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    releese is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    So I met this girl HB9 and shes an Aries. Im a Sag, perfect match.

    Anyway she has been the hardest girl ive ever went after but it has been well worth it! We met online and texted on an off for a few months until we finally met up and since then every interaction our chemistry has been amazing! Now we still havent had sex or did anything but kiss but im taking it slow with this girl because in the past ive rushed into relationships and they never lasted! Now at the 2 month mark is it ok for me to make our relationship official? Even if we haven't had sex yet???

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    Sex is no pre-requisite. But it's hard to say, I personally would make it official after that long if she was up for it and I hung out with her enough to know her.

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    Now how about game wise? She loves to chase and i have been giving her alot of space. Now how long do we have to play the game for? Wait until sex or until we are a couple?

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    One thing I know is that at some point, you have to escalate into an LTR if that's what you want. Your move will either make or break it. After an LTR is established, as long as you're not needy, live your life properly, and give her a proper amount of space, she should be fine if she likes the chase. The chase cannot last in full bloom forever, if she is the kind of girl who likes to do that forever, she may actually have a chemical imbalance. There is a chemical the brain secrets when falling in love, and during puppy love, and some people, men and women, get addicted to that chemical. I doubt she has it though if she has been dating you this long.

    I highly recommend being a couple before sex, heck, I recommend marriage as the goal, being religious, but I know that's really, really, really tough to make it to without doing it. At any rate, write off sex as a must for a relationship, there is no rule that says you must have sex prior to entering into a relationship. I personally think 2 months is good man, and I recommend David Deida's book The Way of the Superior Man in order to learn how to deal with a girl after a relationship has been established.

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    Also how much space should I be giving her? I try to call her every few days and text once in a while. Should I be making more of an attempt to contact her first each day or should I just wait and let her contact me first some days?

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    These are somewhat hard to answer questions, because you're hitting the edge of how far PUA community advice and expertise goes. You're heading into relationships. I would highly recommend you check out Scot McKay - he is a community guru who focuses on LTR's and relationship management. He's like "our man" for relationships.

    I contact the girl I like the most every day, with some off days. Just have something interesting or funny to say besides "what's up?" I let her contact me first some days as well, but you need to remember that the guy is the traditional chaser, so don't be offended or downcast if she does not text you first.

    Space is good topic. Personally, I think that in a healthy relationship, a couple should see each other a good deal. You need to be able to do this. If you can't, it won't work out in the longterm, never mind marriage, if you don't enjoy and cherish each other's company, even when seeing each other very often. There should be at least 1 night a week where you do your own thing, sometimes 2 or 3. You should be cool with talking to each other every day when you're in a relationship.

    Lastly, I know from experience that you do need to keep an eye on your girl. It's not needy, and you need to do it right. I had an ex who randomly started hanging out with a party girl, and she started going to parties and bars real late at night without me, for "girls nights" like, twice a week at least. Broke up like a month later and she was dating some other guy real quick. It was red flag behavior I should not have tolerated. I'm not saying I should have told her no, but I should have seen the signs, talked about my concerns, and if they could not be addressed, dumped her.

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    I feel like this girl is playing games. After almost 2 months of dating I sent her a sweet text in the a.m. and got no response from her all day. Should I freeze her out? Or contact her and ignore it completely?

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    Quote Originally Posted by releese View Post
    So I met this girl HB9 and shes an Aries. Im a Sag, perfect match.

    Anyway she has been the hardest girl ive ever went after but it has been well worth it! We met online and texted on an off for a few months until we finally met up and since then every interaction our chemistry has been amazing! Now we still havent had sex or did anything but kiss but im taking it slow with this girl because in the past ive rushed into relationships and they never lasted! Now at the 2 month mark is it ok for me to make our relationship official? Even if we haven't had sex yet???
    im going to use tough love on you, dont get mad, dont take it personal and just take my advice if you want.

    using the horoscope signs as evidence that you are compatible is the gayest shit ive heard from a guy ever! Please dont use that stupidity to find the woman of your life.

    you meet her online, thats a big sign that you are either scared of face to face interactions and your anxiety with girls is pretty high. i could be wrong but meeting a person online is not the way to go. you meet the woman of your life face to face like every man should do.

    the next step is up to you, ive never gotten a car i havent test drive before if you know what i mean. you shouldnt make something official if nothing has happened unless shes a virgin or she is a religious girl(yuck).

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    I agree with prjav that using astrology as any kind of indicator is mere foolishness and superstition.

    Secondly, it sounds like this is going nowhere really. The attraction just isn't there sufficiently.

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    Default Re: Dating for almost 2 months, wanna take to next level

    Quote Originally Posted by releese View Post
    I feel like this girl is playing games. After almost 2 months of dating I sent her a sweet text in the a.m. and got no response from her all day. Should I freeze her out? Or contact her and ignore it completely?
    Honestly bro, I don't know what gave you the idea you can already be couples with this girl. I dunno, I mean, shouldn't there be less second guessing if you're in that level of intimacy already? you guys power tripping or something on who'd make the first move every day?

    I haven't been in a relationship yet but I always thought there'd be less game involved in it since you already know the person to a certain degree and some sort of expectations have been set. Correct me if I am wrong.


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