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    dinorod Guest

    Default Help txting a girl who ive just met

    Met her on a night out on saturday night last week. She nice and pretty, but we didnt talk much on that night...As i knew her friend very well she was trying to hook me up with her. As i didnt bite cuz i was having a laugh i didnt go through with it..I txtd my friend bout her and she said that she said its ok 4 me 2 have her number ( i actually think she didnt ) lol.
    Now ive txt her to get to know her a bit ie work,age and so 4th.
    She txtd me last saying night on the monday, so i txtd her on tuesday...Now ive not hurd a thing..Im not going to txt her cuz i want her to think im 2 busy so im leaving it for 2 days..
    Now on friday im thinkin bout txt her to ask her if she would like to go 4 a drink.
    But im stuck for ideas.

    So far i Have.

    Morning Mouseface ( nickname)

    Yeah thats it LOL..
    Any help would be appreciated

    Cheers

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    jabu Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    'Mouseface' I'm not keen on, unless you know she's cool with being called that, it's based on physical looks and she may be touchy about it...as in may take offence to being compared to mouse. It sounds cute yeah, but a bit dodgy imo. It's better to get to know someone face-to-face, finding out about someone over texts is a bit boring, more of a question answer style to it which can be pretty bland. You know her friend very well, so use this! Sort out a night when you know this girl will be there and instead of ignoring her and doing your own thing, take some time to talk to her and flirt. Like on the night you say about here, you were having a good time so you were in a very good place in your own head to talk to her. You can go and do your own thing after chattin to her for a while, but I'd recommend putting in a base to build upon. Find out about her, make her comfortable talking to you and build attraction. After that texting is much easier with regards arranging another meeting etc.

    I think some more info on what you have been texting each other would be useful to get a better idea of how she is perceiving you here too. Did you tell her how you got her number? To be honest (and I'm being constructive here, not putting you down) getting her number from your friend was a bad move. What way does she perceive this?...probably that you aren't man enough to get her number yourself and you don't know what you're doing. But look don't let that put you off, just learn from it.

    Off the topic of texting here, but going for drinks is something I avoid personally...at the start anyway. If you're meeting up, just the two of you, remain sober (but this is more of a personal thing, and she may enjoy going for drinks with just you..you decide..you know her better lol) Nights out with groups of friends are less stressful for her too, and you can go off and relax for a while with your friends at some point if you wanted. Shows you're a fun guy, you're not just looking to get her drunk, and that you want to have a good time with her but you're also a social person. Just my 2cents man

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    dinorod Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    What happend was I txtd her friend who i know, and asked bout who she was...and she said wait a mo...bout an hour later i got a txt saying she's told me to give u her number, I never actually asked for it..So i think she put the hard work in, which i wouldnt of mind doing myself as u say it is a bit like im not man enough.

    txt's convo
    ME:
    hiya **** ( aint gona say her name) met u briefly on saaturday night, ***** passed ur number on to me. did u have a good night on sat? x

    Her:

    Hey Yeah she said she was going to, did i even say hello 2 u.lol..sorry if i didnt. yeah we had a good night we went crazy dancing, Did you? xx

    Me:
    No u didnt dont think i did either,sorry lol. yeah i went crazy dancing to but ended up in the **** the place i hate going x

    HER:
    oh my god how did u end up there? that place is truely awfull. i refuse to go there now.

    HER:
    oh my god how did u end up there? that place is truely awfull. i refuse to go there now. so how come you wanted to get to know me?xx

    at this point i thought wait a mo i never said i did, this is where i think her friend said sumat

    Me:
    it was either go home or stay out, and i didnt know if i would bump into you again lol
    You looked really nice/seemed it, so i thought il like to get to know her, but as u know hard to talk in clubs at times.alchol and stuff lol :P xx

    HER: Cool, i would of gone home, so what do u want to know?xx

    This point asked her age where she works and stuff and she gave the answers. i would of rarther done it face to face like you say cuz its easier, thats why i want to txt her to ask her if she fancies going for a quiet drink with friends.Also she asked me aload of questions also bout nearlly enough the same thing.
    She got the last txt in sayin night after i txtd her night.

