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    Travis09 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default We've been texting, but is she interested?

    I just met this girl recently and we have been texting for a few days, she seem's like she's interested but i'm not too sure, she has been texting me acting as if she is interested, she's been sending me a bunch of emotes and stuff, this is the last few texts we sent, what do you guys think?

    The previous night I offered to take her to a movie... this is the next morning.

    Me: Lol what time did u go to bed last night

    Her: like right after you texted me

    Me: Same, I fell asleep like right after I said goodnight

    Her: oh cool, i have to work 2:30-11 today :/

    Me: Its fine

    Her: ha alrighty

    Me: Want me to come and say hi?

    Her: if you wanna!

    Me: Haha only if you want me to

    Her: well I always like when people come & visit me! ha

    Me: Lol ok I will then

    Her: okay sounds good (:

    Me: Alright

    Her:

    Me: So me and my friend went to a movie last night, Transformers, it was good.

    Her: haha ohh, yall should go see a movie again ha

    Me: Haha he went home, and i'm not gonna go by myself lol

    Her: haha i Wouldn't wanna go alone either

    Me: Lol I know right

    Her: Yeahh, I cant believe im working this long today, ha

    Me: Lol no kidding but at least it pays money

    Her: yea true thats what keeps me goin

    Me: True that! So if you don't mind me asking, why don't you have a boyfriend?

    Her: I just really dont want one right now

    Me: Ohh I see. Makes sense then.

    Her: mmhm! Indeed


    She always texts me when she gets off work and stuff and always like to keep a conversation going but I can't quite tell if she is interested or not. Whats your guys perspective?

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    2 words.. friend zone

    she may not want a boyfriend, but if you were awesome and what not, she'd be willing to settle for ya. Your text excerpt demonstrates a lot of friendly and weak behaviour. You need to man up, tease her, make fun of her, play a few jokes then suddenly leave.. make her miss you.

    you can still score it.. but right now.. there is NO attraction in you whatsoever.

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    Through the text dialogue I do not see a lot of confidence in yourself. Yes, she is responsive, but that could entirely be due to you being in the friend zone.

    My advice, get a little more cocky and confident.
    When she said she likes when people visit, you should of said, "Hmm, maybe I will if I am not too busy."
    I wouldn't of even asked if she wanted me to come. It also seems like you needed the reassurance from her by saying, "its up to you". Don't do that. Just make her know what you want, and what you want is what she wants.

    Be a little more direct, flirtatious, and more confident. You can easily get out of that little Friend Zone.

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    Thanks for the replies, but, how would I go about being more confident and flirtatious? examples please?

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    Were you continuing the convo from the night before, brotha?

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    We had a convo the night before. But it wasn't continued that next morning

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Thanks for the replies, but, how would I go about being more confident and flirtatious? examples please?
    To be more confident, just be more direct in the language. Be more to the point. For instance, when she made a comment about money keeping her going, I would of taken that as the perfect opportunity to neg her. A neg shows confidence as well because it shows you aren't afraid to take her down that notch. For instance;

    HER: yeah it's what keeps me going (referring to money)
    ME: Oh, so you are all about the material things like money?
    HER: (justifies herself or corrects what she said)

    I also noticed you put a sad face at your comment about your friend leaving and you not going to the movies alone. Avoid sad faces. It makes a man look needy as if he needs cheering up. In that instance, I would of been like, "I never roll alone anywhere. I am always with people because I am so much fun." I know it sounds super cocky, but it does make her wonder, "why does he say he is so much fun?" It gets her a little curious into your lifestyle.

    Just don't be so hesitant with your answers when talking with her. Talk as if you already know her answer.

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    Default Re: Is she interested?

    I'ma break down parts of the convo where you need to tweek it a little so you're not just following her lead.

    When I talk about making statements it's a "general rule" that eventually can be broken once your skill set is up and your mind frame is coming from a more confident area. Not saying you're not confident but more confident w/ gaming.

    With the rest of the convo I'm giving general ideas to show you some basic guidelines...again, so you're not following her lead so much and taking more control of the convo and the interaction.


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: Lol what time did u go to bed last night
    Okay, if she left you hanging on a text you need to bust on her for that. Another key thing is to never start off convo's with a question unless you know here really well. Always make statements or bust on her.

    I personally would have just sent, "RUDE!!!!" and waited for her response.


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: Its fine
    I don't understand why you said it's fine? A long ass shift if never fine, lol...


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: Want me to come and say hi?
    "Maybe when I get done w/ the gym (playing John Madden, having a beer with my boys) I'll come through and bless you with my awesomeness/presence." Whatever your lingo is.

    Take control like the other cats above said. Pull up that skirt and grab them balls, son, lol.


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Her: if you wanna!
    Again, have fun right here..."If I wanna? No, no...It's if YOU want awesome company."


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: Haha only if you want me to
    You're basically asking if she wants to see you. Girls don't like guys asking, they like guys taking control, brotha. Right here you should have told her the time during her shift you were gonna roll in.


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Her: well I always like when people come & visit me! ha
    Right here is when you should have told her a time and said, "See you then."

    Do something random/fun while you're on your way over to her work, text her asking, "Starbucks or 31 Flavors?" whatever she answers ask what her favorite thing from there is and then show up with it. It doesn't show neediness, just shows you're fun/chill dude.

    This is where the convo should have ended and you goin' to her work for a visit. I'ma finish breakin' down the convo below though and like I said above it's so that you're not following her lead so much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: So me and my friend went to a movie last night, Transformers, it was good.
    Since you offered to take her and you went with your boy instead, this is where you poke at her a little. "Since SOMEONE wasn't up for having a good time, my boy and I saw Transformers..."


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: True that! So if you don't mind me asking, why don't you have a boyfriend?

    Her: I just really dont want one right now
    NEVER, well not never but 98% of the time don't mention boyfriends/ex's all that stuff. If you like her you like her and everything else should be irrelevant at that point.


    Quote Originally Posted by Travis09 View Post
    Me: Ohh I see. Makes sense then.
    Why does her not wanting a boyfriend at this time make sense, brotha? Nothing in this convo has proven it has made sense...You're just going along to her tune on this convo. You gotta take more control. Right here you should have been giving her a hard time and even got into a little role playing.


    ******************** *************

    You got a visit to her work so that's a plus but friends do that as well...You gotta take control and tell them what's going on rather than asking. Women don't like p*ssies

    You - "Man my schedule's kinda loose this week, I almost don't know what to do with myself."

    Girl - "I work all week but I'm off Friday and Sunday."

    Regular Guy - "I was thinking about going to see a movie, would you like to come?"

    You - "Nice...Well dont' make any plans on Sunday then 'cause I'ma take you bowling and out or the best smoothies your taste buds have ever touched."

    See the difference? One's needy and the other's like, "Why wouldn't you wanna hang with me?" LOL!

    Hope that helped, brotha.
    Last edited by CasanovasHydro; 07-25-2011 at 03:31 PM. Reason: SPELLING!!!!!!!


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