I tend to stay away from girls with guys only because I know there are plenty of single girls out there!! but thats just me, and if you wanna game a girl with a man, thats cool aswell i guess lol!!!
my 2 cents here would be something different; I have a theory that girls who are happy in their relationships can often give in to "transference"
on nights out with peeps, they will inevitably "latch on" and transfer her feelings for her man to a potential option. there's no real malice, and she may not even know she's doing it, but its like a security default state girsl can go into.....she most likely likes you and trusts you in to let you play this role for her....
mite sound like a bitchy thing to do, but there it is......girls need that security more than guys and will psychologically look for it in other places when its not there
This might be what she's doing......
The only other time I've ever heard her mention her boyfriend was for her to tell me "my parents don't like him and his mother hates me..." and then proceeded to say that having parents like the person you are dating is important. Then tells me how annoying it is to be with him sometimes because he's a momma's boy.
So while she hasn't flat out said "I'm unhappy in my relationship" that doesn't sound like someone who is thrilled either.
use one or two routines for each stage : attraction, comfort, seduction. no more no less. the rest you can just have fun and be your attractive self. focus only 20% of the time on attraction, 80% of being you. if you can combine dhv into routines, great.
I was just in this situation.
There was a temp where i work, (I dont usually mix pickup with work but she was only there for a few more weeks). I talked to her, ran my routines, did a few things that showed her I wasn't like everyone else, that I was interesting, yada yada... She had a dream about me later that week and basically told one of my freinds she wanted to make out with me.
well anyways, I successfully F close this girl, and we see each other a few more nights after that. This was only supposed to be a hook up. Well I realized I started to care about this girl, we really had quite a few things in common, and the sex was great. The issue was, she had a boyfriend. dun dun dun! I never really let it bother me too much. so fast forward 4 weeks, we decide to start dating instead of just meeting up for sex, I dont deny it because I've started to like this girl. fast forward again 6 more weeks (this would put us at 2 weeks ago) She wants to hang out, I tell her I might be able to, but probably not because of family plans. I meet up with my family and do our thing then go over to my friends house for a few hours since i haven't hung out with them in a while. She creates drama out of it and it becomes a huge problem because she says she loves me and wants to be with me, but she loves her boyfriend too and can't leave him. so i decide to stop seeing this girl because quite honestly I don't want a serious relationship.
It took me roughly 1 week to realize this, and only when I went out and started picking up again did I realize this was the famous oneitis. I loved the sex, not the girl.
from what I've seen, girls with boyfreinds can make great fbuddies, but I wouldnt take it any further or longer than that again.
Tried out some Kino with this girl when I saw her this afternoon. More just for me to gague her reaction...she did not seem to mind at all. Touched her several times and didn't get a bad reaction or have her pull away.
It was mostly simple touching, but at one point I was practically rubbing her arm for about 5 seconds (not in a creepy way) and she just sat there and smiled.
Well, I just found out last night that this girl's relationship is on the complete fritz. Maybe that will explain her actions some more.
Any suggestion on how not to mess this up?