Failed K Close

Hey, this is my first post. Last night, I hung out with this girl. We went for a walk on my campus. I took her to this secluded spot, in between evergreen trees to stargaze.

As we were walking, we just talked. Then when I saw the trees, I said "Oh, there they are!" I grabbed her hand and walked her to the trees. Then we got to the spot, and I put my arm around her. She rested her head on my shoulders. She talked about the sky or something stupid, and as soon as her voice trailed off, I turned around in front of her, pulled her in, and leaned in for the kiss.

She retracted her head, however.... and she told me that she had a guy that she was kinda with. She said that she would kiss me, but she didn't want to hurt my feelings or something. Like she didn't want me to become emotionally invested.

At the time, I was not sure if she meant that, or if she was just saying that as a veil for her real just prudeness or whatever.

Anyway, I kept thinking to myself, who cares if there's another guy? Just kiss me. But I didn't know how to convey that. And I was too nervous to try a line or something that would get that point across, because if she really just didn't want to kiss me no matter what, then she'd prob think I was a real creep for going for the kiss twice.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should have said/done? I talked to my roommate... ha he told me I should have spoken something in French to her. Then she would ask what that means and I'd say "it doesn't matter" and then kiss her. But that probably wouldn't work cuz it's super stupid. So any suggestions?

in that case i would make her look for me instead of the other way. i would say:

oooohhhh ok DONT KISS ME, if you do its certain you will not want to be with that guy anymore(trying to convey how a good kisser i am. keep in mind im translating from spanish my native tongue so it may sound fussy). make the kiss seem like its prohibited so she would want it more and more. Also these cheesy places are not the best spots to do those things, its expected that you may go for it and the bitch shields are stronger.

Yeah i have to agree. This is LMR and you can get through that but you have to show that you dont need it. And the cheesy place probly showed her that you needed it... so probly not the best move. Try a Freeze Out or another k close routeen and work back for it. I doubt she has a boyfriend, i think it was just a fabrication.

and PRJAV- nice signature

yeah just do what he said. just put something like its all good, im sure i cant have u falling for me any ways because u kissed me. Or u could go the other way and just say. "im not emotionally invested, i just really want to know what it feels like to kiss you." and then try again..say it playfully. both ways trick her into thinking u wont get emotinoally invested and just want a kiss

I think you gradually made all the right moves upon manuevering into a decent location. However you could of done the "kiss test" where you play with her hair a little, get closer then look at her lips, if she smiles thats the green light. On the flipside, I don't know how you set the frame upon meeting this girl from the first handshake (or cheek kiss) you could of been suggestive and kind of touchy feely from the first meet, so when you do make the move it's comfortable and expected. Of course, not all girls will play that route, but it's a good way to filter out early on which girls want to play and will save time.

At least you took the shot bro!

What did you guys do after her explanation, just walk separate ways?

My favorite LMR breaker is a line from the game by Neil Strauss: "you know what, maybe you shouldn't do this.. But you want to, and you need to." then kiss her.. Works for me every time.