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    Default Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    Hey guys, I am in no way trying to brag when I say this, but I'm wondering if someone can shine some light on what's happening here. Basically I have 6 girls that I'm texting and all.. I've slept with 3 of them and could sleep with the others so that's no real issue, and it's not that I'm playing them all, they all know where i stand on having nothing serious etc.. it's just that I've recently been getting the feeling of wanting to be by myself. Like my mates and all give off to me about flying off with these girls at the end of a night out, but like that's what I wanted when I first started reading into this pick-up stuff.. only now it's like it rules my social life when out etc! It's great don't get me wrong, having this aspect of my life sorted is fantastic and the advice given on here in second to none in my opinion as it's helped my confidence and self-esteem so much .. but, is it weird to feel this way? Is it just me reverting back to my old 'AFC' ways? Have i biten off more than I can chew?

    If ayone else has been in a simliar way it would be good to hear your take on it, and what you did to stop feeling so... and this sounds messed up, but the only word I can think to describe how I feel is lonely...... wtf...... am I covering something up deeper down with all this women stuff?? .. jesus, I feel even more mixed up after writing this...sound like such a head case! lol

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    Makes perfect sense to me. While you have found a physical connection with these women, the emotional connection is rather shallow (which is normal if you are actively seeing 6 women).

    Maybe you should determine which one (if any of the 6 you like the most), and start hanging out with her (and sharing more of yourself) with her more often than the other 5. If that works, then stop seeing the other 5 and just see her.

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    yeah i agree with bill. you are having plenty of fun with all the physical attraction with these girls but are not connecting with them emotionally. figure out which one of the six you like the most and actually maybe treat her like a gf. start making some memories, hanging out more and all that. its never bad for a pua to get a gf. i am thinking of maybe dating this girl i met but she needs to keep living up to my standards and then ill have no problem dating her. and the best one doesnt have to be the hottest one of them, find out which one you connect with more and start hanging out more and making memories and making that emotional connection!
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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    Bill, thanks for that it! That's just what it is.. there is one of these girls that stands out heaps above the rest. I met her, didn't kiss or anything, and spoke for nearly a whole year on facebook and texts. Then this summer when I came home from uni (after reading up on alot of stuff) I made sure we had a great first kiss! But strangely she's the one I've kept away the most now. Looking at this deeper in myself, I'd say it's more about my fear of being hurt by women again by getting closer and opening up to them (two previous head wreckers ruined my confidence). Looks like it's time to bite the bullet!

    Crobinson thanks for reassuring me on what Bill has said, I've read your posts on here and you've actually helped me out on a number of issues without realising, so think I'd say cheers for that too man! And btw, the hottest one is the party girl.. and as beautiful as she is, defo isn't gf material! lol

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    yeah i would hang out with the girl that is total gf material and have some emotional connection but a good way to make sure u are the one controlling everything and not the one getting hurt is this. always make sure they care about you more than you than you do them. always make sure they are always more in love with you and make sure they have more to lose than you do. it sounds in-sensitive but it will help cause just like lots of relationships of girls with assholes. the girl always gets more hurt cause she always cared more. so try that with you, just always make sure they care more so you have control
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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    As a PUA with a GF I can tell you that its amazing. I find a great deal of joy and happiness from her, and her form me. One of the things I am always saying is to go out and meet people to enrich your life while you enrich theirs. If you take that attitude into a relationship it makes it amazing. I meet this girl through the game, and she knows about the community. From time to time she cracks up watching me sarging a set and working them hard, knowing that she is the one going home with me at the end of the night. But she knows me to be alpha, and I still do some Push Pull with her and play a bit with her, and she eats it up!

    You should be surprised by what your feeling, we as humans are wired to share our lives with others! Embrace that idea and feeling. If you not ready to “settle down” then don’t, but that shouldn’t stop you from being in a relationship. And a relationship doesn’t have to stop you from being social and center of the party!

    Congrats dude you are having grown up feelings! Lol, hope you find some help here.

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    perfectly said tcomea. rep++++
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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    Hey guys! I know, looong time since I got back on this lol, but I've been very busy and hardly ever on here. Thought I'd update you's, and unfortunately things didn't work out so well. Went on a date and after it we just didn't have the same spark as before as she, to be honest, became a bit boring. This I put down to too much virtual chat and I think I built her up to be more in my head than what she was. Oneitis?...possibly. ..

    On a positive note though, after this I felt better as I kinda just got over the feelings I had, which were definately holding me back and stopping me being my usual optimistic and positive self. I've met other girls and still just having fun! I have howveer become more open to the idea of having a gf after all this time, which to me is a good sign I'm getting over previous hurts properly now.

    Tcomea2...alot of what you said has really stuck with me by the way, I like your style lol. And Crobinson1, what you said about making sure they have more to lose is so true, I feel more in control of things using that attitude as well!

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    living proof that women should not be put on a pedestal...

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    Default Re: Is it weird that I'm getting fed-up?

    Amen!


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