Day Game. Blanked out.

So I've been pretty much out of the game at this point. My last update in my mini-steps thread was March 19th and here's the reason why:

After going out with Zar, I was frightened by how needy girls could get. I didn't think that this could happen vice versa. With restrictions at home having my mother put her judgement on things and limiting me and the whole idea that I just love my luxurious life (nice clothes, cellphones, computers.etc) so much that I can't give it up.

I'd also run into the problem of not having enough time to spend with her. I find myself having a hard time striking a balance during the period of time we went out for. I lost so much sleep because either I was working, studying, body building or spending time with her, I had no time to relax and just be myself.

It didn't take long before I got drained out.

Recently, however, I started picking up on things again because even though I don't really desire a gf as I thought I did before as much, I wanted to improve my game. I didn't want to let things be just cause I won't have an outcome. I like knowing that if I wanted to have sex with a girl, I can.

I like the idea of power and choice. I want it in my hands.

What's really interesting is even though my game was off up now, Girl A wanted to re-initiate things with me today. We haven't seen each other for 2 weeks. We haven't call each other nor texted. Essentially what happened in the "end of the story" was I gave up. I ran away from it.

You might ask, how do you know she wanted you?

She waited for me. She didn't go to her usual friend who I couldn't communicate with. she knows that, she's seen this happen multiple times and she didn't go straight to her.

I actually stayed behind for a bit to talk to my professor after the exams and she stood there willing to bare some social awkwardness just to wait for me. I know it was weird for her cause she had this "uhm.. what should I do?" face. she looked like she was about to give up but placed her bag on the chair and waited.

A stronger hint was she held my arm twice while she talked about how she's excited meeting up her friends for lunch. I didn't react like I wanted her or anything, more like "just friends" kinda thing. I bumped her a few times and pushed her gently when she said she didn't have anymore exams (I still have 1 more to go).

A really strong hint at the end was she started telling me about going to Japan for studies a year from now including which university she's going to (even though she told me how her bf would get so mad).

She also said that she's working during the summer and will be available to hang out and to "give her a call". It sounded like "I'm going to be out of the presences of my boyfriend, come find me if you still want to get it on."

My thoughts

I didn't understand this. I thought I totally blew it. I didn't say anything to her no more, our conversation today was pretty much boring (I didn't do anything on purpose to try to be interesting), she did most of the talking as usual.

She totally pushed me off and rubbed it in my face back in December with that phone Call to her bf during our "meet up" which caused me to completely let go of her. Now she wants me back?

Guys what do you think of this situation? Is she some messed up psycho that I shouldn't come into contact again? Should I try things with her again? What's the deal here?

As I've said before, I've got no place for her to "hang out" at my home. The only potential viable place would be my car and if any sex is going to happen, I guess it'll have to do there since her bf lives with her. But, to me, this isn't making much sense.

I'll give you my advice but first you would need to answer some questions so I can get a better understanding of the situation.

1) Has your mum has laid the smack down on you and said you cannot have girls over?
2) Who is Zar?
3) Can you and her legally drink, meaning can you go clubbing or bars?
4) Do you know if the boyfriend is real?

I still think you can get her (if you still want to) but your gonna need to strategize.

ok, dont think i have the best advice but here's what im thinking

Person A-
i think that you need to establish some type of physical communication if you want to take things to the next level. dont sit with her every day in class (really not a good idea), but maybe one day get there a few minutes early and sit with her. get a good convo going and keep her interested. when class is done tell her that you got to run for some reason and leave somewhat abruptly. id say the next day you should sit back with the people you were sitting with before and see if shes sad.

Person B-
I dont know exactly what to do to make the situation better, but id say that you need to relax when you try to make her laugh, if she doesnt think its funny tell her she doesnt have a sense a humor. as for waiting for her after class, i think that shows being desperate. you want her to want you, not you to wait for her. just leave.

Hmmm not good. you have to go somewhere with her to go beyond first base, since you can't go back to your house because of your mother and can't go back to her place because of her boyfriend your situation is kinda farked.

Before thinking about what to do next about this girl you should address your general situation first which is while you live with your mother your going to be forced to date a girl who fits her liking or sneak around behind her back, which when your at least 21 years of age is pretty unbecoming.

Your options from here are

a) convince your mother to lax her standards
b) move out of home
c) do nothing

Option a) is by far the best option because you will get everything you want. b) may not even be an option depending on your financial situation and c) is a Sh1tty option because let's face it, you only live once and your missing the oppertunity to see the type of girls which make you happy.

Gl and keep me updated.

A lot of guys ask me about how they can really impress a woman, anywhere, even in broad daylight. I mean, you walk up and start talking to a girl, you don’t want her to think you’re lame or anything.

Chris and I talk a lot about this. Guys think they need the perfect opening line and to say all the right things to make a girl fall right in love with you right away.

You’re trying too hard and that certainly doesn’t impress her. It doesn’t impress anyone.

But here’s the real secret to impressing woman. Stop trying.


Too many guys go out of their way to try to impress women, and women are tired of it. It makes guys come across as insecure since they just HAVE to impress her.

Be calm, be confident. Have an interesting conversation with her. Be playful and tease her. Make sure she has fun with you.
That’s how you create attraction, and impress her.

So, yeah, you impress her by NOT trying to impress her.

It’s much, much more important that SHE impresses YOU.

hey guys..just wanted to ask a quick question
theres a girl i just met..shes in my social circle..this girl is sooo cool and she also really hottt...lol
shes more of the fun type of girl, she has a bf but cant be faithful..so yeah its easy doing ''stuff'' with her
but...
i want her to actually look at me as the guy thats above the rest..a guy she'd actually wanna be with and not bother cheating on etc etc
she texts me like everyday or calls..thats a plus for me i guess...we've met once and after the 'date' she sms'd me saying she had fun with me... but the thing is i didnt kiss-close..i couldnt be too sure..shes 'different' ..a bit hard to figure out and shes really smart
im not sure if shes looking at me as a friend or more...

today she called for like 10seconds just to ask how i was lol and as soon as she cut i sent a text..this is how it went:

me: you just cant get enough of me can you?

her: ahn ahn, fake oyinbo! lol(slang for 'white boy'...shes african and me myself im more african than i am white sooo...you get the joke)

me: yeah whatever...horse hair :P (her hair is long and horse-ish lol)

her: midget :P :P :P :P :P :P :P (im kinda short..although we are the same height)


i havent replied yet.. was thinking maybe id ignore and keep her wondering how come i didnt reply(shes done that for me TWICE!! lol) ...or maybe say something..but im not sure yet
im in nigeria atm..and after 12.30am all calls are free and shes been calling everyday for the past 2-3days... she might call today..but im thinking id just tell her i wanna sleep instead and show she cant get me all the time?!

advice people???

thank you GUNSNGLORY that perfectly made sense...but as they all say..you cant cook that perfect meal without knowing the ingredients to use and when to use em lol
how exactly do i show her that i have other women waiting on the line...and what do i do when she keeps calling or texting everyday? do i continue to communicate or stop her from calling everyday? and when she doesnt call for like 2days should i call her?
also shes leaving the country for good in bout 4 weeks...so i dont need anything serious with her..im sure she doesnt with me..maybe she just wants to have fun :P
she also lives really close to me..bout a 5-10minute drive..
i dont wanna take my time..cus 4weeks is quite short...i wanna have A LOT of fun..the most i can have before she leaves.. what would YOU do??