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    J.smith is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help, complete noob.

    Ok, usually i'm not good with the female of the species but yesterday I went clubbing with a mate, and we met up with some girls he knew. I got talking to one of them and she was all over me. We started kissing for the rest of the night and then i paid for a mate to take 4 of us home. Throughout the night we where together and she didnt seem uncomfortable (stroking her leg etc) and nobody was extremely drunk, also she gave me her number.

    I have pretty much screwed up imo, I texted her twice and she replied once but then not after i said it was me.

    Her friend is having a party soon and me and my mate are both invited so she will be there, should i carry on trying to text her? or wait untill the party?

    I would love to take her out on a date and get to know her, I'm just unsure of how to get it.

    Any tips?

    Edit. Dont want to sound like im making excuses but... She had 4 hours sleep then a 9 hour shift at work so maybe she was tired?
    Last edited by J.smith; 10-22-2011 at 07:58 PM.

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    GamingJapan is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help, complete noob.

    Well, first of all, you'll be happy to hear that human females are the same species as you and I. Try not to alienate them so much. They're just people. Not unattainable and incomprehensible beings.

    Two texts to her one. Not a great move as a rule of thumb, but you can move past this. I'm not sure what you meant about "saying it was me" and her not messaging you back. I assume you wrote something like, "hey you know this is Johnny smith right? Remember me from the other night?". If it was something like that, I'm not surprised she didn't reply. It sounds desperate. And if no one was particularly drunk that night, it's unlikely she's already forgotten the guy she was making out with all night.

    At this point, I would just wait until the party, or until she sends a text. If you haven't talked to her by the time the party rolls around, be sure to go out during the day (a few hours before the party) and talk to a ton of people to get yourself into that naturally fun and playful state that she will notice and find attractive. Talk to everyone at the party and most important of all, genuinely have fun! Notice I said talk to everyone at the party. I mean two things in subtext. One, don't focus only on her and two, don't ignore her. She is part of the group, everyone. Of course once she has seen how well you interact with others feel free to focus more on her. She is the target after all. Just don't monopolize her and don't be the guy waiting silently and looking around awkwardly while she's talking to some guy friend for 5 minutes.

    There are a lot of don'ts in here. But this is gonna be a really positive experience for you. I don't like having so many don'ts to say, but if you are indeed a noob as you've claimed, just take them as advice and have them propel you forward, not hold you back.

    Have a great time at the party!
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    GamingJapan is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help, complete noob.

    Haha! I just pulled Johnny smith out of thin air, then when I posted the reply realized your handle was j. Smith. : p
    The only failure is a squandered opportunity.

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    Default Re: Need help, complete noob.

    That is excellent advice that Gaming Japan just gave you. I want to take it a step farther and say that what he is telling you to do at the party is what you need to be doing in all social interactions as a PUA. Clubs, Bars, Parties, Funerals LOL jk...

    Talking to everyone and boosting your social proof is SO important. It shows preselection which is huge for getting girls. If they see a bunch of people talking to you, it makes you out to be the life of the party and very attractive in their eyes.
    There is no such thing as rejection, only feedback.

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