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  1. #1
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    Default Should I Go For It?

    How's it going guys?

    So I need your opinion on this matter. Any advice would be appreciated.

    I've been working with this girl for a few months now. We work together once a week. From the beginning I had a feeling she was attracted to me. She always sent me IOIs in the form of physical contact (touching my leg, arm, etc), body language (proximity to me/eye contact), and is playful/flirty. I would respond by being a challenge somewhat and teasing her. She is a cool and outgoing girl.

    I never made a move and I don't know why, but recently, she started seeing someone. They've been dating, and I know, because she hangs out with him during break at work. I don't know how serious they are, but it got me thinking.

    The thing is she is still sending me IOIs. Touching, body language, flirty, etc. I also overheard her talking to her sister about me as well, heard "big muscles" in reference to me (wasn't eavesdropping though). I don't know why she still does this with me in particular, especially when she is dating someone. She also likes to mention that she likes other guys from time to time. Is she trying to make me jealous? Does that still mean she's into me and I should make a move? Or should I just forget about it and move on?

    Again I understand that she's dating someone, and that would usually be a deal breaker for me. But I am planning on asking if she is single next time we work together, and depending on her answer, I'll take it from there. Just can't pass this up, and I'm prepared for it to go either way.

    But I still could use your guys opinions or advice. My bad for the long post, but wanted to give you guys the details so you would know what is going on.

    Thanks in advance for the help.

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    We're all 'dating' until we decide to be exclusive. There is nothing about it that dictates we must be monogamous. We owe it to ourselves to get to know people, and not limit ourselves to a serial pattern that limits our ability to do this efficiently with a lot of people.

    Don't ask. Just flirt, tease, and Kino back. Use qualification to get her to chase you a little harder, and suggest you hang out. She's attracted and probably still willing.

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    Hi

    In my opinion u are now investing on this girl and u are putting your actions upon their behavior.
    This is some reasons that should not comply to your attitude:
    - Few months working together with flirt.
    - U give her a lot of value (now).
    - U know that she is dating someone and apparently using it.
    - This seems like a novel now.


    Don’t take me wrong but based in your information my suggestion if simply to forget her ASAP.

    I know very well what is to invest in an amazing girl… the investment in girls normally f**** our lives.

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    Good to hear two opposite view points on the matter.

    Thanks for the advice guys.

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    invite her somewhere, like to the movies or a walk around the park, if she agrees, shes somewhat interested, if you havent made a move you could be in the friend zone
    "Give her the gift of missing you" david d

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    Hahah... Virus. You figure out how to hack the points system? You're a rock star on the points

    I'm not sure I agree with VisiniR. You don't have to give up. Forget about "hope," but don't give up. Get what I'm saying? You need to return the IOIs and push the envelope a little to see where it goes. Probably best to employ covert strategy. If you flat out invite her to dating-like activities with the implication it would be you and her alone, you might get shut down.

    Saying "we should hang out sometime," would be much more discreet. And if she says something about boyfriends or whatever, you can mask it with a "what the hell did you think I meant? You're cool. just hang out with me and my friends, Needy McCready"

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

    Hi

    I was not exclusive focus on the pick up… but what the after can do to u.

    I think u should find the answer in deep inside of u.

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    Default Re: Should I Go For It?

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    Hahah... Virus. You figure out how to hack the points system? You're a rock star on the points
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