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    Default Should I share my frustrations?

    Hey guys, as some of you may know, I am very effective at helping others with sound advice. But when it comes to myself, I need someone who is Objective to give me some advice.

    My position: I have been with my g.f for about 3 months now, she is an amazing, funny, sexy girl. But there are a few things I find irritating.
    1: Her phone buzzes NONSTOP (im not even joking) with txts and calls and its pissing me off. Especially when I ignore my phone when I'm with her. She HAS to answer it, even though I tell her that "their her friends they will understand if your busy"

    2: The dreaded B.F.F. She has this B.F.F, I swear if you thought they were gay, they would be in a relationship. She is ALWAYS getting in the way of our time.

    I have befriended her, she loves me, but she wont take a hint to leave us alone. When we are getting intimate she will always pop over ....raging!! The worst part is she thinks she is so hot and always gets "free stuff from men".

    The thing is she may be a HB8-9, but to me she is a HB6, and I think she is getting frustrated because I'm not an AFC, and wont do all this stuff for her hahaha.

    So bottom line. I am an ALPHA, I never show that it irritates me. I act as if its no big deal.

    should I voice my irritations?

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    Default Re: Should I share my frustrations?

    this is only my personal opinion, but:
    for a relationship to work, you have to show understanding for your significant other (but still be the one on top of things).
    consider her approach towards you--> has she ever asked you to change something about yourself or had you do something you weren't particularly in to? if so, dont you think you should be allowed to get things your way once in a while?
    secondly, remember that girls and their bff's are really attached to one another, and they at times would be willing to do more for them if their "bff" was in need than if you were in need (this is not always the case but i for one have seen it done)
    i think that the phone issue is easier to solve, from what i can read youre saying she seems to be more into her phone than you .. could be a sign of disinterest towards you, but then again you should make it clear that it bothers you, it wont sound like your needy if its the first time you ask her to do something for YOU.
    the bff issue is a tad more complex. they can be a hassle and often times are, youre pretty much right on when u say that she's frustrated and she might be jelous not to have someone in her life (or does she?). by no means should you tell the bff to fark off, that would put your good image and reputation on the line. perhaps try and avoid situations that will force the three of you to be together, especially when you feel like spending some time alone with your girl.
    its important to let ur girl know what you want, but its also important to give her some space so to not seem too needy. in the end, you are the only one to know what you can ask for and what you should keep to yourself, and if you think that she is capable of understanding that her behaviour might be irritating for you, than you should voice your irritations.

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    Default Re: Should I share my frustrations?

    Yes, share your frustration for the phone. Tell her it's boring, really. Don't complain saying: "You don't pay attention to me..." It would be weak. If she doesn't stop, take her phone and turn it off yourself.

    If she really doesn't want to submit, take a walk and tell her: 'See you." Don't end up the relationship... yet. Just show it's getting on your nerves and you won't accept it no more.

    For the bff, do you realize you have a golden opportunity for a 3-way there? What's a hassle to day can be... a treat tomorrow...

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    Default Re: Should I share my frustrations?

    Quote Originally Posted by Alanswer View Post
    Yes, share your frustration for the phone. Tell her it's boring, really. Don't complain saying: "You don't pay attention to me..." It would be weak. If she doesn't stop, take her phone and turn it off yourself.

    If she really doesn't want to submit, take a walk and tell her: 'See you." Don't end up the relationship... yet. Just show it's getting on your nerves and you won't accept it no more.

    For the bff, do you realize you have a golden opportunity for a 3-way there? What's a hassle to day can be... a treat tomorrow...
    I like the "boring" line. Atm when it happens I will walk away and watch tv or walk off and continue doing what I was doing.

    The threesome is out. "I have never and will never have a threesome" haha

    To the first reply, the B.F.F has JUST broken up with a guy, so that might be a reason why she is CLINGING to my gf and sucking out her life. But damn! We cant even have an afternoon alone.


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