First Pickup Report

Ok, I am relatively new here so bear with me. Anyway, I was handling some paperwork for school, and on my way getting onto the elevator, I saw a gorgeous girl. Normally, I'd tell myself not to approach or give myself the excuse of not approaching. At this point I didn't. I held the elevator for her, asked her if she was going to the 2nd floor, which she replied "Yes, please". I really had to run, so I didn't think to really approach in a 10 second elevator ride.

After I deal with all my paperwork, I bought myself a quick lunch and was eating right by the bus stop. She walked right past me and started to wait for the bus. At this point, I was not going to let myself not approach. I walk over to her, maintain a decent amount of distance and wave and smile. She reciprocates and says "Hello again." I walked in, shook her hand, said my name, and she reciprocated.

I figured this was going well. During our conversation she actually re-opened me. That is, she kept the conversation going without me having to think of subject matter, or forcing the matter at all. It felt like a genuine conversation. There were times where I asked open-ended questions so we could keep talking.

We got on the bus because we were headed in the same general direction, and I didn't sit right next to her. I was still talking to her and I had asked "You mind if I sit next to you?" and she was like "Sure" with an enthused inflection.

A little bit before she reached her stop(hers was before mine) I gave her my number because, well, I don't know why. This is where I believe I failed. We were discussing our common interest for bands, how she likes to go to shows for fun, how I play guitar and was in a band(which was something that really caught her attention, etc. I told her something like "Hey, since you know about shows you should hit me up and we'll go." I gave her my number and she wrote it in her phone, or so I'd hope.

As she got up, she said without me saying anything "It was a pleasure talking to you, I'll give you a call right now so you can get my number. Again, my name is (spells out her unique name letter for letter)." I told her to "Take care and have a good one." and that was it.

Now, I believe it's great that I approached a girl who I consider to be a 9 or 10 with no problem. I wasn't nervous, kept the conversation going, got her to laugh, and I approached! But I don't get brownie points for approach, so if possible, I'd like other member's suggestions on where I went wrong and what I should fix.

ok wow. i should rip you on all kinds of sh1t for this bad approach. As starting to become a PUA you need to learn how to have a tough skin and we can start that now. Ok first you messed up by not even opening when u had a chance in the elevator. I would have made a clever joke with a warm energy and not a creepy energy. Something like "oh your going to the 2nd floor, r u trying to stalk me now." laugh and smile and just say "hi my name is ___ whats is urs" and offer ur hand. this makes her laugh and also makes you memorable.

Ok i was kidding in the first sentence. but i thought it was a little funny. haha But after that, the way you described how you open was a little creepy. Coming up waving and smiling makes you seem a little creepy. I would have tried and opened either directly or opinionated about earlier to remind her and make her laugh. and then continuing onto the bus stop i would have tried something to show that im not needy or creepy. purposely sitting in a different seat to then ask to sit together was a little ridiculous. Trying something like sitting nowhere near her and then when she decides to try and reopen or tries to come over, just let her. This would give you some ioi. So then you can judge whether she is into you or not.

Next you shouldnt give a girl your number. A good way is to always ask directly, not any maybe's or perhaps cause then you seem indecisive and not alpha male. Just ask her if you can get her number and hand her your phone to put it in. and then i do this a lot, i call her phone and make a joke like "ok well ill call your phone so i dont seem like a creepy stalker and you know who your talking when i SMS you"

ok well i forgot everything i said and didnt want to relook this over. hopefully i said everything right and im just kidding we al learn from our mistakes and thats what we are here for and dont worry you did ok. just the way you were displaying yourself, you seemed to proper, too nice and you didnt seem like an alpha male.