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This guide is amazing! I'm going to implement all the stuff i can, in a numberclose i got yesterday!
Let's first talk about false assumptions. One of the most useful types of false assumptions, I've already covered above in section 4.5 is to force her to give you more of an explanation.
Besides the 'accidental' misread above, you can do an extremely goofy, obvious misread. This can be very useful if you're drawing a complete blank on what to say, or you want to introduce some levity into the conversation (and light flirtation).
Her: I'm leaving on my flight next week. I'm so excited! I've never been flying before.
You: That's awesome. I tried it once, but I couldn't flap my arms fast enough. Once you get the hang of it, you should totally swing by and take me for a ride.
Her: You're funny, lol.
Next, I'm going to discuss innuendo, and how that leads back into misreads. Innuendo is simultaneously one of the hardest and most useful texting skills. Specifically, I'm talking about sexual innuendo. Much like how you slowly escalate physically in a real-life pick-up, you will slowly escalate sexually using sexual innuendo until you can openly broach the topic. Once again, I'm going to go to the example, then explain it:
Her: Man I have to stay up all night studying, I don't know if I can keep my eyes open.
You: Oh, I bet I could keep you awake all night...
Now at first the above might look really risky. What if she takes it wrong and gets creeped out? It isn't as risky as it first appears. First of all this is a fairly blatantly sexual because I wanted to illustrate the concept, and I most likely wouldn't start with this, unless she was being really flirty to begin with. Secondly, there is a great way to recover if you over step. Before we get to that, let's go over the finer points of the example. First, notice the double meaning of my response. One meaning is simply that I can find a way to help keep her awake, and I enjoy her company and wouldn't mind spending the time to help her. The other, is that I could come over and fack her brains out. Second, notice the ellipses. Use them. They indicate that there is more to the sentence than what you said. Thirdly, even though this is really pretty bold, it isn't near as potentially offensive as just saying, “Well I could come fack you for hours, and that would keep you up.” It's also slightly humors.
Normally you will get a positive response. A positive response is anything where she doesn't directly call you out. Bare in mind that there is a major difference between jokingly negging you, and fully calling you out on a statement. A minor neg is good, it means she is flirting with you. Even if she doesn't respond directly to you sexual innuendo, it will get her started thinking about sex with you. As you keep piling up the innuendos and getting more and more direct, she will become hornier and hornier.
Let's look at some examples to demonstrate what I mean between getting called out, or a flirty neg. Both are a continuation of the above example.
- Oh yeah? You wish!
- What makes you think you're that special?
- Lol, nice try!
- [no response]
- I don't appreciate that.
- [entirely different topic that feels really awkward after the previous one]
- mmm...that could be fun...
- I wish...damn school!
- [different topic but which flows organically from your previous texting]
Everything under the “Flirty Neg” and the “Other” category are good. “Called Out” are obviously not ideal. The good news is that you actually want to deal with the first two categories in the exact same manner. You want to pretend to be shocked by her interpretation, and then jokingly neg her for having her mind in the gutter. So you might respond with: “OMG! You have a dirty, dirty mind!. Get your head out of the gutter!” If it is a “Flirty Neg”, you should also add some sort of “humor mark” like a smiley, or a “lol” to the end.
The one exception to the above rule is if she suddenly stops responding. Make sure you wait for an extended period of time before trying to recover. If you get nervous and try to recover too fast, it could really hurt you. If she happens to have gone to the bathroom or something, and comes back to find that you are already “apologizing” for something you said, she will think you are weak and overly worried about her impression of you. However, if she doesn't respond for a long time, send her something like this, “OMG! I totally realized that what I said before could totally be taken completely out of context...Man I totally stepped in it!” Normally that's enough to repair the damages. Don't keep discussing the issue, just move on like it didn't happen, and wait awhile before trying to sexually escalate again.
Let's talk about the “Other” category. If you get either response 1 or 2, she is super horny and super into you, and you can pretty much dispense with the innuendo and be more direct. You still want to ease into the sexual, because sometimes women will use that to test you or to mess with your mind (we'll be covering how to move into the more sexual soon).
The 3rd response in the “Other” category means that either she didn't catch the innuendo, or she wants to pretend that she didn't catch it. This will usually happen fairly early on in your texting when your innuendos are mild. Don't worry. Even if she didn't consciously catch it, it will subconsciously start warming her up sexually.
Let's take a small step back and cover a less sexual and more flirty cross between the innuendo and the misread. You can actually intentionally misread what she says, to be more sexual than she meant it.
[She just got home from work]
Her: I'll brb, I'm going to slip into something a little more comfortable
You: I didn't know we were that close...you don't happen to have a french maid costume do you?
Like I said above, this is more of humor and light flirting. There is definitely a sexual undertone, but I use this particular application fairly early on in my conversations, right when I have got some mild flirting going on.
Lastly for this section, I want to leave you with my ultimate innuendo which will often bridge the gap between covertly sexual to overtly sexual. You want to use it after you've used several other fairly obvious innuendos, and she has responded to several positively and is flirting with you. You also want to use it when you either know that she is by herself, or she has been responding pretty regularly, and you can fairly safely assume it. Then try this:
You: Stop using your hand like that...
You: Oh, I think you know what I mean...
