alright, i'm new here on puaforums, i apologize for the long read, but i'm an amateur and still not sure which details matter and which don't
so about a year ago i turned 18 and graduated high school, feeling like it was time for a new chapter in my life, i went and bought the game by neil strauss, and began consuming as much pua related stuff i could find (books, vids, etc.)
a year goes by, i spend most of the time improving myself, going to the gym, working on my conversation skills, overcoming shyness, and i turn 19, and i'm tired of being AFC, i'm ready to try my luck in the field
on july second i go to a local venue, one of my good friends is playing and there's also a bikini contest being held, with free drinks and admission for any girls in bikinis
before i actually leave, i pump myself up, i read motivational quotes, review some of my lines, overall just convince myself i'm an irresistible, sexy badass, by the time i get there i feel 100% alpha
so at the bikini contest one of the girls catches my eye, there are about 12 girls in it and this one is number 3, she doesn't win, so i decide to take advantage of her low self esteem, after the contest i see her (now fully dressed) standing next to one of my friends, i go talk to him, making sure not to pay attention to her for a good 5 minutes, eventually i notice her looking at me, and i make eye contact, she quickly looks away, but i'm not letting her go that easy
"what's up number 3?" i say loudly, she looks over and, much to my suprise, says hi
"i do have a name you know"
"well what is it?"
let's just say her names sarah
we chat for a minute, and then she loudly asks me "do you like my shirt? i made it!" she stretches out her shirt for me to see
now it's important to remember that this is the first time i've ever approached a girl like this, i feel completely on top of the world, so i decide to go for broke and start running my hands up and down her torso, under the guise of "feeling her shirt" again much to my suprise she seems to enjoy it, so i move to the pants, she enjoys that even more, she then says she's afraid she smells like alcohol, at which point i seductively lean in and smell her neck, whisper in her ear "you smell good", she lets out a soft moan now at this point i feel completely invincible, having this much success on my first set ever, without a wingman or anything, just me and the girl, it was exhilarating, with my confidence higher than it's ever been in my life, i decide to go for the kiss
but then her friend runs up "OMG SARAH YOU'VE GOT TO COME SEE THIS BLAH BLAH BLAH"
she looks at me shyly, and as she walks away she runs her hand across my chest
i decide not to let this discourage me, and begin to chat to some of the other guys there, before watching my friends band play
about an hour passes and i realize that i have to work tomorrow, so on my way out i see her sitting down, she also notices me and actually gestures for me to sit next to her, i take this as an ioi, i tell her i have to leave early, but want to see her again, she says she would like to see me too and gives me her number, and actually uses my phone to call her phone so she has mine, i take this as another IOI, she gives me a hug and i leave, feeling like i just ran a perfect set, only an f close could have made it better, but for my first set EVER, Number Close was very satisfying
the next day, july 3rd, she sends me a friend request on facebook, this has to be a HUGE IOI, i also notice she has over 1,000 friends, and almost every picture on her profile has some guy commenting on it "wow, very cute!" and sh1t like that
then the fourth comes, what more perfect excuse to meet up with a girl than to celebrate our nations freedom right? i text her and ask what she's doing, she takes an average of 20 minutes to respond to each text, which worries me, but after awhile says she's going to the city park to watch the fireworks, i suggest we meet up, she enthusiastically agrees
i have a party to go to after, and plenty of alcohol, a car to drive her in, and an expensive bottle of cologne liberally applied to my body, combined with an ego the size of jupiter, i go to the park alone
ready to seal the deal, i text her to ask where she is (there's a lot of people there) she doesn't respond right away, no biggie right, well about an hour goes by and still nothing, i start to worry and call her, she doesn't answer, i'm not desperate enough to leave a message, so i leave and go to said party, hoping maybe she'll respond at some point, she never does
the next day i feel absolutely crushed, at first i'm sad, then angry, then furious
how could she just ignore me like that?
what did i do wrong?
was i just arm candy for the night? am i nothing more than just another one of her thousand friends on facebook?
my rage spirals out of control, and i decide never to talk to that bitch again, but now it's been exactly a week, and i've calmed down, i've decided to learn what i can from this set and be better prepared for the next
so puaforums.com, what did i do wrong?
how can i improve my game?
is it a lost cause, should i give up on sarah, or is there still potential?
any general PUA advice?