    So really all i know is what ive asked and thats bout it, want to ask her for a drink/cinema or sumat so we can get to know each other in a atmosphere so she feels comftable.

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    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    ok i wont lie. you totally being beta. question answer and ur trying to joke but can totally tell your a little serious about things like not saying hi. and she seemed indifferent of her friend giving you her number. change the frame and reframe. i would go for the funny guy who likes to talk and all that and she likes to talk to. be funny and when she says something like i dont think i said hi. you could neg her/go over the top. it shows fun sarcasm and gives you a chance to transition to something truly funny. i would say something like "No you didnt say hi, but i could see it in your eyes that you were daydreaming about stalking me...wont lie a little creeper status there!! lol :P" so for your next convo make it fun for her and have a good time with it!
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    dinorod Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    Cool, yeah il make it fun but not over the top lol....i seen someone wright on here awhile ago when he txt someone 2 ask them out. sumat like

    hey frizzly pants, fancy going for a drink on saturday night. tick here for yes [] or here for no []

    kinda cocky i think. might work who knows lol

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    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    haha no thats a good one. but actually there are two good ways when she asks you something that is a shit test or close to it to see how you would respond. the best two ways is either ignore it and keep going or to just go over the top sarcasm and make it funny!! but yeah just make it fun and little techniques like that work like a charm
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    jabu Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    Agree on being beta crob. One thing I would change swiftly too is your use of words. Don't say you ended up somewhere you hate, sounds quite negative. She agreed it was awful which was good, but keep the convo on positive things all the time if you can...ya don't want to be reminding her of bad things so that in her head you're the kind of person that talks about good things and makes her feel good cus of it. And the 'you looked really nice/seemed it' bit.. don't give her that stuff, especially the physical part. You shouldn't care how she looks, it makes no difference to what you think of her if she's good looking. For now focus on what makes her tick, she'll appreciate it if she can open up to you about what matters to her, and you remember it. Then you can appreciate the physical stuff more openly when she's confident that's not what you're all about.

    You got the essential info like age and all, so when you guys do meet in person save all the 'finding out about each other' stuff until then. For now crobs said exactly what you need to do. From what you said there though you're defo on the right track for the type of frame to have with her man. The ladies enjoy the cocky attitude for sure lol

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    dinorod Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    nice, il probs txt her that 2moro lol. bout the tick here thing lol...was thinking bout ringing and asking but she might feel forced into a corner to say yes or really hesitate bout it.so that might not b a good idea. will try and keep up the funny,cocky fun txts. if u have any fun examples that would b appreciated

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    jabu Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    Yeah just stick to a text invite for now. Personally I keep phone calls for when I know a girl a bit more. An idea for ya...maybe text her for a while first to get her comfortable texting you and have some flow, then hit her with a ''You seem pretty cool! We should meet up Fancy a drink on (***)? Tick here for yes [ ] and here for no [ ] lol''. You could even change the 'you seem pretty cool' bit to something like 'I'd like to hear more about that, we should meet up and you can tell me about it ' if she was talking about something like a holiday, night out, whatever it may be. Just some ideas. It shows that after a bit of convo she has gained your interest, so you're not just jumping in with a date invitation. Which also shows you're not needy and are a fun guy.

    EDIT - Just realised, you could also say ''Let's got for a drink on ***!'' instead of ''Fancy a drink on ***?'' ... it's a bit more alpha, but you can gauge which feels better at the time.
    Last edited by jabu; 09-23-2010 at 01:13 PM.

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    dinorod Guest

    Default Re: Help txting a girl who ive just met

    Nice, use there convo 4 ur own gain in a way. will use these points with effect. cheers m8


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