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    Agent_J is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default girl sends first message and wants to meet

    Okay the girl asked me if I would be "interested in getting together sometime? Movie, coffee, drinks - I'm up for anything and wouldn't mind getting to know you more."

    How would you guys play it? Would you present yourself as a challenge or give her your number or ask for hers? Would love to hear your opinions...

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    Is she attractive to you? Do you like her?

    Sometimes you get golden opportunities on a silver platter and trust me these are rare so you TAKE THEM NOT WASTE THEM!

    Don't play any games. You're next move is to ask for her # and ask her out simple as that. Very few times in your life will you get a woman being this blunt with wanting to get with you. She did all the work for you and all you gotta do is reach out and make her yours.

    I wish I was in your situation (100% of men would). Hell I wish I had a girl like that in my life once a week
    Last edited by joe23652a; 08-08-2011 at 12:58 AM.

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    Yeah I do like her actually. But I got so wrapped in the theories that I thought I was suppose to present myself as a challenge at all times, you know the whole push/pull dynamics and all. I thought if she was attracted, then I should push? I just asked for her # now, but I wasted 2 messages before that playing myself as a challenge and she hasn't been online since, and now I'm wondering if I should have just # closed with my first reply

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    to make her feel even more special, I'd shoot a message something like this.... just so you have total control and she'd be waiting and wanting you more...

    "sounds like you got our date all planned out. I'm pretty busy this week, but I can probably set something up for (in sert day: ex. Wednesday). What's your number? I'll confirm everything soon!

    Talk soon!"

    short and sweet. this way, you're making her feel special for squeezing in time for her, you took control by being the one to set the date and confirm later, and you also agreed to her outting ideas....

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    Quote Originally Posted by studmuffin52 View Post
    to make her feel even more special, I'd shoot a message something like this.... just so you have total control and she'd be waiting and wanting you more...

    "sounds like you got our date all planned out. I'm pretty busy this week, but I can probably set something up for (in sert day: ex. Wednesday). What's your number? I'll confirm everything soon!

    Talk soon!"

    short and sweet. this way, you're making her feel special for squeezing in time for her, you took control by being the one to set the date and confirm later, and you also agreed to her outting ideas....
    wow that sounds really good, damn I wish I did that. How do you know when to play the whole push/pull dynamic and to be a challenge?

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    its all based on vibing.. you can sense it.. when she's upfront, she's taking the lead.. but to be the bigger man in control .. you just have to take a step back, and word things carefully.

    push and pull is more of an in person technique to my understanding or a short text message game.... but right now to focus on this girl. I'd wait for her number, the fact you have sent a few messages after without her responding, might have made u look needy, so be patient and wait...

    if she's a very attractive girl, then definately be patient and just followup on the plans, act cool, and no pressures just enjoy the entire situation.

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    Thanks for the reply sm52. Okay so if a girl is taking the lead, should you step back and let her take the lead or do you try to take lead from her?

    I sent a reply to her first message to qualify her. She replied, and then I sent a second reply complimenting her answer as well as asking for her number, but she hasn't been online since. I will definitely be patient and wait for her response now, though I'm still kicking myself for not just asking for the number on the first message I thought an AFC would ask for her number right away, but a PUA would be challenging, ahh I'm confused...

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    Default Re: girl sends first message and wants to meet

    the MAN must take the lead... hence we ARE the man.

    asking for her number in the first message is not an AFC move, t's how you lead to that question in the message that classifies that. I always tease, crack jokes, challenge her a little just to make her work at it....

    ex. I had a girl who asked me to go out with her to buy groceries because she was home alone for the week.

    i text her saying, I can just give you a list of stuff I want you to cook for me, and I'll be there for dinner tonight @ 8pm.

    her response was: keep me company and you can also do the cooking.

    i closed the whole conversation with: I don't want to embarras you with my skills, but I guess you can pick me up if you really need the company! call me when you're outside.

    shecalled me when she was outside and cooked and fun stuff..

    this example shows how she tried to manipulate me with sh1t tests and i took control and i got my way and in the end we were both happy.

    patiece is good, challenge is good, but you need to play it, she's coming on to you.. so my theory is, be carefree and make her earn it but making HER do things for you and such.


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