the best thing you can do in this situation is drop her and spin other plates.. you need to show that this is unacceptable behavior
I think you guys all missed something...
If the woman wasn't interested in you, she wouldn't have texted you that last time. She would have just stopped responding. I believe she was hinting that she likes you but she is worried about losing what she currently has for an unknown...you.
As for not playing...you'll never win if you only look at the women who aren't in a relationship. There is a whole class of women (this sounds like one), who jump from relationship to relationship with basically no down time.
I would respond with something like the guy above me said. Then if, when she keeps texting you, you should future project with her (tell her about things that you guys are going, or should go do in the future). This will help her feel confident that you will be there for her in the future. Also, joke about how "naughty" she is. This will help her rationalize her "cheating" on her boyfriend by talking to you.
Finally, if you aren't interested in this girl, or you just want a quick fack, then don't do anything I've said above. However, she isn't in a health relationship if the dipstick she is with, doesn't or can't trust her, and it will end eventually, one way or another.
i was thinking the same, it was a kind of funny text to send if she really just wasn't interested.
ok, so the last text i sent her was:
Me: don't get the wrong idea, i like meeting interesting people and thought u were cool
its been a couple of weeks now with no response so how should i test the water with her again?
"Hey, I just saw the cutest little red vase. It reminded me of that one you were buying for your sister awhile back."
If she responds in a day, then text her with something like "How are things going?" and go from there. Keep them small and not too personal at first.
If she doesn't respond in about a day, delete her number and move on.
Basically, you want your text conversation to flow like this:
1) Pretext to text her
2) light, friendly conversation to engage her
3) Something funny that will make sure she is enjoying the conversation
4) Some sort of anchoring to a previous, more emotional or bonding conversation.
5) If you've made it this far you're back in, now start taking the advice from my previous message.