She's totally into me, and I act like an idiot..how to get back in?

Out with a group of ex-coworkers including one really hot girl that I already had some chemistry with before I left my last job. Hadn't seen her in two months but we had txt'd back and forth about going out.

She comes up to me as soon as I get in the club and she's so hot that I blank out and start doing some negging, which only made me look like a jackass in the end. She kept fishing for complements, which in hindsight I think I should have actually given her since there was already enough attraction built up.

Eventually we couldn't strike up any decent conversation (flirty or meaningful). And then almost like a light switch went off in her head she started slamming drinks and flirting with every guy in the club BUT me, even when I tried to talk to her, and I'm not sure but I think she left the club with one of the 20 guys that hit on her that night.

QUESTION: I took a picture of her and some girls last night on my phone. I'm thinking of sending it to her and saying "good to see you last night". Is this a good step towards getting back in the game, or should I just pack it up and move on? To be honest, I've had plenty of success with women, but never bagged the "model" super hot type, plus she's smart and seems to have her stuff together. Thats the only reason I'm stressing on this one...

Every girl wants to be with a guy who is the life of the party. If you hit a spot where you can't talk to her then move on. Go open a few groups and let her see you being sociable and fun. I had a girl that for no reason was just completely cold to me (which immediately turned her into a target). I opened a group next to hers and lured some of the guys in her group into the conversation. I won over the guys in her group and she automatically warmed up to me after about 5 minutes. I left the bar with her phone number. She was the only girl in a 5 set and all the guys were telling me to hook up with her lol. BE THE LIFE OF THE PARTY AND YOU WILL GET THE GIRL. She may be model hot, but she is still a girl. She wants someone that has value. As for getting back into the game....if you want to text her, keep it short and sweet. I personally would just try to go out with the group again.

Smash is right. Girls love guys who are sociable and knows how to handle a group. They find that type of guy cool and want to hang out or would love to have a conversation with him. You know, girls love to talk and want guys who knows to handle a good conversation.

If you think there's not much attraction built, go with other girls. Do your game with her. You might be successful this time.

Better move on dude. Or send her the pic and ask for the number of one of the other girls instead. I mean, she already went home with someone else while you were there... so just tap her network of friends instead.

Thanks for the feedback guys. Got laid last night. Completely different girl tho. I basically took some cues from Smash and became the life of the party.

Befriending the bartender = great drinks, social proof, but be careful cuz some bartenders will hit on your chicks

Interacting with multiple groups of girls and ALWAYS leaving on a high note, wether you established any connection with them or not, will get you noticed in the RIGHT way

I can't say enough good things about maintaining EYE CONTACT with the movie star look, it broke her every time!!!

After a whole night of really just enjoying myself, met a single chick near the dancefloor where I had been doing my own thing. Playful flirty dancing leading to all out (but not trashy) grinding and a few light kisses.

Took her back to my bartender who hooked the drinks up well. She then started doing A LOT of comfort building, I'm guessing as a reaction to the fast paced physical escalation, and I was basically just helping her along with feeling comfortable around me, but without completely losing the physical connection.

I then led her to my car, my apartment, my bed, then back to her place after a couple hours

To be honest I didnt see any long term potential in her so I tried to establish that it was just a one night thing, even before the sex, and she was sort of cool with it. However after the sex she tried to flip it on me and guilt trip me, but I didnt give in. As I'm dropping her at her door she's still on it and I sort of cave and gave her my number. I was just going to take her's but my phone had died.

As I'm washing my sheets I saw that she left a catholic amulet under my pillow. She was wearing it around her neck and I had asked her about it last night and she said it was important to her, so I don't think my escapades with this chick are over after all....

Hopefully, the escapades will all be fun and rewarding bro. And that you won't have to start another thread that goes, "She's totally into me, how to get out of it." Haha.

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{Hopefully, the escapades will all be fun and rewarding bro. And that you won't have to start another thread that goes, "She's totally into me, how to get out of it." Haha.}

Hahaha It's funny you say that culteredpearls. I am and have been in one of those situations for over a year now. Does anyone have any advice on how to break away from her without hurting her too bad?? She's desperatly in love and I'm not that into it. I care enough that I don't want to destroy her emotionally, but NEED to get away. And should I make a new thread for this question or continue here?

Have you talked to her about it?

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I've hinted around about a 'break' until I get my life straightened out but she doesn't respond well. So, I havn't talked about it with her hardly at all. I just went 2 weeks without seeing her (I live an hour away) but talking on the phone everyday and she just got me to committ to seeing her tomorrow. I feel bad but I know what I gotta do for me. So, to sum it up, no.

there is no right time or right way to give someone bad news. Be a man and stop dragging her along. Do her a favor and let her go from a relationship that isn't mutual. Simple as that. . . Not trying to be a prick bud jus very straightforward.

I agree. Need to just do it. If she keeps stalking you do my old favorate... Send her a dozen dead roses... Works like a charm everytime

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