Below I put a text conversation with a HB I met through a friend. I feel I have lost the power in this "relationship". Before our first date we were texting back and forth on Friday and Saturday trying to find a good time to meet (we both had fluctuating schedules so many texts were necessary to coordinate and talking wasn’t an option from where I was most of the day). She would respond 90% of the time within 30 minutes and they were very long and fun. I would be fun, flirty saying things like “You are going to want to ditch your friends to hang out with me; I’m way more fun”.
Date 1: 2 drinks on a Saturday night was the plan.
What actually happened: 6 hours at 5 different bars with ioi’s, Kino escalations, and a kiss close. Last thing she said to me was “You have soft lips”, smiled, and we parted ways. This was 7/23 (Saturday).
Date 2: Well, my attempt at getting one. .
(First – I called on 7/27, left a voicemail to call me back about this weekend. . . the next day I started this text conversation; She's a busy girl, my type)
ME Thur 7/28 11:11am
Hey Guitar Hero (she loves to play the guitar), how's work/school? I'm going to cause a little trouble Friday night and I think you should be a part of it! Thoughts?
HB Thur 7/28 8:45pm
Hey there, how's it goin? i've actually got to work fri night for home health (she’s an occup. Therapist and current student) but thanks 4 the heads up & have a good time
ME Thur 7/28 9:45pm
Well, I hope my “replacement date” doesn’t feel me up as much as you did! How did your presentation go?
HB Thur 7/28 10:04pm
aHaha :P Miranda (mutual friend) keeps telling me it was really good so that's makin me feel good since it was my LAST one! Woooo! Well have fun, i'll be spending my fri w/an 80 yr old woman who I have to keep from calling the cops approx once an hr (so I’m told). :P : )
ME Thur 7/28 10:06pm
As an FYI there were 2 ":P" in your previous message. Proportionately, I don't remember seeing your tongue that much on Saturday. Just sayin.
HER Thur 7/28 10:18pm
hehehe : - )
(She gave me nothing to go off of so I didn’t want to reward her for a lame text back).
2 DAYS LATER
ME Sat 7/30 12:14pm
When are you available tomorrow?
HB Sat 7/30 6:44pm
Hey i'm actually working on my last 10-pg paper 2mrw & havin coffee w/a friend during my break time, but happy weekend 2 u : )
ME Sat 7/30 9:07pm
Oooh, mistext : ). I'm not even in town tomorrow. But it works out, I see.
(I was trying to play this off as if I mistexted her and was trying for someone else; I thought it was clever as I was into 6 hours of a bachelor party. . was probably drunk when I said this; HB didn’t know I was a bachelor party, though).
2 DAYS LATER
ME Mon 8/1 11:58am
10 pg paper? In 20 pt font, right? I'll be in town a bunch starting Thurs and I'd like to service your desire to see me again. How is your week/end looking?
1 DAY LATER (tonight)
HB Tue 8/2 7:29pm
Oh heyyy i'm actually working the whole weekend in home health where i'm w/the client for 48 hrs straight. :P wish me luck!
This is where it currently stands
Is there anything glaringly good or terrible in here?
I feel this should be easier if she was truely interested; may she could have proposed a different date?
Tips? or should I pull out?
I'm pretty desperate here with this one example, I really thought she'd have potential. . ..maybe is salvagable?
Holding a woman's interest after date #1 seems to be a BIG WEAKNESS in my game and it may be related to my text game. Would love some expert PUA input.