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    Default stop start texting help

    Hey guys (yer on of my first times posting)

    I recently bought the b4utxther program and have seen alot of reults in my text game and skyrocketed my results but theres a small problem which is not mentioned anywere and I was hoping if I could get some guidance.

    Right first I off I met this hot girl in class manged to get her to meet up through text. The date went well and ended in a make out session.

    I Text her 2 days later and the conversation only does on for to two texts back, this has happed like 3 times now and makes it impossible for me to try and esculate even when I went cold for a week, I somtimes see her in class I can get attraction and even a date which she flaked on 3 days before the date for a good reason.

    So my questions is why is this happening when before the date was our texting so back and forth?

    Cheers to anyone who can help

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    ive had this with some girls before and this is what i find. with some younger women especially, it seems like if a date goes well without a makeout, waiting a day to show no-neediness is the best approach. however, with some younger or inexperienced chicks it seems like you need to make sure to follow up with a text after you part ways or the next morning. i think this might come from feeling "used" or getting the feeling that you did too much to escilate without proper comfort (see: buyers remorse)...

    with older or more mature chicks i would only text after with sex, but it is hard to read sometimes. let me know what happens. i would make it known that i dont stand for one word answers. try meeting again sooner rather than later. i think mehow and mystery put up some good texts to break through this sort of thing. you can try "if this is how its gonna be im moving out. and taking the cat" or the "bank robbery" one that a guy posted on here a few days ago.

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    i realized i referenced the bank robbery text without referencing the post.... idk if it is his origional, but im giving credit where it is due. here it is


    FROM SLEEKB: "I was thinking let go rob a bank, i need a partner..."

    she said : "lol what..."
    me: "seriously i need a partner, are you driving or shooting?"
    her:''lol im driving"
    me: "k, we are set. i hope you know how to drive :b, its on tomorrow during math class"

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    Yer man that bank robbery is one of my favorites to use as well. But the problem is not that I cant get her to respond is that when she does repsond she only respons for about 2 to 3 texts that is the real problem. no matter how many bank robbery texts I send her.Would calling her out on it prove to be any use if I do it in a jokey way or will it just show neediness.

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    idk man depends on the girl. here i would almost pull a Freeze-Out. i dont like useing freezeouts because i think it sub-coms "i want osmething and if i dont get it im going to be a jerk"... BUT if you give it a few days before texting again, make it something practical and see if it changes.

    freezing out here is a way of saying "if you dont respond, im going to get bored and forget about you"... remember if she texts YOU or responds positively, make sure you then "reward" her

    id say this is prob the best approach, read up on beat-hook-reel-release for the proper punishment/reward structure

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    and to answer your question, calling out is almost never good. means you are too invested and value her too highly. coming from the wrong place, bad beta-mentality

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    I respect bobs advice, but I have a different idea for you to ponder. Don't be the guy that texts... be the guy that calls. It's one thing to text a girl you're sleeping with. It's another when your text messages purpose is to get the girl to come hang out or to establish rapport. Girls at that age are really impressed by the guy that calls, because no guys call. Everyone texts. Just another way to stand out in a positive way! It also gives you more control of your interactions if most of your contact is in person while supplementing over the phone. Texts are too ambiguous at times, you may not know why she isn't as forthcoming in texting you because she interpreted one of your text messages as something needy, weak, insecure... etc

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    Great addition. If your going to call, make sure it is a time when she is going to not be "busy". Dinnertime, later at night when she is home works great...

    I've had success both ways, just wasn't thinking outside the box on the response

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    I agree with theBob and Trajan, fantastic advice. I might also add that these little txt falloffs are losing you status each time, and can be handled with Vin Dicarlo's "distract and reenact" technique (I think that's what he called it) from NoFlakes. Basically, whenever a txt conversation falls off or she otherwise tries to end it first, you Distract (change the subject briefly, as a continuation of the conversation, leading into the next part) and then Reenact (be the one to end the conversation).

    I find it is effective whenever I don't get a response from a txt I sent for a significant amount of time (relative to the tempo of the current txt conversation thus far). I even find you can usually combine both steps into one txt, or depending on your last message can sometimes drop the distract part altogether (especially if it is a falloff rather than her actively ending the conversation).

    Example:
    [...]
    Her>That's awesome
    Me> I know, right! The next show is going to be even better
    [no reply back for some time...]
    Me> anyways, dinnertime and it's my turn to cook, so I gotta go. at least I know it'll be delicious :P TTYS, babydoll
    [go about my business. usually she will reply back later with an excuse. Even if not, I have maintained control of the conversation and ended it on my terms]
    Her> sorry, my mom called. :-/ what did you make
    [at this point, I can resume the conversation, or make her wait until a time that's convenient for me. I can also neg her (poke fun) for disappearing, especially good if her excuse was passing out asleep-- a common one I get because I like late night txts and being on her mind as she falls asleep.]

    Anyways, this is just a way to handle a txt without giving up control or losing status when the conversation has dropped off. However, to keep it from happening again, I would combine it with the other guys' advice on this. Definitely.

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    Default Re: stop start texting help

    Yer man cheers for that no flakes info ( I should look into that product) well it turns out through use of that I got a date with her friday but have texted her today (using bobs bank robery text) and got nothing, might have to send on last text to see if we are still okay for tomorrow?

    Oh and can you please give me some ponters on how i should call her?

    thanks guys again you have been a great help!


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