I've had a lot of luck with texting and gotten many women who I only briefly met to sext me, send me nude photos, do phone sex, and then meet up with me and basically tear my clothes off for sex all from only texting. For whatever reason I have a knack for it. I only wish I were even as close to as good in real life game. One thing I see a lot of guys focus on is how to open someone with text, or how to move from one phase to the next, but never a comprehensive overview of how to become a god at texting. That is what I want to remedy. Now I will be the first to admit that I probably didn't discover much or any of this first.
This guide is going to be long so I am going to do it in pieces (one a week). I want to give back to the community that has given so much to me over the years, and which has turned me from a loser who couldn't even talk to women, to a guy who gets better than average results, and can on a good night, get pulls that rival his MPUA friend's pulls.
Before I get started, I need to explain my goal in texting, and how it differs from the philosophy and practices of many pick-up artists. Generally the “rule” with texting is to use it as a means to generate just enough attraction and familiarity to then meet up with the girl and continue normal game. I used to believe this too. However, it soon became apparent to me that this was not the most opportune way to use texting. I am not particularly good looking, I am very busy in my professional life, and I still struggle with being witty and building attraction in real time. Therefore, I wanted to see if I could adapt my text game to allow me to establish myself as an incredibly attractive person, with high value, and get the women primed for sex long before I actually really hung out with her. I wanted to get the girl so horny and in to me that when I actually met her, all I had to do was be myself. I experimented with several things and finally hit the golden formula. I even considered writing a full ebook and trying to make a buck, but I figured it was only fair that I give back to the community. At some point, providing others find my methods useful, I might yet do a proper, more in depth book.
This section is going to be a bit “textbook” like, and a lot of review for most people, but I'm a firm believer in getting the basics down first. Let's go over the guiding rules for texting which are almost immutable, and which you should use to guide your every text conversation:
- Keep your texts short:
There are multiple reasons for this. First “brevity is the soul of wit”. Much like you will grow tired before you make it through this huge section, you don't want the girl to feel like it is “work” to read your text. Furthermore, the shorter the texts, the easier it is to have a conversation because she can ask more questions, and it takes longer to cover things. Also, each time she gets a chance to interject, she will reveal “hook points” which I will explain later. Finally, short texts convey that you are just having fun, and that you aren't too invested in her...this is a good thing.
- Use ambiguity and double entendre:
Your ultimate goal, besides establishing that you are not a creep and that you are an attractive person, is to make her laugh and then build sexual tension. One of the easiest ways to prime her for sex is to “unintentionall y” slip in lines which could (but don't have to be) taken in a sexual way.
- Do not respond to every one of her texts. Do not always initiate conversation. Do not always respond immediately:
Violation of this rule will kill your chances faster and more surely than anything else. In my experimenting, without fail, if I violated this rule, the woman would either lose attraction for me (considering me already “hooked”), or she would relegate me to a texting buddy (this is analogous to being “good friends” in real life, only it is even more impossible to get out of).
- Deny or ignore all attempts for her to categorize you as a “good” guy. In general be wary of sh!t tests:
This is a general pick-up tip but it is even more true of texting. Women will feel bolder on the phone than in real life (something we will exploit), but they will also use the impersonal nature of the phone to try to dehumanize you and turn you into “that guy I totally could have nailed if I wanted to”.
- Don't let your conversation become an interrogation:
One of the quickest ways to stall out an number is to turn it into a rapid fire question session. It is easier to do than in real life, and just as likely to get you nowhere.
- Never let on that you are emotionally invested in the outcome (this goes back to rule 4).
- Never stay on the same conversation or the same realm of topics for too long (unless you have gotten her totally in the sexual zone):
Much like real life conversations, you don't want to bore her. More importantly, texting requires an extra level of being entertaining to keep her hooked and responding. One of the things we want to do with our texting is Anchor the woman's emotions (covered in more detail later), to do this, we need to both figure out how to elicit her various emotions, but also make her comfortable with feeling a wide range of emotion while talking with us. Finally, much like bouncing a girl from venue to venue helps build trust and familiarity, texting a girl on a wide range of topics while she is in different locations, and keeping her curious, helps establish value and build comfort.
- Don't let her stay comfortable, or lead the conversation for too long:
This is a one way ticket to text buddy hell. I'll explain how you figure out how much comfort to build later.
There are many more rules and tips but they all relate more specifically to your game plan and how to avoid getting stuck in certain zones. This will pretty much cover it for section one. I'll start in next week with the getting the number, and the initial contact session of this tutorial. If you found this first section to be only review, please read the next section before you call it quits. Until next week, the above stuff will definitely help keep you from stalling out right away.