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    troth59 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default HELP! girl mad about my past, how do i handle this??

    What's up guys I'm Tim. This is my first thread but I've been reading alot of stuff here and it's great.

    So I'm texting this girl Amy I've known for a while. We had a fling for a few months 2 years ago and we hooked up about 10 days ago at a party. The only time I see her is at parties on the weekends when one or both of us are drunk but I want to hang out with her in a sober setting. I've asked her and she's said yes and seemed pretty enthusiastic about it but we've never made plans. I've invited her places but everytime she's busy. So I text her today and this is how it goes

    Me 6:13p: Hey you

    Amy 6:24p: Hiiii

    Me 6:46p: Lets hang out tonight
    (I saw her the night before so it wasnt totally out of the blue)

    Amy 6:50p: I cant. I have 2 shows on

    Amy 7:02p: Im still a lil grossed out by the target story
    (I'll explain this in a sec)

    Me 7:17p: Thats not information i volunteered, its meant to be private. Why does it bother you? I remember us doing something similar at american eagle
    (I'll explain this too)

    Amy 7:30p: Cuz its (name of my ex)..
    (Amy is the jealous type and she never liked my ex)

    Me 7:55p: are you really holding that against me? ha

    Amy 7:57p: No im just sayinn

    Me 8:20p: Hmm if i didnt know any better, i might say youre judging me for something that happened over two years ago =P
    (Amy thinks im judgmental which i disagree with, im teasing her with that here)

    She never responded. Target story=i had sex with my gf in a target dressing room a couple years ago, it came up in never have i ever last night. The fact that she was grossed out by it is bs cuz american eagle story=Amy and I hooked up in an american eagle dressing room a couple years ago. Also Amy is very sexually open and active so its a little ironic.

    How can I fix this and fast? I go back to school in 10 days and I'd like to hang out at least once before then. And I don't think I'll see her again at a party this summer. Not looking for a relationship btw just a hook up.
    i did it all for the nookie

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    studmuffin52 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: HELP! girl mad about my past, how do i handle this??

    you tell her.. "it happened before I met you, how can you judge, you just lost 10 cool points for thinking even thinking that!" .. then lead into how you've changed and it's been 2 years .. blah blah blah and she needs to know you better to see the changes.. but she needs to provide you with the chance.

    this conversation needs to be in a charming way, and not in a serious tone.. then you'd killed the WHOLE MOOD and SITUATION.

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    Default Re: HELP! girl mad about my past, how do i handle this??

    Thanks, that's probably the best idea. The target thing actually happened after I knew her tho. I'm just having a hard time figuring out how much it's actually bothering her, whether it's just something she'll get over in a day or two or if I actually have some explaining to do. If I had to guess, I'd say I have some explaining to do based off the fact that she didn't even respond to my playful text. What do you guys think?

    Also, should I text her today? If I do should I just chat her up or ask to hang out again tonight? Should I assume she's over the whole thing or should I bring it up if she's still acting weird? I only have 10 days before I leave for college, so I'm kinda up against a clock.

    Thanks guys, any help is really appreciated.
    Last edited by troth59; 08-15-2011 at 12:37 PM. Reason: forgot something

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    Default Re: HELP! girl mad about my past, how do i handle this??

    Dude,
    Don't get distraught. She's got some objections, whether they are real or not doesn't really matter. Ignore the objection and lead the interaction in productive direction.

    Best,
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    Default Re: HELP! girl mad about my past, how do i handle this??

    play it off
    im not really scared of my past comming up becasue iv always sneak it in in innocent ways when we fisrt dated, so she will have no way of not knowing or overreacting now unless shes just being petty and she'll know that.
    hide as slittle as possible, my current girlfriend knew iwas seeing and fucking other women when i was dateing her, i make it known so no one gets hurt later on(and i dont need the stress) but still is ettled her and kept her. keep calm and aslogn as it comes across like you've done nothing wrong things will go well.
    if i were you guage the fallout of the situation if its worth appolagising and explainign yourself. or if its nothing you can still say sorry but continoue to say it cant be helped
    "It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most
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