Hey guys this is my first post on this forum. Not really sure if I should give some background info but I'll run it down real short and simple. I would consider myself a AFC at heart, but I've learned to fight most of those tendencies but I still struggle with picking up on sings and knowing what's going on. Here's where I hope you guys come in.
I started talking to this girl who I was introduced to by another friend. I started off with some negs and always kept it playful we probably spoke for about two weeks before I got to hang out with her, I really had to fight off the inner AFC and never complimented her on her looks, always on something about her personality.
And well I guess things worked, we hung out grabbed a drink I Kino escalated and before the nights end she asked if we we were heading back to my house and we did, I closed. But now the problem is this.
I'm no PUA master by ANY MEANS. I've read some books and posts and I've kinda taken away little pieces and use it in my way, I've always been fairly good at talking to people but just never picked up on the signs females threw out. Now I understand them and close pretty well. My only problem is I never know how to keep the girl.
I'm interested in the one I'm talking too now, we have probably hung out 5-6 times and now I just have some questions hoping you guys could shed some light on.
1. Is it ever a good idea to bring up her ex? And why they're no longer together? I want to get a idea of where he screwed up and what I should stay clear from.
2. I remember hearing I shouldn't compliment her based on her looks, more so her personality. Is it ever okay to call compliment her on her looks?
3. I know you don't want to show too much interest when trying to get the girl, but after you've already had sex or have both established there is interest there. Should I still watch how strong I project my interest in her?
4. How do I find out how interest in me she is? Is there any kind of questions I can ask to gauge what she wants out of this or how she views me? I know, you could probably just be upfront and ask. But that seem's like I'd be demonstrating low value?
Anyways hope to hear some reply's, like I said I need help gentlemen!!!