Hey guys, Dean here.
I have been seeing this girl for 3+ years, so needless to say it's pretty serious. Recently I got onto our computer and her facebook chat was going berserk (she was chatting on her phone from work) and I noticed it was a guy who's been a bit sketchy before. The dude was big time flirting and she didn't really flirt back, but she wasn't shutting him down (Almost engaging him in a way). Needless to say, this guy is half my size, wears turtle-necks and crap, and has a lisp. It's a punch in the dick to even consider the possibility he's appealing to her. I'm a big dude, 6'3'' and 248 pounds, muscular but have a bit of chub, and she references scrawny/skinny guys as being really muscular and stuff, so her opinion on the matter is pretty obvious. I'm basically trying to get my confidence up and start seeing things from an 'alpha' perspective, and am looking for advice on my given situation and on how to appeal to women in a more manly or -the man- stance. (I've always been the gentle giant type). I don't want her to think i'm gonna smash dudes for looking at her, but at least to recognize the fact I'm leagues above the chumps she seems to attract.