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Thread: How to remain non-exclusive

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    Default How to remain non-exclusive

    First of all, special thanks to The Red Baron for teaching me this method.

    So guys,

    You want to date a girl and enjoy all the aspects of this without locking yourself down. I will tell you right now, this is totally possible with almost any woman is approached correctly. As I said in my intro, my buddy that I go game with regularly taught me the art of this technique, and any input from him would be greatly respected and appreciated from me.

    Quick little story. I have been hanging out with an HB9 as of late. She is gorgeous, awesome and a blast to be around. Even more fun to get intimate with. She was telling me a story about a guy she was seeing previously telling me he literally called her 10 times in a day. True or not, I could not care less. I don't think she was telling me the story to try to make me jealous or give me a sh1t test though, she was telling me that he told her that he was talking with another girl to try to make her jealous. She then told me that she said "Well we are not exclusive, so you should take advantage of opportunities that you have." I used this chance to say "I totally agree, I think that getting exclusive is not a great idea until you are sure that person is someone that you want to be with." So in essence, if she finds out I got a girls number or that I have been flirting or talking with another girl I can say that we are not yet exclusive.

    My situation is ideal, because she walked right into it, but this is the key.

    Compliments of Baron.

    Tell a girl "I really like you, but I am in date mode right now. So I am going to be seeing other girls."

    I like to say "I am not looking to get exclusive right away. I really like you, so I want to see where this is going, but I am still going to be seeing other people."


    Two great ways to keep your options open, and keep your current target.

    This is the key to having multiple LTR's, which is exactly what I am looking to do at the moment.

    Thanks again Baron, and I intend to continue using this strategy. You need to coin this as "Baron's LTR gambit" or something to that effect.

    -Tropics
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    Be the flame, not the moth.

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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    cool thnx for sharing i might be heading down this road shortly.

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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    Glad to see the post, sounds like the date went well!

    I can't take credit for it fully, I think I stole the concept of "I am in date mode right now" from style and customized around it

    I'll share my experience cuz its worked over and over

    Unless things move super fast (like sleeping with them the day or day after you meet them) I always tell a girl before we fool around - to keep it honest (the game is about understanding women and how the interaction works, you can game without being sleezy)

    Sometime towards the end of a good date I'll turn to em and say something like

    "hey, I really like you and I like hanging out with you, but I'm kind of in date mode right now, and I am dating other people"
    That's the key phrase, it moves it pretty well into multiple long term relationships. I've found very very little issues with this if you tell them early
    Then you can follow up a little more however you like
    "I like hanging out and I still want to see you I just want to make sure you know where I'm at. I want a relationship sometime when I'm sure that it's the right person, but not right now"

    Most important word is "date-mode", customize everything else how you like just throw that in

    After you tell them that you don't need to tell them anything else, you have the green light to fool around and do whatever you want with no deception

    I know some of the ..."I really like you" seems really AFC / beta, but it's ok when youre bringing up a topic like this cuz the girls instincts may say you are a player and you are combatting that with proper delivery and honesty

    People have different takes, but to me pick up artists aren't players, we are honest about what we do and take some pride in it
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval



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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    I will say just to update, I used this yesterday on the 8.5 I met with tropics in this field report (where he met the 9 he mentioned above) http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...t-tropics.html

    Works every time guys

    You CAN have your cake and eat it too lol
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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    Quote Originally Posted by The Red Baron View Post
    I will say just to update, I used this yesterday on the 8.5 I met with tropics in this field report (where he met the 9 he mentioned above) http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...t-tropics.html

    Works every time guys

    You CAN have your cake and eat it too lol
    Good deal man. Oh, a hunting we will go, a hunting we will go. We'll catch and 10 and her friend and not care if they go.
    There is no such thing as rejection, only feedback.

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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    I met a woman (HB7), and on our second outing we wound up in my bedroom after our double date with T-Billy and his gal. She was pressuring me to be exclusive, because she hasn't been with anybody in the last two years. I used honesty and openness about what my situation was, and told her I am dating other women until I find the right one for me. She was putting up all kinds of Last Minute Resistance after I told her that. With just being honest and telling her I wanted fun, and wanted to include her in on it, we F-closed. No LTR for her though, she had a psycho streak and a husband chasing her down! It's not AFC to be honest about what you want.
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    Default Re: How to remain non-exclusive

    yea, as a sexual sorcerer (literally, this is not just a dungeons and dragons term lol), I am a polygamist. There have been women who have been so awesome I would want to be exclusive with them, but as soon as I started to show it thigns would regress. The best rule of thumb you should use, next to the whole always be dating multiple women due to garden theory (If you want food, you dont plant one plant, you plant a garden, because many plants just wont be healthy enough to feed you), is this: The more exclusively you want to be with a woman, the more important it is for you to use this tactic. The words used by Red Baron are good. An alternative, which are the words I use, are as such: Tell her that though you like her and see potential, you are in the process of dating around right now trying to find the right person for you and want to make sure you make the right decision, and you have found that the healthiest relationships are the ones where people take things slow (women love hearing about taking it slow...or sometimes they hate it, which is even better because it means tehy will just try harder) and get to know each other and see where it goes.

    basically a slightly more poetic and elucidated version of RB's words. Thats just how I talk. most people dont talk like I do though, so keeping it simple might be b etter. I have found this works really well for me, because it illustrates teh whole point very well and leaves no room for her to dispute the frame.

    And if you did this with exclusivity actually in mind, youll find your "slow and steady" approach will have actually sped things up for you.


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