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    ok. so if you are dating a girl, what is the best way to maintain that girl and keep her liking you. whats the best way to maintain a relationship? thanks guys.

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    Default Re: maintaining a relationship

    hello?

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    I have been in quite a few long term relationships in my life (and by long term I mean anything like 2 years. I know it may not seem that long for others, but just take it for what it is.)

    The question you are asking is way too general. There are MANY ways to maintain relationships. Observe any couple you personally know. Sometimes, the woman in the relationship controls the relationship by deciding everything. Sometimes, the man is controlling.

    I personally believe that a relationship is never 50/50. There is always a chaser and a chasee. One person is giving more, the other less. I know it sounds harsh and cynical, but many times, you can easily observe it in couples you know. A lot of times, when things are great, things are 55% effort given to 45% effort give by the other. Now where does this tie into everything.

    Well, the best way to maintain a relationship is simply having and keeping a connection of comfort. Relationships last so long due to the level of comfort they bring. In the initial stages of a relationship, the act of gaining interest, rapport, and vibes is a must. After all that has passed, there is little game you truly must play. The game is gotten at that point (normally, however, it isn't always the case).

    A lot of people stay in crappy relationships simply for the sake of the comfort and ease of being in one. So, my advice to you is, create a sense of comfortableness. This can be done by connecting with that person, creating memories, inside jokes, and intriguing each other on a regular basis. Things tend to old quick, so to keep and maintain a relationship, make it comforting, and make it exciting. Get to know each other and things can easily flow. You get a sense of natural confidence and ease once you get to know each other better and better.

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    I have the PERFECT audio that explains this (but it is part of the bonus package for The Get Her Back Formula).

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    k thanks guys. so the girl and i both play guitar would it be a good idea for us to write songs together?

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    Why not. This girl I was dating for a while sang, as did I. I know, corny, but we always went out to Karaoke bars and had a blast. Sang duets. It was a lot of fun. There are psychological and sociological studies that show that the term "birds of a feather, stick together" is more true than "opposites attract". Meaning, in a relationship, you are generally more attracted to an individual who compliments your own characteristics, ideas, notions, beliefs, and activities/hobbies. Opposites attract is more used in the sense that people tend to grasp the differences in eachother and concentrate on those differences. I am sure you have heard how people tend to remember the negatives in life more than the positives. It's true with the differences in people. So when people say opposites attract, it probably means it is 1 little difference that the couple idolizes to differentiate one another. However, a lot of times these opposites grow into something the other person can share with the other, creating a new sense of bonding experience as the one will try to introduce him/her to their "difference" (be it art, music, broadway plays, etc).

    So if you have common interests, great, go for it man.

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    but would that create comfort? i need to know what will create comfort.

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    will playing my guitar with her create comfort? what are the ways to create comfort you think? shes grounded from me right now and we can only talk on facebook. lol.

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    Comfort is just getting into a level of acceptance to one another. It's the feeling when skepticism turns into acceptance.
    Anything can help build that. I am not really sure what you mean by will it help create comfort.
    Playing the guitar together may create memories and fun times which in turn helps create a sense of acceptance and comforting. There isn't one solid thing that will do the trick. It's just a multitude of things; the way you act, the way she reacts to you, the way you react to her, etc.

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    If anyone wants to access this bonus (how to keep a girl attracted to you), send me an email (bill@puaforums.com) and I will hook you up.

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