Iím a 21 year old virgin with no relationship experience and the first time ever really trying I really farked it up. Iím currently at a vocational school called job corps where we live in dorms and can only go to town on the weekends. I started talking with the girl in early October and we would go out together every weekend for like 4 weeks but all we would do is converse and go shopping and occasionally out to eat.
At that time it had seemed like she liked me however I could never make any moves e.g. hold hands; kiss, put my arm around her despite all my friends telling me thatís what I needed to do. Gradually we started hanging out together less, despite my constant attempt to. I was thinking to myself that maybe she didnít like me but I was persistent and continued to trying to hangout but she there would be an excuse every time. I was missing her more and more, Iíd constantly think about her in class and could not get her off my mind, I kept telling myself when I see her next time I was going to step up my game and make some moves.
However I did not. Not being able to reach her to ask her out to town I went by myself the next weekend thinking maybe sheíd just go. She did, and I saw her while I was in the library, I went up to her and started talking with her and then just started following, I was trying to just hangout like we used to and maybe thereíd be a good opportunity to make a move but again I was too nervous. It was the weekend before winter break and despite me calling a lot; I could not reach her in order to see if she was going to town. So I did the same thing, abandon whatever I was doing and just follow her around and talk with her. Leading up to my two week vacation my friend told me she was now talking with this alpha male type guy, so I had my friend who knew him ask if he's trying to get with her and he said he wasn't but also told my friend that the girl I like was starting to think I was creepy because all I did was follow her and not make any moves.
I was pretty sad but in retrospect it made sense I was just too ignorant to realize what I had done. Itís now winter break and Iím still thinking of her a lot and how retarded I was. I was wondering if anyone had any solution on earth as to how I could salvage this mess. Any input would be amazing but Iím not naive, at least not anymore the situation seems hopeless and everyone I was previously getting advice from said I should move on so I figured I should get advice from experts.