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    J.smith is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default What does maybe mean?

    Convo like this:
    Me:Good nigh yesterday? You working? fancy some lunch? x
    Her: Soz im working x
    Me: ahh ok dont worry, some other time maybe?
    Her: maybe x

    Rejection? She never opens a convo with me, but on the other hand she hasnt told me to stop texting lol

    Hmm what should i do?? Man up and ask again or step down and move on?

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    Don't give her an open-ended question. You started with maybe and she picked it up.

    You could have asked her since she's working and if you knew where she works, offer something like picking her up after work the next day and early dinner.

    Maybe she has some reservations about you, still trying to study your moves. So don't waste your time, ask her again now!

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    Maybe means that she has a choice.

    Don't give her a choice, tell her "Hey ___, I'm going to ___ tomorrow night to have fun. If you can make it, you're invited (:"

    Good luck bro, Jia you!

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    Maybe means, I'll see how I feel when you ask me again. She's interested but not THAT interested. You could try to find out what she likes to eat and invite her there. You'll most likely get a "yes."

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    How can i find out when she works? I dont want to sound like some sort of stalker haha

    I was thinking


    Got any special plans this week?

    No.

    Do you want one? =P


    What you recon?

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    No, no, no. Like Killian said, give her a specific time and place. Be there or don't. That's Alpha.

    You don't ask a woman to go out with you. You either say something like "we can go to "..." at "..." o'clock tomorrow night if you want to", or "we're going to "..." at "..." tomorrow night.". Tell her. Be in charge. Don't ask. And give her a time and place. That's very important. Otherwise it's just another "let's hang out sometime", which is not a good line.

    And about work time, maybe she once told you she would be done at "...", or she put something on her facebook once, or you could even figure it out by yourself. For example, if she works as a waitress, and the restaurant closes at 2300, she'll likely finish at 2315 or so.

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    If you are getting a lot of this crap:

    You: Are you free tomorrow? We can grab lunch at noon.

    Her: Sorry I work during the day.
    You: Are you free Friday night maybe?
    Her: No my friends and I are going out.

    where you don't know if she is avoiding you, or actually busy, just try this instead:

    You: What's your schedule like this week?Her: Well I work during the day and I have plans for the weekend.
    You: Yeah my weekend is no good either. I get out of work around 5:30 so lets grab coffee then, say on Wednesday.

    This saves you the bs about her being busy because she has told you when she is free. Therefore she has to A. agree to meet you or B. to honestly say "sorry, I'm not really interested."

    This saves a lot of time and effort: she either wants to hang out with you or she doesn't.

    -J

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    Default Re: What does maybe mean?

    Quote Originally Posted by J.smith View Post
    How can i find out when she works? I dont want to sound like some sort of stalker haha

    I was thinking


    Got any special plans this week?

    No.

    Do you want one? =P


    What you recon?
    Too many questions

    Based on personal experience, asking her questions implies that you are looking for her approval and response. This will let her think that you "need" her responde, so she won't entertain you or maybe she'll toy with you.

    You don't want that.

    You want to give statements which DO NOT imply that you require a response from her.

    When you make statements, you are telling her that you don't give a fark about her responses and that you don't need approval. She understands this, and will have the vision that you are a social genius and will know that you don't need to receive compliments and bs sh1t becuse you get it all the time and it doesn't make you feel any greater because you ARE great and you know it.

    Hence, she will TRY HARDER to keep you entertained because she knows you are not gullible and easy to please. When she does this, act as though it's normal and treat her indifferently, like she is nothing special. Then, acknowledge her when she is a good girl by doing something unpredictable and random like treating her like a dog and petting her head while saying "good girl" and smiling retardedly.

    This will encourage her to please you and will increase your prizability, value, mystery, coolness, comfort and will make her eyes light up brightly whenever she sees you or even hears your name.


    For example:

    Beta Monkey (Stupid): Hii, do you want to go catch a movie sometime? Maybe when you're free?

    This is stupid, you're giving her control and forcing her to make decisions she is incapable of making, due to her chick-logic mind which makes NO SENSE.

    You're basing this on her time, on her world, you're letting her be the boss. She doesn't want to BE the boss. She wants to FOLLOW the boss, you. Base it on your time. Base it on your world.

    Plus, adding "maybe" is just plain stupid.


    Use this:

    Alpha Gorilla (You): I'm bored. I wanna go watch ___ with my friends. We do have an empty slot though, so hmm.. alright, you may come. *IF* you're a good girl

    This implies that you assume rapport/attraction, you don't seek response or approval as you are making statements. Don't ask her, tell her. You make the decision. You can even see, in this example, I'm actually *Giving* her the approval, so she'll beg for more.

    Also, be specific. Make it easy for her to understand, short and sweet. If you let her make decisions, you're screwed. If you smart, you'll notice that I added social proof by adding "watching with my friends" and "empty slot" and also you'll appear very experienced at doing this a lot and that it isn't a big deal.

    Being hesitant also shows her that you don't treat her like she's some kind of goddess and that YOU make the decisions.

    You are also giving her *PERMISSION*. You know how when you were young and had to ask your mum for permission to do certain things? You will make full good use of that opportunity of that permission and appreciate the time. This is the same concept. She wil do her utmost best to keep you happy and appreciate the time you and her spend together.

    If you're alone when you meet her and do not actually have any friends, tell her "I told my friends to shoo because I decided to just watch it with one person today. Lucky you" (Pat her or Kino her while saying this)

    Finally, stressing on the "IF" implies that you have high expectations, and will motivate her to do her best to please you.

    This tells her that you are the boss and that she should be happy and grateful to be selected.
    Last edited by Killian; 11-07-2011 at 11:09 PM.


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