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  1. #1
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    Lightbulb Got # at strip club (not a stripper), How to text open tonight at 9?

    I am new here, but have lurked occasionally. Anyway here's the deal:

    I met a girl at a Strip Club (patron not a Stripper) Saturday night. It was a special event thrown by the most popular promoters in the area, so a lot of people who normally don't go there showed up. Toward the end of the night 3am (closed at 4), I ditched my friends after seeing an open seat next to this girl. I have no recollection of how I opened her, but it worked. We had a lot of light and fun conversation, and I found out she had a bf. He is studying abroad though. She showed interest, and Kino on her end was heavy. So, I got her #

    I sent a text right away and said, "hey this is Phoenix - from that special place"

    What do I text her today? I forget a lot of the convo, but I do remember her college and that she asked me to watch her purse when she went to the bathroom

    Maybe something like "Hey, I hope you've been keeping an eye out on your purse in my absence" or something like that.

    Can you help me with this text opener?
    Last edited by PhoenixSenator; 03-07-2011 at 06:35 PM.

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    give her a funny nickname, tell her it was great meeting her, and ask her a completely random question related to your conversation or some other activity that the two of you might enjoy. "Dear SpecialPlaceUSAgirl, random but fortunate meeting you the other night. [ how does ice cream make a SpecialPlaceUSAgirl who thinks strip clubs are a good place to hang out feel on a spring day? ]

    You don't seem to remember specifics, so I couldn't write you better examples. These are clearly not very tight.

    Whatever she says, next you say you should go do THAT thing (get ice cream) together. Or create / find another event similar to that one and tell her to join you.

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Quote Originally Posted by JonTylerDiPrince View Post
    give her a funny nickname, tell her it was great meeting her, and ask her a completely random question related to your conversation or some other activity that the two of you might enjoy. "Dear SpecialPlaceUSAgirl, random but fortunate meeting you the other night. [ how does ice cream make a SpecialPlaceUSAgirl who thinks strip clubs are a good place to hang out feel on a spring day? ]

    You don't seem to remember specifics, so I couldn't write you better examples. These are clearly not very tight.

    Whatever she says, next you say you should go do THAT thing (get ice cream) together. Or create / find another event similar to that one and tell her to join you.
    That's pretty clever...It might have been for a friend's 21st birthday or something. I violated the limit your drinking rule. I mean I was buzzin probably around a .06, enough to reduce anxiety, but also to reduce more details.

    I remember some more serious parts of our conversation. But they don't swing in my favor easily. I have a tendency to recall negative info better.

    Some other things I recall:
    People always mix up her school, with that of another school with a similar name.

    Despite where I met her, I can tell she had a bit of innocence to her, which I love. She reminded me a bit of one of my ex's, which may be why I piqued my interest.

    She's an HB8, petite, really big brown eyes and a perfect smile.

    Her friends almost became grenades and checked her after they saw me chatting her up for 10 minutes. I couldn't tell what they said, other than her name. So I read their body language and said, "Don't worry she's being good. She already told me about her boyfriend." They seemed disarmed and were about 4 seats away, so I continued on.

    I used that to transition to neg her about her choice in men. She laughed a bit. And I found out he's Muslim and she's Christian, and that she's not really comfortable with that and told me about the first time going to a mosque. I go to the same campus that he goes to (which is different than hers) so asked her if she has ever been to X bar on campus, and she said no. So I negged her on that, but really blamed her bf for never taking her there, and said we should go there sometime. This whole time she was touching my arm, then leg...She got up.

    When she got up, the Stripper performing for the person on my right started to talk to me while she was dancing. This stripper was actually talking to me for about 5-7 minutes while I had a drink by the bar. She didn't try to get me to pay for a lapdance until the very end, and we actually talked for maybe 2 minutes after I declined. Anyway, when HB8 came back (on my left) she saw I was talking to her. I probably said some douchebag thing like "I was just talking to her earlier. I don't like to pay for what I can get for free."

    The other things I remember was that went she went to the bathroom she asked me to watch her purse which was in front of us. Her girlfriends left with her to the bathroom, but the guy in the group stayed. I said what's up to him and he came over my way. I asked him about the girl who was sitting on his lap earlier. He said she had a bf. I told him that it didn't look like it, and that she looked like she wanted an excuse to play. He seemed kind of encouraged by our chat.

    HB8 came back and when she did put one hand on my hair and the other on my shoulder. This is when I exchanged numbers and she read what i texted her aloud to me and laughed. They left, I went to my friend and the club closed about 1 minute later.
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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Text #1: "Dear Sir Mixed-up-a-lot, so odd and awesome to meet you. Rare to meet great regular people under such circumstances. [ High Five! ]"

    Text #2: "P.S. What is better, a lap-dance, a beer at XYZ bar, or a back massage, and why? [ Sincerely, PurseBurglar ]"

    send #2 immediately after #1; type both together in one message, copy, cut, paste the second so it will arrive at basically the same time.

    In my opinion, there is NO possible way she could avoid responding to that, or for that matter, responding with enough material for you to escalate, set up another meeting, or both.

    "Hmmmm... I was hoping you said lap dance. I've been practicing."
    "Hmmmm... I was hoping you'd say the beer. You owe me for purse security."
    "Hmmmm... You should have said back massage. I could really use one right now. good girl points deducted!"

    later:

    "Hmmmm... losing good girl points... means gaining bad girl points!!!"

