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    Default Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    ok details,

    I was DJing at this small club. After I finished djing girl #1, who came to the club just to see me, was all over me and definitely up for it. We danced and then stopped and took a break. I had met this girl previously and we stayed in contact via text message

    I eventually got to talking with girl #2 who I never met before---she was definitley up for it as well. We kept touching hands, danced a little, she was touching my waist, etc. I could have taken it further but I held back because I was kind of with girl #1. So I got the phone number of girl #2

    2 days later I sent a text to Girl #2: " so i was djjing at and met this crazy colombian girl who was tearing up the danceffloor! Wondering how the rest of her weekend was? ~~ superstar dj "

    I saw this type of text somewhere online and is totally different from what I would usually send: "hi nice to meet you the other day, how was your weekend?"

    Later that day she accepted my facebook request although still has not responded to my text message.----guys this is killing me, i really want to send more texts but i don't know what to say to re-engage her. I'm so frusterated since i am not the type that uaually has girls that are obviously up for it in the middle of a club. I am always very shy and come across as very "nice" and "sweet"..

    Please please help---what should my next text message be and when?? Thank you guys so much for your help!

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    Definitely wait awhile. Your first text should have teased her man. Something like "I met this girl DJing the other night with 2 left feet. Maybe I can teach her to dance sometime"

    I have to think she would have been way more likely to respond to something like that. Bu tif you want to try to recover in a little bit (like 4 day- a week later) you could say.

    "Earth to the Colombian Space Cadet. We need you to come down from your dance party on the moon. This is Houston over.."

    Try to make your texts compelling, interesting and if you tease the girl you are technically flirting over text and it will yield more responses and results.

    No offense though man. I think you sort of blew it on the first text.

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    Hey Mojtio,

    I tend to come acroos the same way as "nice" and "sweet". First you need to stop freaking out. You can't assume the worst. Maybe shes busy or your text got lost in the shuffle. Remember your not the only she probably gave her number out to that night or in the last week/month. If shes hot and single assume shes talking to a couple other AFC's. The question you should be asking yourself now is how to stand out from these other guys. Now below are some great re-engaging texts i've used that have worked well for me. Good luck and keep us posted. also, be happy and full of energy when u send these texts b/c someway , somehow ur energy tends to show in ur texts. Some of these might be a little risky for you but take a chance b/c you have NOTHING to lose, she does.

    Examples:
    1)I am luring girls to my house with candy, which do you prefer skittles or M&M's?

    2)How is my little brat doing?

    3)I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like i have u in check.

    4)Hey goof, I bet my weekend can beat up your weekend.

    5)You just popped into my head so Hi...now please stay out of there ;-)

    6)You: Congratulations!!

    Her: "for what?" "what did i do?" "why?"

    You:"i was just thinking of u. congratulations:-)"
    Last edited by bigmig; 09-27-2011 at 12:11 AM.

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    thanks for the replies

    @in the tropics: can i still use your "2 left feet" text in this situation? I love it. perhaps i can re phrase it for this case?

    I have a feeling the "space cadet" text might be construed as offensive in some wierd way. do you have anything else or have any more thoughts? thanks again!

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    In The Tropics and Bigmig, thanks for sharing such valuable info with us. I will definitely put those re=engaging texts into use

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    Bigmig. I like #3 and #4 a lot. LOL!

    You can definitely use anything I put on here. Also give me feedback on how it works for you.

    As far as using the 2 left feet thing. I think it is going to be hard to neg her dancing now that you said she was "tearing up the floor." It is a contradiction.

    If you get her to start responding to your texts, maybe you could use it later. Like if you invite her out you could say "Me and some friends are going to X to dance. I figure since you have 2 left feet you could come and I could provide you some lessons. "

    That will only work if you start getting ioi's from her texts though.

    As far as offending her. Sometimes that actually works. Its better to make a girl feel something even if it is insulted. Reason being is then she cares about what you think. She will then begin to look for your approval. That is exactly what you want. A girl to be looking for YOUR approval. It causes her to start coming after you in her mind, and will then translate to the physical. Just put a after it or something if you are really worried about offending her.

    I will say though. The biggest thing about Picking up girls is truly not giving a sh1t. If they think you truly don't care that much it will make you stand out and set you apart from the AFC's. you NEVER want to be searching for her approval. That is what every other dude is out there doing.

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    @in the tropics. Good advice. This is new for me--i have always been the type to take every bit of rejection way too hard--its not something anyone else can notice but its all in my head.

    Any other re-engaging texts that you recommend for this case? i feel like i could use them for other numbers that I've gotten. thx

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    big news, lol! this girl just messaged me-- 2 days after i sent her the the first text. she said:

    "hello X, thanks for the sweet compliment I had a fun night! the rest of my weekend was good, how bout you?"

    ahh-- what do i say now guys...and when?! i have another gig coming up to so i can invite her as well, fyi.

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    Well man. 2 days is a long time for her to wait to text you back. That is definitely not a good sign. I mean it isn't like she accidently left her phone on the north pole.

    Also, the word "sweet" is another bad sign. Every time I have experienced that word it translates into "you are not getting into these panties" and "lets just be friends."

    I would wait awhile to text her back. Wait until at least tomorrow, if not wait 2 days. I would text something like "Hey it's good to hear from my newest friend, I have a gig coming up at X at Y time. You are invited to come and prove your dancing wasn't a fluke."

    The above text is good because you stuck her in the friend zone first. In this situation you need to disqualify her quick or you are heading in the Friend Zone direction without a doubt. Once you drop her into the Friend Zone it is more likely to draw her back in. Also the challenge about the dancing is good as well. It is a light flirt that gives the text a push pull feel. She will be wondering wether you are into her or not and she will be more likely to come to your gig to find out.

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    Default Re: Help-Girl Not Responding to 1st Text Message

    Sounds good, was also thinking of using one of bigmig's and answering her question with "bet my weekend can beat up your weekend"


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