Now if she feigns ignorance, or tries to claim she isn't masturbating, you can pretend to be confused and tell her that “Carpal Tunnel syndrome is a serious issue, and she should be careful.” Obviously you are joking with her, but it will accomplish the goal. Well over half the time in my experience, the woman is already masturbating while she is texting you, and she will be utterly amazed and turned on that you totally caught on to it. If she isn't, it will put the thought in her head. If for no other reason than to be contrarian, she'll likely start.
Unless I think of something else that I absolutely have to cover, I'll start on the full on sexual phase of texting next week.
Thanks for the guide, it really helps at times. Looking forward for more sections
We've covered the rudimentary skills you need to start generating some serious sexual Tension.
At this point you have basically two routes to go to get the woman to commit. Before we get to that you need to recognize that you're working on borrowed time. Once you get a woman sexually turned on, there is a limited amount of time before she will lose interest if you don't seal the deal. If you need to put a texting relationship into a holding pattern, it's better to stall right before you start seriously sexually escalating.
Okay, so how do we get from covert sexual to overt sexual without risking too much? I'll cover both of my methods down below, but both of them assume that you have got her well into section 6 and she is responding positively.
The first method is the hardest, but it is still pretty easy. All you do, start making your sexual innuendo's more and more obvious. You know it is working if she responds positively. Many times women will respond with something like “mmm”, which is basically telling you that they are ready to go. Another common tactic I run into is when the woman pretends to not understand what you are talking about, and when you respond with something like “I think you know what I'm talking about...” they will continue to play dumb and try to coax you into being very direct. These are both signs that they are really into you. Once I've got them responding favorably. I usually move to something more direct like, “I wish you were here right now...” If they respond by asking you what you'd do. It's on. Start sending them sexually explicit texts. If you are a bit unsure, or the woman is a little skitish, but still obviously into you (often the case with more conservative girls), start telling her what you WOULDN'T do to her. This is funny and just as erotic, but not as threatening. Example:
You: I wish I were there right now...
Her: Really? Why?
You: Well I wouldn't kiss you lightly on your cheek.
You: I definitely would move to your neck, and slowly start tracing my way down towards your breasts...
The second method is my go to method at this point. So far it has worked with 100% success for me since I discovered it. It allows you escalate way faster and it has almost no risk of failure as long as she is flirting with you, and there is a definite hint that she would go all the way. I've posted this method before on PUAForums, so here's the link: http://www.puaforums.com/how-flirt/2...html#post15203
In either case you should have her either sexting with you or encouraging your efforts. I tend to keep my erotic texts in the super sensual range, nothing too crazy or dominating. You want them to think about exactly what you are going to do to them. The more sensations and emotions you can describe the better. You can even guide their emotions and experience by suggesting how they would feeling:
You: As my finger lightly traces a line down the edge of your breast, you involuntarily shutter in the mixed sensation of pleasure and ticklishness...
At this point it is okay to break the long text rule. You can also throw out the waiting for her to text back as often. At this point you want her fingers preoccupied elsewhere... As she gets more into it, coax her to text back. Ask her what she would do to you, and give her scenarios to please you. Most women will need a little coaxing to start. Don't be afraid to tell her that you can tell that she's a little bit naughty. It will help her rationalize the extreme sexual tension she is feeling with basically a complete stranger.
At this point you are often going to run into some last minute rejection, just like in real life. You deal with it the same way. You just agree and then move on. Most common is when she says something like “I feel so naughty!” As I mentioned above, just tell her, “You are, and that's so hot!”
Once you've really got her into it, tell her that texting sucks, and that she should call you. Once again this will require a bit of coaxing. Don't beg, but be a little firm that you are tired of texting, and at this point she will likely give in, after all, you've left her in an extremely bothered state.
Once she calls, you're on to phone sex. When she calls you it's going to be awkward at the beginning. What you want to do is get back to your previous conversation. The easiest way to do that I've found is to ask her if she is having fun. She will either say yes or give another last minute rejection. In either case, power through it and immediately pick-up from your last text. Generally, I've found that the best approach is to continue with you leading and her listening, and giving vocal cues. Speak in a low and sensual voice, and she will be completely under your spell for the time. You can prompt these by asking her if she likes it, ect. Don't be afraid to help her return the favor to you.
A quick note on pictures. First of all, most women don't get off on pictures of naked guy's junk, so unless you want to be the next Favre or Weinergate, don't send pictures of your equipment. If a woman asks it is usually a $hit test. Tell her you don't send pics, but she can send you some. Often times they will. If she sends you pictures and is really insistent that she wants one, I will sometimes send a picture of my upper body without a shirt, and no head shot. That's fairly innocuous and also the part of the male anatomy that more women want to look at. Then tell her if she want's more, she'll have to wait until she sees you.
At this point you are definitely ready to meet up and fack. I'll cover that next week, as there are a couple pitfalls to watch out for.
hey man where you at can you update this?
great info! thanks, this is a major sticking point for me
hey man, this is some great stuff. Would love to read section 8!
Great guide! This is something I have been looking for.
Thanks, some decent guidelines here.
Really awesome work man, this is for every guy who's ridiculously frustrated by girls and texting!
I was just wondering if you could answer a quick question, in SECTION 1 you say-
3.Do not respond to every one of her texts. Do not always initiate conversation. Do not always respond immediately:
By do not respond to every one of her texts do you mean just forget about it completely and not answer at all? and leave it days even weeks? My problem lies in not been able to end the conversation when it comes to texting, so any help would be most appreciated.