background: met HB9
at bar thru a friend of a friend, hit it off rt away, next night we do a lot of kissing and dancing and she admits i was the hottest guy shes met in a while. (1st time that happened) also, i think she might be the hottest girl ive ever kissed.
the next weekend we meet again at a club downtown, more dancing and kissing. we do a little texting afterwards, giving me tons of positives and IOIs
, she doesnt respond to my last text where i mention calling her later. im pretty strong about not texting back if i ask a question and they give no response at all. so i make the mistake of waiting 2 wks to text her bac. when i finally text her she says, "i thought id never hear from you again! vegas is fun, wish you were here!"
i invite her out to friends birthday at bar the next weekend but she doesnt respond. i think whats goin on is 1st shes 29yrs old and i dont think shes much of a texter. 2nd this girl is so passive unless shes drunk, she hasnt initiated one text, so i need to be extra aggressive with this one. 3rd i invited her to something that was a week away and prolly too far away to committ. so i text her few days later and she says she is recovering hard core from vegas and hasnt been able to move all day, texts go pretty good. this is how it ended:
me: "Keep resting up & u will get bettr soon. Just pretend u will get something really special from me when ur all better.....like a cookie :-)"
her: Haha! Okay I will.. But u better have somethin special for me!! Lol!!
this was 7 days ago.
now, i need to ask her out asap, we haven't spoke on the phone yet. ive done a terrible job of escalating, but a great job of not appearing needy and appearing to be very busy.
-use nickname, easy for this girl, our first night she says, "xxxxx, can i be your sugar muffin?" but ive already used it a bunch and maybe i should switch it up a little bit.
-remind her the fact that she gets a treat once shes better and she better claim it
-bring up that its been way too long since we have seen each other
-the reason is cuz ive been busy starting my real estate biz. i think this is what initially attracted her to me, she doesnt like her job and wants a new career and i told her she could make a lot of $ if she got her real estate lic. and she loved the idea.
-finally ultimate goal is to get her to say yes to hanging out this wknd.
my plan unless i hear a better one is to send a text along these lines:
Hey Sugar Muffin!! You able to move yet so you can claim your special treat?! Been way too long since we've seen each other, and its putting a lot of stress on our marriage. ;-( .....Ive been spending all my free time starting my real estate biz but im free this weekend, drop our kids off at the grandparents and lets hang out sat or sun, which works better for you?
Hey Sugar Honey!! You ready to claim your special treat yet?! or still cant move? So long since Ive seen you and its putting a lot of stress on our marriage. ;-( Ive been spending most of my free time starting my Real Estate Business but im free this weekend, drop our kids off at the grandparents and we will hang out Sat or Sun, which works better for you?