Dissapointing field report

This will be my second actual field report. A lot of things could have been better, I’m posting mostly because I need to post about my failures more than I do about my successes, if I discuss them openly I force myself to handle them better

I got ready with some moderate peacock, nice hoodie, some jeans I’ve bleached so they have white and blue streaks, beret, a few good rings, and my leather jacket over my hoodie (took my motorcycle out and it was somewhat cold)

I met up at a nearby bar with another local wingman I’ve been talking to on here, Chet25. I met chet for the first time as he grabbed a drink and we started to chat a bit. The first bar was dead, so we split somewhere nearby that gets busy pretty early, one of my favorite stops.

Went to the other bar, talked to half a dozen guys and 3-4 girls, this bar has ~ 50 different taps so If someone is ordering I will open by asking them what they’ve decided on or any suggestions, etc. Usually a starting place. Nothing was really setting.
Chet and I were talking and noted a 4 set that kept looking over at us and were devising a strategy to say hello (First failure, shoulda just walked over, but we didn’t we hesitated, bad) when instead a 45 year old petite Italian lady walked over (she was…. Maybe a 6) and complimented me on my style (chet and I are both 26). I laughed with her a bit, put my arm around her told her she’s our friend now. We were nice, she pretty quickly latched on to us. She asked me to buy her a drink, I refused, she eventually walked back with her own drink plus one for me, but she was a pain in the butt and we had to shake her. I started ignoring her because she was being frustrating, Chet later told me she told him she wanted to go home with him (LOL). At any rate, we got rid of her. We talked to a few girls that came up by the bar and a couple nearby guys, but nothing solid.

Chet and I decided it was time to Bounce, so we agreed to go to a few places downtown.

I arrived a bit before chet, walked in to this small bar with a bad playing, on my own I grabbed a drink and chatted up some of the guys playing pool. There were only 3 approachable girls here and all were with partners. Ok no big deal.
A few minuts later Chet messages me that he got pulled over, turns out he got a $220 ticket for window tint…. Kinda killed his evening and he decided to bail (don’t blame him)
MEANWHILE – my “ex” walked in to the bar with her new boy (I put “ex” in quotes because she was only one of 3 girls I was dating, but I still really liked her at the time).
(Background on the ex thing – this was the girl I picked up at zombicon in My first (very long) field report, with Tropics, we had a lot of fun together for a month, but she wanted a 1 on 1 commitment right away and it takes me a while to make sure I really really like someone first. So she eventually cut it off. She officially ended it, only about 2 weeks before, but she has still been messaging me with stupid stuff like “hey hope you’re doing ok” or the “happy thanksgiving” crap about every 4 days)
She’s in there, walked right behind me like has to push me aside, and found a spot at the bar. I mentioned her to the new guys I was talking to but I basically ignored her, the main guy I was talking to said she was constantly looking over at me. I got them to finish their drinks and bail with me to my favorite downtown bar with more pool tables (only a few minuts after she got there). I left without acknowledging her.

We got to my favorite bar (old faithful as tropics referred to it one, also one of the only bars that my “ex” ever saw me at). We walked in and I got a round for my new friends, and went over to find a pool table. A girl said she liked my hat as we walked over, I smiled and tipped it to her but proceeded with my friends to look for a table (unsuccessfully) (S – T – U – P – I – D, she was cute and opened me and I didn’t capitalize on it).
I told my new friend I was afraid the girl was going to show up there, saw a girl that looked similar but turned out to be a false alarm. The cupid shuffle came on, I wasn’t talking to anyone else so I went to the dance floor and pretended I didn’t know what I was doing (asking the girls to show me the steps, etc, kinda works, kept bumping into them laughing).
Song ended, my friend tells me I was right on, my ex shows up with her new boy.
Just to recap, I go to obscure bar, she shows up so 5 minuts later I leave and let her have the bar, and go to my favorite bar where she has seen me many times. 5 minuts later she shows up, at the most likely spot downtown where you would possibly find me. Hmmm?

