Ok first id like to say im only seeking help here because some girl has somehow managed to steal a piece of my heart and then she laughed about it and broke it to pieces.I have a girl already who i Love very much and been with for a few years but a coworker has really effed up my head, i never looked for this i was only trying to be her friend.
It started like a year ago when we began working together i would always bring up my gf but i was just friendly with this coworker and we had a fun time at work talking laughin etc. Then she started to wear really provocative clothing (but i would try not to look)and flirt with me in a subtle way but i knew she wanted me,saying sexual things in a nonchalent way,sucking on a choc lookin at me in the eyes etc telling me she loved me in jokey ways a few times touching me all the time on the arm when talking. I told her not to wear such clothes and to look after my eyes that helped for a bit but she came back with vengeance.
After a year of this pressure and comments like"dont throw that away ill lick it,ill lick it for you" i gave in and tried to flirt back but because i am a buffoon i wasnt doing a good job at it,the more i did the less she wanted me which is a good thing really because nothing physical happened and my conscience is clear now.
I arranged to take her to the movies but didnt follow it up,i think she was like pissed at that.
So anyway she was hot and cold for a while then one day she seemed upset again and i was growing tired of this whole act, so i tried to talk about our feelings for the first time,i said i felt there was something powerful between us she denied it.i said i cared for her and dnt want her to be upset cause i cant give her more, she denied it said she didnt want more.Said that she could open up to me and that im like a brother or something,basically she kind of laughed at me and treated me like a fool. Now i know she has told other female workers about this, i know she said to one "i hope he doesnt get the wrong idea".
We are kind of bk on friendly terms but im just so confused, she does seem to be the attention seeking type with other males she used to be fat and she has grown into a really sexy girl maybe she needs constant reassurance .
How do i turn the tables on her,she has nearly destroyed my life.