Amazingly, a friend of mine showed me this website and I have been coming here for advice ever since. And within that time i saw her again at a mutual friend's party. I was on my game that night, i didn't kiss her or anything, but i was flirting w her almost the entire night. so i started texting her again using tips form this forum and she went out w me!
    But, although we hung out it wasn't exactly what i wanted. It was the middle of the day, and i met Blond at one of my favorite spots in the local forest preserve(its really pretty there). we just sat on this tree and talked. I got Sh1t on by a bird. so i took my shirt off. Then we switched spots and sat in the warm sun, right next to the lake. I asked her how long it had been since her last kiss. But she wasn't going for it, i leaned in but she just turned away.
    so i tried to brush it off like i didn't care (even though i did) and we went on talking. we left the forest preserve after i suggested we get some ice-cream. Then we talked over ice-ream and i told her i was going to head home.
    now i am at a strange position, i have no idea what to do, what move to take. I think she is just playing hard to get, but idk what to do about it and i really like this girl.

  2. #2
    Fakhry Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    what you need to do is give you and her a quick short break...maybe a week(no contact at all..even if she calls dont pick!)..during that break have A LOT of fun..flirt with other girls...play around..go places with your guys etc etc
    after that you should be full of confidence and you wouldnt really be thinking about the last time you screwed up with her...she wont seem so important anymore and you wont really care about whether you get her or not as much as you once did

    after your little break..send her a text...nothing like ''hey wassup..how are you'' ..no no no....you shouldnt show that you were thinking of her like that, maybe something like ''OMG! Your twin just talked to me!'' ....she'd reply wondering wassup and ask questions...keep your texts short and fun...dont give her direct answers..keep her guessing...tell her youll tell her all about it when you see her next(dont fix a date except she does herself..and even if she does..change the date yourself...maybe she says lets meet on a monday..you tell her youll be out with friends..fix for tuesday! etc)...if she doesnt fix a date...tell her youll talk to her later(when texting)...2 days later call her to fix a little meeting/date..maybe ask her to follow you to an aquarium that YOU wanna check out etc...dont make it seem like your making the day the day for HER...shes just tagging along..let it seem like youd go with or without..make youself seem busy..that she aint all that..she has to work for you, put a time constraint..one hour max! dont pick her up..let her meet you there!(making her work for you etc) ...when she does come have fun..play with her..have friendly body contact with her..play the 'pretend' game(tell her youll pretend to be her bf for the day if she buys you a drink/icecream/popcorn later....and she should buy this for you as soon as your done..and after she buys it for you just say thank you and head home..dont stay with her! keep her guessing..cus you seem different..harder..m ore fun..show her you have class and you dont care..your not needy or clingy)....btw during your date while you play the PRETEND game..when you see things are going fun and shes enjoying her time..tell her something like this 'your such a wack gf..your not as fun today..you hair isnt as good looking as it could be(neg her basics) ..and you havent even kissed me yet!!' her reply should tell you whether she wants to be kissed or not...

    there you go..feel free to add a little twist if you like but keep the game played the same way!
    any questions feel free to ask..

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    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    Let me share a secret with you What I figured out in here and in real life is that you shouldn't game people you really care about unless/before you have solid game.. Know what works and what is a total turn off..
    Sounds like you've got one-itis mate.. I had the same with a girl a year ago and totally blew it.. So I will keep my help to the advice, since I haven't found an answer to this question yet..
    And just remember people you know have a hard time accepting your change from AFC to PUA..

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    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    Quote Originally Posted by Fakhry View Post
    your such a wack gf..your not as fun today..you hair isnt as good looking as it could be(neg her basics)
    This isn’t a neg its an insult. You have to be back handed with it and in this situation sniper negs are going to work best.

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    Fakhry Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    lool..actually depends on the kind of girl you use it on and the kind of relationship you have with her and the way you say it
    and i didnt mean say all of them...you choose one and say it in the proper fun way..it'll work perfectly
    hmm...sniper negs..perhaps
    but zliberm0 just dont neg her life out in one day or she could take it the wrong way(as an insult)..mix it all up with other tactics and it should all flow well

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    zliberm0 Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    cool, thank all of you, but i still have a couple questions...
    say i wait a week before texting her, should i mention our last date? should i just talk/goof around? and should i ask her out again?

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    Prosper Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    DO NOT mention the previous date! The underlying message she needs to receive from you is: You don't care about or even remember what happened on your last date. It was not important and does not affect your (interesting, fun, and busy) life. Don't "ask" her out either. Give her the privilege of telling her you're doing something one day and that she can (is allowed to) come along.

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    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    If you had a playful fun moment sure. Nothing bad though

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    zliberm0 Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    so a few days ago, without texting or calling anybody, i was invited to summerfest by one of my friends. she told me that Blond was the one who invited me and that i should come with.
    so i went with a couple friends and blond. I was really anxious and the car ride there was a bad convo. when we got to the concert i ended up paying for parking and one of my friends tickets, they were dead broke. I lead the way to the stage through the crowd.
    when we saw finally arrived at the right stage, there was still a massive amount of people in front of us, and me and my two friends wanted to work our way through the pit. however, Blond said she didn't want to go. She told me to go and have a good time and she didn't like getting touched by 100 sweaty strangers. I told her it would be fun once your in there and dancing, but she just wanted to lean against the wall.
    SO i left her there and went and enjoyed the concert.
    when the concert ended, we all met up and i saw her talking to some scary dude with piercings all over his face. i interrupted and told her to come with us. the walk back to the car was much better, blond seemed more enthusiastic and we had a much better convo. the car ride home was quiet, we were all extremely tired. My other friend got nauseus and she layed down and passed out on my lap.

    and i haven't talked to blond since, what are some possible next moves? and also can i have some constructive criticism?

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    BadMedicine Guest

    Default Re: i'm stuck in a strange position.

    I agree with one-itis. you need to cast a wide net and be working more girls at once. The more girls you're activly "courting" herherher, the higher your confidence will be, the less you'll worry about one in particular thats not hip, and the busier, more valuable, and less eager and available appearing (and actually) to any one of them, particularly this blond (which, if 'she's' a female... and I'm not judging you if she's not, should have an 'e' on the end;-) )

    This girl is playing you for attention, she likes being likes, thinks you're good enough to hang out with, but kinda blew your chance with the slow play since she's been backed. she knows you like her, have liked her a long time, and probably always will like her. I admit with some time off from her and maybe some cancelled dates (with good excuses of course..) and work her back up to believing in your value. You've already grovelled forthis bird and it's going to end in disappointment for you. Find two or three other chicks and make efforts from the go... I promise you it's easier to close and make impressions with a new girl, than one you already have a repoir with, but obviously is not a working one.


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