fixed this situation so I no longer need advice
fixed this situation so I no longer need advice
Last edited by smerf 19; 04-28-2011 at 10:01 PM.
lol sad right
so a few things i must point out, you got a lot of skills and you certainly had her attention for a short while ... but I feel as if you gave all your power/strong points all at once, and now you've ran out of fuel. And to make things worst, you developed fast emotions to her. So now it feels like you've missed a few opportunities and it's hard to go back....
Here's just a few suggestions I have for you, use this "less-texting" to your advantage, so it reduces the clinginess and it creates mystery to you. Being unpredictable is your best bet at ressurecttion, because if you go on, it will get boring and she'll think you're a waste of time (brutally put)
Another suggestion I have is IF you actually like her and ready to be in a relationship soon, to ease things, ask her out and call it a date. Believe it or not, for shy guys like ou, knowing that status is there, means it's easier to make moves without thinking, should I or should I not....
it was just ment to be fun no long term relationship (im 19 shes 25/26) but feeling did show up. and its been clear that its a date, we did kiss but not as long as i wanted just a quickie.
2. wait, she called you out on the fact that you wanted sex? Am i reading that correctly? why are you getting upset if she is ACCURATE? you keep talking about this being a casual sexually-centered fling you're looking for. I think this girl is astute.
3. I think 200 texts is excessive. I don't think i've ever texted someone that much. Even fifty seems like a lot to me.
why are you calling her a bitch now? Because YOU don't know how to talk to her? because she hasn't jumped into bed with you?
I may get frustrated when i can't get laid, but I don't think it makes the girl a bitch, if anything, i hold those women to a higher esteem.
You're looking for the easy women. She's not one of them. Keep her as a friend because she sounds cool and find someone else for sex.
basically, specifically: what do you want from this girl?
Now once you've answered that, you need to take what she wants into consideration. if they don't line up, you have to move on.
what im looking for is just some fun for now maybe if a full relationship builds that wouldnt bother me, but the age difference pops in right there and dont think we can have a relationship. I also got 1 girl on the side now besides her so its not even all about sex to me. I think, i think of her more then she thinks of me....i can see a relationship beyond sex and i dont think she can(AGE). And She was wrong i wasnt asking for sex, sadly i respect her more then most girls i date/chill with and i was just asking if she wanted to do something else before i dropped her off.........cause our original plans were to go bowling, dinner and then drink champagne at her house while watching a movie and playing with her dog.
^^^update. so i asked her out to lunch thursday before we had class and she was 2 hours away from her house fixing her friends car and shopping. so she txt me about 2 hours before we had class and sais were not gona have enough time, so im like "aight chica, ill talk to u during class then". we get to class were chillin (bored out of our minds), she leaves 15 min before class ends, then i go to a house party and she txt me right after she gets out of work this morning, i tell her about the party and she gets mad and txt "i sure wasnt invited".
do u think she blew me off when she was with her friend or do u think she was really busy.<< she hasnt lied to me yet so no reason for me to doubt her, but its just a gut feeling and should i have invited her to the party knowing that 1 of the girls ive gotten with in the past month was gona be there.
Bro, you have balls right? Don't be such a pu$$y man, make the move, be in CONTROL! I know you freeze up, but Kino her man, try to make out with her and escalate from there.. You obviously see that she wants to have sex with you, so go for it!
stay confident and don't let yourself think that way just don't doubt yourself
it sounds like you definitely need to back off some and you have to come down a little and tell her how you feel if your not trying to sleep with her asap
you just have to get the mystery back into it with the texting and keep her interested. you "didn't invite her to the party" so even though she may have gotten mad you can definitely start getting that effect working for you now because you were out doing your own thing. Take your time texting her back; for example, if your at work text her back when you get off. It will keep it interesting for her, she won't forget about someone that is mysterious and not all about her all of the time.
Last edited by banza01147; 04-25-2011 at 09:55 PM.
^^^update^^^ so i backed off a lil, let her do her own thing, ignored her for about a day, then at like 10 pm she txt me saying, heyyy there!!!! way to be a stranger, i txted her back saying i was busy and id txt her tomorrow, next day i get a txt at like 10am when she got out of work saying she was sick.... so she tells me to bring her some tea, a movie, and cards. i told her id be in her neighbor hood in about 3-4 hours, i get to her house she had a headache or w/e. we start watching the movie cuddled on the couch, by now it was like 9pm, she sais i got champagne in the fridge so i got up and got it, then we drank that some vodka afterwards, then started playing poker, with dares at first, then it turned into strip poker....and the rest is history.
last night we started txting about our fantasies, our inner freaks(nothing too wierd), so maybe this gona be more fun then i thought.