    Text #1 could be a little more exciting; still kind of bland. But you get the idea. Customize / calibrate to your liking. But just DO IT. don't wait for the forum to craft the perfect situation. something is better than nothing.

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Nice Post Jon

    REP++

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Ok, I have an update that I posted below. This all happened Tuesday afternoon. She said she would call me again later, but that didn't happen, so it appears to be on me to make a move and hook her back in. I'm not sure if its best to do it during this St. Patty's Day weekend, and I think her BF is coming back into town Saturday or Sunday. PLEASE ADVISE!

    Saturday March 6, 3:42 (I texted her as soon as I got her number, while she was still next to me LOL)
    Me: Phoenix from that secret place

    Monday March 7, 2011 9:08 pm [about 2 days later]
    Me: OMG Guess what

    Tuesday March 8 10:30am [she didn't answer back the same night, but she did in the morning]
    Her: haha i jus got ths, what ?!

    Me: made u look! looks like I got u in check

    HER: pssh ha what ya doin arab boi? [An inside joke from our conversation 2 days before. I asked her to guess my ethnicity that night. She said I look Arab and ppl sometimes speak to me in Arabic or Farsi, but I'm neither].

    Me: haha I'm texting u and driving to a client's house an hour away...dangerous I know, but I have skillzzzz

    HER: haha oohlala what knda clienttt ah ur such a rebel

    Me: I offer male gigalo services to bored housewives, either that or top secret stuff that I can't tell u yet, ive only met u once after all lol
    Me: so whats the queen of Seton Hill doing on a Tuesday afternoon, you know when she isn't at shady places in [city where the Strip Club was]

    HER: hahaa im gna bet gigalo lol at mi amigas house playn w some kiddies

    Me:lol ur funny
    Me: ur smart though and have good instincts. after all u trusted me as personal guardian to your purse

    Her: haha i had a good feelng about youu. glad it was n safe hands, top secret workr.

    Me: yeah it was so different and awesome to meet you. u never know where cool ppl will be. High Five!
    Me: P.S. What is better, a lap-dance, a beer at Peter's Pub, or a back massage, and why?

    Her: hahaa def thought u were the coolest lol uh bak massage frm a strangr er smeone ya knw? if strangr id say beer at pub lol i like the excitement, music, people ;D hbu? i want fun

    [10 minutes go by after her answer, and then SHE calls ME]

    Me: haha I am with the client now, so I don't have privacy. call u when I get out?

    HER: lol stil at my friends cribby il cal u latr tho boy boy

    Me: Hmmmm... You should have said back massage. I could really use one right now. good girl points deducted!
    Me: Hmmmm... losing good girl points... means gaining bad girl points!

    HER:

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Hmmm... She actually DID say she likes a back massage. I would have maybe not said anything about being with a client. Just ignored it if you truly couldn't have answered. Then maybe just called her anyway. Don't ask for permission.

    And I should probably have specified that the good girl /bad girl follow-up might have been better saved for a bit later when you had more comfort.

    It's in a nebulous area right now. I'd either freeze it for a day or so to see if she gets back in touch, and then maybe go in for the kill, or go for the kill now. Hard to say which one is best at this point.

    "You owe me for the purse, SecretAgentWoman. I'll take the beer at the pub now. Let's get together. [ Are you a lager or stout chick? ]"

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Quote Originally Posted by JonTylerDiPrince View Post
    [ Are you a lager or stout chick? ]"
    After thinking about this.. you could turn this into a neg if you needed. "I mean Larger. I have a buddy who is into big girls." Just kidding, don't use that. unless you think you can recover well. :-)

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    Quote Originally Posted by JonTylerDiPrince View Post
    Hmmm... She actually DID say she likes a back massage. I would have maybe not said anything about being with a client. Just ignored it if you truly couldn't have answered. Then maybe just called her anyway. Don't ask for permission.
    ^^^ Right


    And I should probably have specified that the good girl /bad girl follow-up might have been better saved for a bit later when you had more comfort.
    ^^Agreed. It wasn't organic at the time.

    It's in a nebulous area right now. I'd either freeze it for a day or so to see if she gets back in touch, and then maybe go in for the kill, or go for the kill now. Hard to say which one is best at this point.
    Well that was Monday afternoon and tomorrow is Saturday. You think I should go in for the kill tomorrow on a Saturday? I know it might be harder because of the weekend and holiday events.

    "You owe me for the purse, SecretAgentWoman. I'll take the beer at the pub now. Let's get together. [ Are you a lager or stout chick? ]"
    I don't think she's into beer enough to know the difference, so I think a different approach would probably be better. Any other suggestions? I like the first sentence. Maybe I could make it topical?

    Should I try to be more casual and meet her out somewhere or invite her to come to where I am hanging with my friends?

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    Default Re: Met a girl at a strip club, but don't remember much

    So you haven't contacted or received anything since Monday. ???

    I'll be honest and say I don't have a good feel for where you're at right now, but thinking about it too much more is just going to make it worse.I think maybe your best bet is to just pick right up as if nothing had happened (i.e. no time had passed), and just get to the asking out part. And you're going to love this one. It's completely original:

    "Hey, let's get a beer at the pub."

    No question. just statement. Whatever her reasoning... "Your account shows a balance owed of one beer for security services. I'm here to collect" is yours.


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