I've never had a compliment from a woman on my kissing. In fact, I've only had complaints if anything. And that is usually along the lines of, "You're not a good kisser". Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!! It's driving me nuts! You see, I'm not AFRAID to initiate a kiss. In fact, I want to very much. There's only one problem... I'M AFRAID OF BAD PERFORMANCE! Truth is, I've had sex with several women. I've had relationships, but I've also somehow managed to avoid kissing to a minimum and it usually only lasts for a few moments while drunk. I just don't know HOW to kiss, even when I just relax my lips and let the action "flow". I've read much advice on kissing but just can't seem to get it down. In fact, one of my ex's, when we had one of our first dates, made an excuse to get out of my car just to run away from such bad kissing! She said I slobbered all over her face. Okay, so admittedly, that was the 2nd girl I ever kissed and I don't think I slobber so much anymore, as no girl has told me that since then. And I think this past incident has hindered my potential to become a good kisser. And what I seem to be facing is that I don't think I'm a good kisser. I very much want to stick my tongue in a girls mouth and makeout for several minutes (currently seconds) but don't know what the hell I'm doing! I just kind of suck on her upper and lower lips and that's the end of it. I don't know what else to do. And when she grabs my head or tries to put her tongue down my throat, I'm stoked. I'm thinking, "Uhhh... what the hell do I do now?" So at this point, I'm just going with it and letting her do most of the work, mirroring what she does, unsure of where to put my tongue.... should I do the "8 movement" technique, where I'm not throwing my tongue in a constant circle, but exploring different parts of her mouth? I'm confused. Or am I actually kissing properly and just imagining there's more to it? I suspect kissing is better because it's just not feeling complete whenever I kiss a girl, even if I like her very much. Any advice would be appreciated. I have a 2nd date coming up with this girl I like very much and she very much likes me and has subtly BEGGED me to kiss her, and I need to fix this problem before she thinks I'm just not interested. Any advice appreciated and welcomed.
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