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  1. #1
    Dash Guest

    Default So how are these for first emails?

    They are semi-tailored to the person but sometimes its just damned hard to say something interesting to someone who has a relatively empty profile. Oh and some information about me, im 26, average to good looking and have way more success in getting dates in broad daylight than online. I'm just curious what you think is good or bad about these few opening emails.

    1.
    Hi, I'm curious about you. Where did you move to London from and how come you are so interested in Asian cuisine? Are you desperate to go to asia for a second time or have you never been before? I've never seen someone put scrabble as a favourite thing on here, are you a geek? I thought you seemed like someone who was quite creative! Are you a gullable person and quite romantic? By the way, nice evil eyes in your profile pic! Dash


    2.
    You're picture caught my eye, it's real cute, definately an infectious smile. I see you want to explore London? This is something i want to do as well, i've been here for 3 years and seen so little of it. There are too many cultural places to check out it's hard to know where to begin. London can definately be lonely, i'm from the country originally and so i'm used to just talking to everyone, but here everyone keeps their heads in the Metro! I hate it haha.

    I'd like to chat to you some more, do you use facebook, MSN or google chat?

    So there are two examples. Totally AFC?

    Dash

  2. #2
    JP1223 Guest

    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Dash I could definitely give you big pointers on the emails you write. I actually spend most of my time writing about these things for a living. Your main issue in the first email is you ask way to many questions. This holds two things against you. You come off as needy by asking so many questions. This will be an attraction killer. Always limit yourself to one or two questions. Second, more then a couple questions makes it tough to respond. Online dating can get busy and we don't want her to feel like she is doing homework.

    2. You start out with a compliment. This is counter productive to attraction building. You must first generate attraction before complimenting. It once again comes across as needy and AFC in the second one with too many questions before actually talking.

    Sorry if that was harsh, the good news is, online dating is easy to master once you fix the mistakes which is not hard once you learn the tools =)

    Joshua Pompey
    Last edited by JP1223; 02-07-2011 at 06:59 PM. Reason: typo

  3. #3
    Dash Guest

    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Advice here would be much appreciated. How do you word first emails?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    your examples are AFC with a side of needy-ness, those messages are too long, keep it 1-2 lines max, you dont want to give the girl you talking to that interview feeling and the " I'd like to chat with you more" part is completely unnecessary also you need a catchy subject line, that will raise up the chances of her reading your email
    "Give her the gift of missing you" david d

  5. #5
    Dash Guest

    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Can you please give some examples of good 2-line first emails? Also, what sort of thing should i be looking to put for my profile description? Should it be similarly short? Such as:

    "There are lots of cute girls on this site, but if you have soemthing more then don't trust that i'll find you, get in touch?"

    Something more blunt like that? Try and make them think they are missing out if they don't do something there and then?

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    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dash View Post
    Can you please give some examples of good 2-line first emails? Also, what sort of thing should i be looking to put for my profile description? Should it be similarly short? Such as:

    "There are lots of cute girls on this site, but if you have soemthing more then don't trust that i'll find you, get in touch?"

    Something more blunt like that? Try and make them think they are missing out if they don't do something there and then?

    To answer your questions, I am a big believer that canned email responses don't work. They come across as generic and spam which is usually an instant delete. Girls can spot these a mile away. What's important is getting into a habit of scanning profiles for good information, then writing emails that use attraction principles, while including combinations of no more than two questions with a comment or two thrown in. Although that is just the very basics, there is a ton of stuff within this advice that applies.

    As far as your profile statement, your profile should not be short like your emails. You want to give an entire window into who you are as a person while building attraction in the process, and making it interactive. Your quote above would be a good way to close out the profile as an ending. Def implies some good demand.
    Last edited by JP1223; 02-08-2011 at 11:35 AM. Reason: typo

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    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Agreed - those are way too long.
    Here is something I say that works well-
    I like a brief challenge to them
    since almost all women say they love to laugh
    "hey when you are with me you will laugh- a lot but my question is will you make me laugh?"
    or just say -" when we meet will You make me laugh?"
    In some nice brief way make her convince you about herself.
    Also- I want to find out if I even want to meet them so if they answer poorly I figure forget them. Don't decide from their profile & pic you want to meet - wait to see how they interact with you.
    Here is a good question to get them talking
    "What have you done for fun lately?" or
    "What are you fun plans coming up?"
    All you want is good conversation as an opening to start-
    any good response & game is on.

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    Default Re: So how are these for first emails?

    Hello everyone. I am on a dating site and I have been using this message as a first email to women: "My friends say that I move too fast, but I am going to go out on a limb here! Will you marry me? Oops, I meant to say hi! :-)"

    I haven't really been gettting much positive responses with that, and I have also been using some other lines but I keep it short and simple.

    Anyway I used the line on a woman today and this is the response that she gave me: "Haha...well that depends on what the ring looks like.

    Hi. !" Now my question is this! What would be a great funny response to that? I understand that you want to do cocky-funny and all, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.


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