I was seeing this girl for a while now. Initially I thought she was trying to get me to chase her. I think she used some of those attraction technique on me. She would say "promise me you won't fall in love with me because all my male friends fall in love with me." At the time, I thought nothing of it. But as I spend more time with her, I found myself wanting to be with her more and more. She would always ask me to go see her and spend time with her. We would do everything together such as going to the beach, going to the movies, and dinner. And she would tell me what she find attractive in a guy and she said that I should change to be more attractive to girls. At the time, I though she was testing me so I said that I like myself the way I am and just laugh. I thought I was doing really well until suddenly she would always text me with the word friend at the end of the text. About 3 weeks ago, I had to go visit my brother in another state and when I came back, she told me that she has a boyfriend now. The guy was a coworker in her company. The company doesn't allow coworker to date each other so the guy said not to tell anyone that they're dating. She told me that she'd already slept with the guy but the guy still wouldn't say that she's his girlfriend. I think she's being played by the guy but I know that convincing her she's being played is not going to convince her to stop seeing him. She told me that she suspect that he has other girls. And I had a feeling she's really falling for the guy because he's always pushing her away but she kept coming back to him. Eventhough I acted like it's not affecting me, it's still hurt like hell. I realized my mistake was making myself too available to her. I read that the best way to get a girl to think about you is to make her go through a range of emotion. The guy is making her feels these emotions somehow. She said when she's with him she feels happy, confuse, angry, insecure and very attracted for some reason. She said he treated her like crap and always tell her what to do . I will chalk this up as a learning experience. I want to know how this guy can get her so attracted and how he can sleep with her so fast. She was a very strict catholic and take sex very seriously. I read that the best way to get someone attracted to you is to trigger emotions in her. What is the best way to do that? I am doing ok with girls but I'm not sure how to trigger emotions in them so that they'll be more attracted. Any help you can provide is appreciated. Thanks.
P.S. the reason I didn't make a move on her physically was because she said she didn't like to be touch. whenever, i accidentally touch her hand, she would always act offended. I was not sure how to get past that. Maybe that's why I was in the friend zone. anyway, please help.