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    Default Think I messed this first txt conversation.. any advice?

    Hey guys,
    I am quite new to the game, and I think I kind of messed this first txting conversation and got a pretty dry response/exit after. Any ideas for a recovery/follow up?

    Here is the story, met this girl on Sunday night, we had a good conversation, but I didn't get any contact info (got an little gun shy and yes, didn't follow up, stupid me) but I did know that she was working at a local library, so I dropped by yesterday and found her, and after talking more, she seemed flattered but hesitant, but I got her digits. She seemed quite guarded and maybe has gotten screwed over in the past, so she asked that we kind of text first and get to know each other, and move forward from there.

    Anyway, I txted her tonight just to say hello, she responded and we chatted about me looking for a job, but she was mentioned she was tired from a hard day and looking to go to bed soon. I made a joke about finding a government job cause it didn't require any actual work, trying to be funny, and it turns out she draws a government paycheck, and the public doesn't know how hard they work, etc.. So I responded Oops, my bad (didn't actually fully apologize) and said that I had worked for governement as well, so I was just being goofy. She seemed to be OK, saying no problem and all, but said she was heading to bed and to have a good one.

    I am pretty sure she was cool with it and all based on her last response, but I am wondering a) how to follow up this foot-in-my-mouth screw up with my next move, and b) any words of wisdom of how to get out of the texting phase and see how we interact more in person? Since I am new to all this, as much detail as possible is apperciated!

    Thanks!
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    Default Re: Think I messed this first txt conversation.. any advice?

    Brada u just agree to her terms and condition she is in control ,u nid to take order and be IN CHARGE. Dont worry about how conversation goes ,believe me iv mastered many skills including the skill of silence i can have many silent moments (on purpose) ,thats why i wont tell you exactly wat to say but rather give you a theory to develop a skill ,although when you are learning a skill its gud to have routines ,i use them to i got canned stories while developing my storytelling skills , there is an article on conversation with the emphasis on nouning read it and remember this ,if u start a conversation on a high note but end on a low note ,you screwed ,but you can take the conversation from a low note to a high note ,and just dont apologise.
    Dont have routines as the cards in your deck ,have skill instead ,because once a routine is done ,its done ,you cant do it again in the same interaction ,but skills can be done over and over ,so then you could play a card twice.

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    Default Re: Think I messed this first txt conversation.. any advice?

    Striker 9,
    Thanks for the advice, certainly I will keep those tips in mind. Still reading a lot of PUA stuff to get myself more in control of my actions and not overthink every move... LOL, I knew not to apologize and grovel after my screw up, but I think I handled it rather well in that respect. Question (for all the boys here Thinking in my scenerio, its pretty safe to say that I should be really comfort build here in order to get her out of txting mode and out on some dates... Thoughts, comments, objections?

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    Default Re: Think I messed this first txt conversation.. any advice?

    If I were you I would avoid talking about boring things like work with her over text. Even though you said that she wants to text first and take it from there, you should try to keep your texts light and short... and basically to just flirt with her and joke around with her... I'm sure she has other guys texting her to and you want to stand out from them .. The way to do that is to be unpredicatable and funny with your texts. Save the serious chats for phone calls or if you line up a date.


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