I gave her a nice smile, said hello, and walked outside to the patio with my friends. There was a group of girls behind me (95% sure they were lesbians, which turned out true, but needed to open someone) with the, hey I need a girls opinion on something – so my ex just bla bla bla.
My friends ended up splitting randomly and suddenly, the lesbian conversation lulled, and I didn’t have any other approachable sets outside.
I split

I had some social proof talking to different people and dancing, and finding a new crew to roll with after I lost my wing (due to completely legitimate circuimstances), but ultimately I should have been in more sets, especially with more girls. There were a ton of girls I didn’t open and I could have. I looked good, they were looking at me, but I froze. I especially should have followed up with the girl who opened me on my hat (I know! Girls don’t compliment your clothing at random, its always an opener)
I got caught up and frustrated with my ex following me. I really think I should have amoged the poor guy (no ill will towards her new boyfriend, good for them that they want a nice one on one relationship today but leave my bar alone), next time ima go introduce myself, hug her, shake his hand, and become his best friend.

Overall, this whole night should have went a lot better. I’m disappointed in myself, mostly because I know what I need to do and I knew what I was doing wrong at the time but I didn’t fix it (namely, open open open)
Oh well, next report will be better

PS Chet25 – you have a simple calm style to you I can totally vibe with, can’t wait to game with you again I think we can work well together

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Nice report, Baron. I'm wondering, since your outfit worked so well for you, if you have any pictures of peacocking outfits you wear.

And people disturbing are annoying, really. Last time I was talking to two swedish girls and this spanish guy who doesn't know English joined us, only to play the clown and hang around us all the time. I feel like an ass if I tell someone to leave if he's not explicitly annoying (like calling me names or something) so I didn't. Kinda messed it up.

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give me a few minuts, i'll see if i can post a new thread with some pictures and i'll link it here for ya

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I Give up. I took some shots and began to describe it (alot of my Peacock i've made myself, adding feathers to my sandals and made my neclaces and jeans), but after 15 minuts of reformating the pictures it still wont let me upload em. Its just not working

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OK I created a flickr account to post them and i'll link it here
Peacock - a set on Flickr

read the tags on the photos, I describe it all there

note, this was after i already re-sized everything to <20KB, which the site still wouldn't accept, so the quality is pretty weak, but I think you get the idea.

In the future i'll just put a new album up there full quality, if I put pics again

Review them and post any comments on this thread since I wont be logging back in to the flickr any time soon

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Getting a ticket sucked and having to say the alphabet backwards to prove I wasn't drunk was such a buzz kill. Tint came on the car when I bought it from Nissan, so maybe I can fight it and win.

We did screw up not approaching the 4 set with using the opinion on how clingy the old Italian chick was as social proof. But also dhv that we can reject women.

I did open a 2 set of ladies next to me from England, 6's around mid 30's. Asked them if they were Twain. Then told one of them their noise wiggled when she laughed. Then got a high 5 from the other when I mentioned I played golf at St. Andrews. But got blown up when they realized the place only sold beer.

I opened a server who I think works for another restaurant who brings food to the bar we were at since it only sells beers. neg'd her about being in a ref outfit. Got an ioi when she turned around as she was walking to her restaurant, but she was in front of us by a distance and I was unprepared to close as I am working on my game.

Very interesting outfit. The stuff you made yourself (bleaching the pants, feather on the sandal) looks really original. The ring isn't really my style but it seems to work for you. Overall, it looks good and distinguishing, but not so much that you alienate yourself.

I just Peacock slightly. For example, I have a bracelet that's silver-black and is really shiny. It catches the eye and I get compliments on it. I'm still looking for a matching ring and necklace. My coat is shiny as well. Like one of those thin garbage bags that reflect the light a bit. It's one of those stuffed "tough guys" coats. So I don't really stand out as in a crazy new style, but I think I do catch the eye when its done.


EDIT: Maybe it's a good idea to start an official peacocking outfits thread with pics.

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'I am now at a point I never thought I would reach, and there are still points I can't imagine being at yet, but I'll slowly break down the barriers one by one and keep reaching every next goal.'

The coat, maybe, but just a bracelet and necklace aren't really peacocking, most people do that anyway
You gotta start going out of your Comfort zone. I just started with a few extra necklaces and bracelets, instead of the one try wearing like 3 matching bracelets. I eventually added more. Usually I go out with 5 rings on in total but actually I left a few at thanksgiving

Peacock is meant to make you stand out, when you walk in people should notice you, you gotta wear stuff other people wouldn't
I buy girls rings,, will wear one red and one black sandal, etc

Yes you need to be comfortable in it, but you also got to expand and push your own limits

Also - I couldn't get pictures posted to the thread itself or I would have started a new one

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I liked how you were able to handle the sh1t test one girl gave Baron last night about his outfit.

That girl had me laughing my ass off. She split before I had a decent chance to give it back
She's the only one Im disappointed in losing, I know I coulda number closed if I played that one better, she was cool

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